Post # 17
@hassle_J: Thank you so much! We had gone to one doctor who was sweet and he told us not to force before we were ready. Unfortunately he left our plan! We then went to his associate and he was the one who made the no spring chicken comment and that got me very upset, but I didn’t want to get into all of the personal difficulties we were having with him.
So true, I didn’t meet anyone whose babies I would even remotely consider carrying in my very unfortunate 20’s!
My DH would agree with you 100%. I personally also lean toward that viewpoint, but I realize my mind may change as time goes on.
Post # 18
My mom was 39 with me, my best friend 41.:)
Post # 19
I reccommend this article — the research on female fertility isn’t all it’s cracked up to be:
I’ve got anecdotal evidence too: my boss had a baby last year at 40!
Post # 20
I know of quite a few women who had babies in their 40s or late 30s. Both of my grandmas fall into this category. Many of these were accidental pregnancies, too (they were Catholic women 😉
Post # 21
My grandmother had my father at 43. They weren’t even trying, he was a surprise.
Post # 22
@Olympia: Thank you for this link!!
Post # 23
My mom had my youngest sister at 44.
Post # 24
One of my closest friends had her twins at 44 (after a few rounds of fertility treatments). My co-worker (who also has PCOS) had her two kids at 35 and 38, respectively, via IVF. Another co-worker had her youngest (surprise baby) at 35. But every couple is different. Sometime it works out naturally; sometimes it takes medical intervention. Either way, I wish you the best.
Post # 25
One of DH’s aunts had her three babies at 38, 40, and 42! No interventions.
Post # 26
didn’t halle berry just have another baby? she is 46 or something.
Post # 27
a good friend of mine had her first and only child at age 41.
Post # 28
My friend’s sister conceived at 40 on her first cycle trying.
Post # 29
@mimi123: The thing to keep in mind is that many stories you hear about woman having kids after 40 have already had kids. It’s much harder to have your first kid later in life. It’s like your body says “You havent needed this stuff so far, so I’ll start shutting it down”. It can happen, but it’s much, much, much harder. I cant even begin to tell you how hard. If you are still regular and have normal AF, then that is a good sign.
But if you are starting to have irregular AF, light or heavy AF, that is a sign your body is starting to go out of whack. I should know. I started having really heavy AF in my mid-late 30’s. I had an mirena IUD put in for the last couple of years of my 30’s, so it was controled. But at 40, we started trying. It’s been a long, painful, expensive 3 years. I’ve had 5 IUI’s, 2 IVF, 1 natural BFP and [email protected] I cant tell you how much I’ve spent on acupucture, herbs, supplements, yoga, etc. And still nothing.
We are now in debt and I’m unemployed, so it’s going to take us awhile to save for egg donation.
I know it’s not a great idea to TTC when your DH is unemployed, but if you have PCOS, I would look into trying to regulate yourself, but use condoms for BC. Get on metaformin, lose weight, eat healthy (gluten and dairy free) read TCOYF, Infertiltity Cure and Baby Making. Follow all their suggestions now. Then when you are ready, you will be in a much better place physically.
Good Luck and Baby Dust!
Post # 30
My mom concieved at 38 (I know not 40 but close..) and my little sister is PRECIOUS and has absoloutely no health issues.
Post # 31
Not me personally, but one of my best friends was 39 when she got married, and got pregnant naturally 2 months later. She had a very uncomplicated pregnancy and now has an adorable baby girl!