(Closed) Anyone WAITING before they have children?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 46
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Sugar bee

Were waiting 1.5-2 years after being married to start trying (1.5 if I get my way!)  We want to enjoy being married and we also need to be more financially stable before we can have kids!

Post # 47
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1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Oakland Manor

waiting at least 3-5 years. fo sho. babies scare me. Well, babies under 6 months, I like other people’s babies in general. It’s a shame you have to go through the pregnancy, birth and newborns to get to the 6 month + stage. le sigh

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’ll be waiting :o)

We’ve been together for seven years before we get married.  But that whole time, we’ve been living paycheck to paycheck, working our butts off, going to school, etc.  We’ll be done with graduate school next December, some financial stuff is going to come through for both of us and I just want to RELAX with my husband.  No more night school, no more PB&J for dinner, no more 14 hour days.

Also, we want to do some traveling and possibly run the 2011 NYC marathon.

We’ll probably start considering kids around 2012.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We just got married about 2 months ago. We plan to start trying in a year or two. The reason is we both want to have our first child before we are 30. I want to take a few vacations before then! The last vacation I will get off the pill ; ).

Post # 50
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588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

We’re waiting at least 2 years, probably longer.

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We decided to wait about 2 years after wedding before trying to have kids also.  We want to have “us” time first.  I want to give my future hubby undivided attention first before the hullabaloos involved with kids. We both love to travel a lot so maybe we’ll do more of that first before having kids.

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In an ideal world I would like to wait a while to try and have children.  However, I will be just turning 29 when I get married, and I’m worried if I wait much longer I will have a hard time getting pregnant.  I think we will probably start casually trying within the first 6 months of marriage (i.e. don’t use any protection and if it happens, it happens) and see how that goes.  If it doesn’t work after a while then we might really start making a serious effort.

Also, we already live together and have been living together for over 3 years now.  So in a sense I already feel like I get that married alone time with my Fiance.

Oh the wonders of being a female and the good ol’ biological clock. 

Post # 53
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The hubs and I got married just a few months ago. We’re 26 and 27, been together five years, living together four of those years. Aaaand, we’re nowhere near ready for kids. We both want them, but we plan on being older parents. We’ll probably start trying when we’re in the 35-37-years-old range. Growing up, neither of us was able to travel a lot, and it’s important that we do some exploring together over the next few years. Also, we sometimes think we rushed into getting three pets so quickly (haha) so we want to take our time with the kiddies.

Post # 54
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483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We just got married a month and a half ago and we are waiting for awhile!  Awhile meaning at least 3 years-probably 6-8 🙂  

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We will probably wait 5-7 years before we have kids.  We want to enjoy spending time with just each other for a while, and since we live in an expensive city, we would like to move to the ‘burbs when kids come into the picture, but we like living in the city now.  Also, I want to enjoy my 20’s and spend my 30’s and 40’s raising kids!

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I know! It seems like SO many people are getting pregnant w/in their 1st year married.

Not us….we are waiting. I would like to start trying now…but we are not financially secure enough. Waiting 2 years until I finish my degree.

It’s nice to know that we are not the only ones waiting. Sometimes it feels like that 😉

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My father once told me one of the best pieces of relationship advice he could give me is “be married for at least 5 years before you have children. Travel, spend time together, etc”. This coming from a man who had 3 kids in 4 years as soon as he married my mom. LOL  

I think a lot of people are waiting until they’re older to get married & that could be a factor. For us, 5 years isn’t an option. I will be 32 when we get married and there are a number of hereditary issues that run in my family (down syndrome, spina bifida, diabetes, severe learning disabilities, etc). The odds of complications are greater when the mother is older, so I don’t want to take any chances.

That said, I would like to have 1-2 years after we’re married before we try having children. We also just don’t have the room for a baby or the money to get a new place in the next 2 years.

Post # 58
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We would probably wait about 2 years just to be able to enjoy being married and each other, but I already have a 2 year old, so we want our kids a little closer in age. The plan right now is to wait a year!

Post # 59
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440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

WAITING!!! I am in no rush at all to have kids. I cannot wait to be married but I don’t want to start a family anytime within the next decade. I will be that woman that her kid has to take me out of the nursing home to go to their high school graduation!

Post # 60
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it really depends where you are in your life and how long you have been together!

When we were younger we always said we would wait a couple years to have kids because we wanted time just for “us”. Well it turns out we waited quite a while until we were ready (financially) to get married. 

We have been together for 6 years living together for 4 years – we have had quite a lot of “us” time and we are ready for a baby. At least once a week one of us says “Let’s have a baby!” But we both know we are waiting until after the wedding but we hope to start trying right afterwards!

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