(Closed) Anyone waiting on a proposal while having a set wedding date??

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was in this situation A LONG TIME before we got engaged. It was weird… but it is all working out. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was – we knew winter of 2010 that we wanted to get married Summer 2011 but didn’t have the money for an Engagement Ring.  We decided to use my great grand mother’s e-ring and brought it to be sized.  In the meantime, I knew we were moving across the country in June 2010 and the wedding would be in New Husband – plus I wanted my Mom to be part of the planning – so we started planning and chose a venue before I got my ring.  I finally got it (after he held on “waiting for the right moment” for 3 months) in May 2011 and I had only a month to plan with my mom – got the dress, flowers, colors, etc!  Now I am going back next week to finalize everything EEK!  It will all work out :o)  It’s about your love not the ring!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am in this exact same situation! We have officially set the date for May 19. 2012 but I still don’t have a ring. We have chosen the venue (They have our date open Yay!), are meeting a potential priest this week, have chosen colors, centerpieces and flowers, I have tried on wedding dresses and we have begun planning our 3 week European Honeymoon. I believe an engagement is a commintment to spend the rest of your life with another person but having said that … I do feel really weird doing all this planning when I don’t think we will be oficially engaged until I have a ring. My SO says I will get it before May so lets see what happens, our 3 1/2 yrs anniversary is next week !

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

One of my super close friends is in that situation. They went back and forth and her boyfriend kept letting her down, she even ended up having their soon and they weren’t engaged. Finally she put her foot down and they are planning for May 2011. She has dress, flowers, invites, etc. He still hasn’t “officially” proposed and she doesn’t have a ring, but they are in fact engaged πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was in this situation. And we got married before he proposed with the ring.

Actually, he gave me the ring before he proposed, even.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am currently in this situation.  I do not have a ring right now. We talked for a while about getting married in September or October 2011.  As the end of February (6 months from our potential wedding month) was approaching, I pressed him to see if I could start planning.  He agreed I should start looking at venues.  We signed a contract two days ago for September 3, 2011!!!  I am very excited but also it feels weird that we can’t share our news with everyone. I have told my closest girl friends and immediate family so they don’t make other plans for the holiday weekend.  I hope I still feel excited when I get the ring!  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am absolutely in this situation. It does feel funny. People will say congratulations, and I just say thank you, but inside I feel so silly. We have our venues picked, our colors, and ideas about every detail. I’m trying to wait until he gives me the ring to finalize most things, but i just want to start shopping!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My boyfriend and I have been living with each other for a year and were friends for two years before that. We knew we would like to get married but knew we both were not ready yet. We recently talked about it again and both are very ready and excited to get married but very broke.

I talked to my mom (who is excited-like-a-kid- in-a-candy-store about it). I told her, very dismally, how can we get married? We don’t even have money for rings right now. Her reply “You know, you don’t HAVE to have a ring.” Of course, my boyfriend is working on getting one and has asked me what I like and I know he is eager to officially propose.

I will be the first to admit that I like expensive things and usually very good at spending money. The current no-ring situation is a constant reminder to me that it is not about a sparkly ring, or fancy dress (and not saying anyone else on this board does either!). But for myself, who is easily caught up in all the other “stuff”, it gets me back to the basics. Our marriage is about US loving each other and how strong we are together. If that makes any sense πŸ™‚

By The Way, we have a date for August 20, 2011.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

I am in this situation.  I kno he has the ring and i waiting for a special day with a special plan for his proposal…. but in the meanwhile – I have ordered a dress, picked bridesmaids dresses, booked a venue and set a date πŸ™‚

He better hurry up cause our wedding is October 8, 2011 πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Newbee

We are kind of in this same situation!! He bought us a house last year and we are also have a set destination wedding date of October 2012 (we wanted September but he couldn’t get 3 weeks off then). He hinted that a proposal is probably going to happen in December and we have been ring shopping too!! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have a wedding date booked and photographer  and florist  etc,   and i DID have a ring,  but because it kept losing diamonds, i returned it to the shop and as they were quite rude,  rather than order another ring from them my FI  got a refund and we decided to start the search again…….so its like back to square one.

but that was over a month ago and he hasnt mentioned it since!    so i DID have a ring and now i dont.  i have looked at rings and ring sets and have a pretty good idea of what i will go for,  and i mentioned this to him but as yet…….we havent really had the opportunity to go get one. 

i am a wedding photographer so last Saturday when we COULD have gone ring shopping, i was photographing a wedding,  and yesterday (Sat)  he was in bed all day recovering from a week of working night shifts. but there have been other days we could have gone i think.

If he would just SAY….’when are we going ring shopping’?   i would feel better about waiting,  but it just seems like he has either forgotten or put it to the back of his mind….(a very dark place).  πŸ™ 

i know its shallow,  but i dont feel ‘engaged’  if i dont have a ring.  its not the material thing,  its thinking that he doesnt care enough to replace the ring we returned.

i dont feel like wedding planning now because i just dont feel its official.  i KNOW we are getting married and we ARE engaged,  but this little thing is bugging me,  why he hasnt brought it up in over a month!  

If that was the other way around i would be hounding him to choose another ring and dragging him to the jewellers to get a replacement.  i have mentioned it to him,  and dont feel like i can mention it again without sounding like a whining child. 

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