Anyone waiting due to college?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Kentwood, MI

I don’t have four years, but most likely in June. I’m supposed to graduate in June, but part of me still wants it too be for my birthday in April. πŸ™‚

Post # 3
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Busy bee

We got engaged while he was in undergrad.  We both worked a lot, and we didn’t have expensive taste in my engagement ring or his engagement watch.  We were married while I was in grad school.  We would have had a smaller, more casual wedding (like a courthouse + going out to eat at a restuarant with immediate family) but my parents contributed money, so we had a small wedding at a church with a reception at a venue.  What makes you want to wait to be married until after you’re both graduated?  Congrats on finding each other as well as careers you love πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

we dated for 7 years before getting married. (4 of which were long distance, i moved away from him for grad school). i think we both kind of knew after 2 years that we’d get married eventually. we were waiting for me to finish grad school (met in undergrad, 3 years of undergrad + 4 years grad school)

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

We are waiting to get married until June because FH doesn’t graduate until May. We knew one of us needed a degree and steady income before we got married. Luckily he will have both come May 3rd, so the wedding can happen as soon as possible! This definitely isn’t unheard of though. I would think it would be a majority actually. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

SO and I are both in med school. He has one more year, I have 3. So, our current plan, he graduates, proposes, we get engaged for 2 years then marry when I graduate.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We waited 8 years to get married (got engaged at 7). Finishing school was a big part of that. Zero regrets, the wait was 100% worth it!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We were together for 5 years, looked at rings and were ready to get engaged. But then I was accepted to med school so we put our plans on hold and married 5 years later when I was finished and working for a year. Time flew by honestly. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We met freshman year of college but wanted to wait until Darling Husband got his PhD and I got my JD to get engaged πŸ™‚ I didn’t think of myself as “waiting” all that time though because it was a plan we’d both been 100% on board with since our college days and I knew it was just a matter of time — I think because of that, all those years went by in the blink of an eye. Hopefully the same goes for you, OP!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

wowkatt :  We were in a similar situation.  We met our freshman year of college and both went to graduate school.  We got engaged after I finished my JD (his program was shorter) at 26 after nearly 8 years of dating and had a 1.5 year engagement.  Finishing school first was really important to us both and we have no regrets πŸ™‚

I agree with TheGridMonster : that I didn’t feel like I was waiting because we had both decided early on that this was our plan and I was busy getting through school and enjoying our relationship. Time really does fly!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Banquet hall

We dated in high school and had to wait through community college and undergrad.  We went to the same colleges and looking back on it, we should have gotten married after community college. We would have saved $10k+ between combined housing expenses and increased financial aid. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Kind of, but don’t have to wait as long as you. I graduate grad school the second week of May and I get married the 3rd week of May. By the time of our wedding Fiance will have graduated two years eariler – we were just waiting for me to graduate. My parents one request was that I be finished with school before marriage, so I agreed and am getting married the weekend after I’ve finished school πŸ˜‰ 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Not so much. We started dating in high school, so we both had a few years of college before deciding to become engaged, not so much because of school, but because we needed to date a few years before being sure. 

So now we are engaged while in college, and are planning to have our wedding after we both graduate. We may get legally married beforehand to get better financial aid, putting us in a better position when we graduate. 

To answer your question: no, we are not waiting because of college. 

Thatbeing said, I can understand why it would be an important milestone for some to hit before feeling ready for marriage. You do whatever is right for your relationship!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Kind of. We got engaged last January and are waiting until Sept 2018 to get married. Probably would have pushed for Sept 2017 but I am in grad school (I graduate this weekend) so I wanted to push it off. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Waiting for marriage because I’m still in college, but engagement will be happening soon πŸ˜€

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