(Closed) Anyone WAITING before they have children?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 61
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468 posts
Helper bee

We are definetely waiting. I’ll still need to complete my dissertation before I officially have my PhD. The I’ll need to spend some time getting work and building a career. The Mr and I have talked about this and we’re thinking maybe like 3-5 years. So I’ll be 31 to 35. 

Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We are pretty much like Honeybun- we’ve been together for close to 7 years at the time of the wedding.  And we are just excited and ready! 

We are ready to get the kid thing started shortly after the wedding- as soon as I get that insurance card in my hand, I’ll be stopping the pill so that a couple of months later we can start trying.   We have already traveled extensively together, bought the house and have careers where we want them, so its just the next step for us. 

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We’ll be waiting probably for 2 years. We want to have some “us” time, but can’t have too much because we want to be done having kids before he’s 40, and he’ll be turning 35 this year…

Post # 64
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Osakagirl, I’m 38… for us it was now or never.  We would have loved the luxury of a year or so to enjoy with just the two of us… but we’ve been together for a long time and have known each other even longer, so we just went for it.  It was either that or potentially no bio kids at all.

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We will probably wait about 4 years after we get married.  We need time to get debt paid off, buy a bigger house, save $$ and I want to be finished with grad school.   We also want time to just be together by ourselves 🙂

Post # 66
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think it depends on what stage you are in life, younger or older. I’m going to be 33 when I get married, and we decided to wait at least 1 yr. I’ve been with my fiancee for 4 years, and lived together for 3. We both have great jobs, a nice house, and plenty of vaca’s alone in the past. So we are ready!!  Have one a kid when you both are ready.

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My hubby and I are both 38 and don’t really have the luxury of waiting, however neither one of us is eager to be parents either so needless to say we have some decisions to make.  I know we’ll definitely not be getting pregnant within the next year.

I’m going to be one of those 50 year old new mom’s you hear about on the news!!!

Post # 68
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Fiance will be 31 when we get married and I’ll be 26.  We “have time” and do want to wait about 1.5 years before TTC… but… whatever happens we’re happy with.  🙂

Post # 69
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ill be 26 when we get married & he’ll be 25. We are planning on waiting for a while and I’d like to have kids at 28, maybe 29. We want to have all of our kids by our early 30’s. So many plans, huh. That being said if we get pregnant on the honeymoon, I’d be thrilled. I’d told the Fiance we need to take at least 1 more great vacation first.

Side Note: THe NFP book I’ve been reading says we shouldn’t wait more than 3 months to get pregnant. Not sure how I feel about that.

Post # 70
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522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If we try, we’ll start trying around age 35 (we’re 27 now).

Post # 71
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ll be 22 when we get married and will just have finished my BA. I don’t want to have kids for alteast 5 years after that, the boy doesn’t want to wait much longer than that time frame since he’ll be about 30. We are so not ready right now. We both want to go to grad school, after which we need to gain some financial stability. We are okay the two of us…but we could so not afford kids right now. Plus I really want to have some just us grown up time.

Post # 72
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

MinMan and I are doing things old school: relatively short courtship, marriage, move in together, spend a few years on our own, get my career in order, THEN have babies. All the same, I don’t plan on waiting that long for the first child, maybe three to five years. But it’s definitely not happening right after the wedding. Mama didn’t raise no fool…I don’t want that much upheaval in my life after getting married!

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We used to talk about having a 5-year gap between marriage and kids. Then we dialed it back to 5 years of engagement/living together/marriage, which would be about 3.5 years after marriage. Now we’re talking about waiting 1-2 years. My fiance really has baby fever, but it will probably depend on my career (I’m working on a phd and the timing of entering the job market will be tricky).

Post # 74
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Busy bee

I can see us waiting awhile, till we get our acts in gear- but its tricky because I would like my mom to help us raise our kids, but she’s already 63- so I don’t have a lot of time to splurge- and my kids in their 20’s taking care of their unhealthy, elderly parents like I’m doing now. I’m not bitter, but I don’t want my kids to have to do it!

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

Mr. Mary Jane and I are both in school. I hope to be done in about 18 months, and he has a few years left. We also want that ‘couple time’ together, but we don’t get it now while we’re in school either. (8-5 work + classes + homework = no free time). So that means anywhere from 2-5 years until kids for us. We’re 26 now.

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