(Closed) Anyone who has their child in their mid to late 30'?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got married at 38. had DD at 39. I’m now 41 and just over 20 weeks pregnant with my second child. 

So yes, it’s totally possible. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t increases risks. I have had 2 miscarriages – one before DD and one between DD and this pregnancy. I had high blood pressure during my pregnancy with DD – no serious complications but I was closely monitored and they were going to induce me at 38 weeks, but DD decided to come on her own at 36+4. She was fine though, no NICU stay or anything. 

Unfortunatley, there’s no way to know if you’ll have issues or complications until you get pregnant. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had my 2nd daughter at 34- on the first try, no issues. Ill be 39 next week and it has been proving a little harder to get pregnant with our 3rd. I had one miscarriage last summer, and no luck since then. Not sure if it’s due to my age or some other factor. We are getting to the point where we might just call it quits on trying. I have 2 beautiful girls and am very blessed either way.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I had my baby just before my 36th birthday.  Easy pregnancy, and wonderful healthy baby!  We are getting married this summer and after that, I may have another one – we’ll see!

Stress will work against you more than age so just relax!  You still have time!  As a side note, my grandmother had my mom at age 40 and that was back before there was the kind of great prenatal care like we have today 🙂  I recomment you start taking prenatal pills now though – just in case.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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gpiglet:  I got pregnant at 38 on my second cycle trying.  The only complication I had is not passing the initial glucose screening test for gestational diabetes.  (I ended up passing the three hour challenge with flying colors.  But I wouldn’t wish that hellish test on my worst enemy.)

There are actually some advantages to being pregnant and over 35.  Insurance covers a lot more.  All genetic testing was covered, etc.  Plus, I got more ultrasounds covered.

Every single pregnancy, even in the same woman,  is completely different.  You simply cannot tell what will happen with yours.  

For what it’s worth, my OB told me that the real issues don’t start until 40ish and even then many women go on to have completely healthy pregnancies and children.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i did have to go through infertility treatment, but not due to age.  i am expecting my first in april.  i will be 35 in august.  baby is healthy, and i am not considered high risk, even though ivf and almost 35.

 

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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gpiglet:  I feel ya!  I am also turning 35 this year, and Fiance and I agreed to start trying in september.  I went through the exact thought process, with regards to age having kids, etc.  I went to an info session about a year ago to learn more about risks, hear real stories, etc.  After that I shared the info with my Fiance and it really made him think more about the process of getting pregnant.  I think he thought – ok, we have lots of sex and then get pregnant.  He wasn’t thinking of miscarriages, genetics, high risk, etc.  It didn’t change our timineline, but it did give him a more clear view of my concerns, and why it would stress me out.

What calmed me down was simply learning more about my body, and being able to recognize things that may be issues (ahem, thryoid).  I also started charting to understand my cycle better (and cause I love any type of data).  This way, I hope to recognize any red flags well in advance.  That has made me feel a lot more in control, and much less stressed!  Especially since for the past three months of charting, things look pretty much textbook.  This gave me a huge sense of relief, because I have simply been expecting the worst. 

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

My doctor told me I could start TTC at 36 and be fine/safe/etc. She said after 37 is actually much “worse” for lack of a better word than after 35. She also told me to give TTC a full year before worrying too much about it working or not working, it takes time. You should talk to your doc becuase you’ll get a million different ‘opininons’ here on the bee and 99% of us are not doctors, just think we know it all 😉 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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gpiglet:  I would just look into it and decide if it’s for you.  I used to work in analytics, and so charting and interpretting the graphs is very comfortable for me, however I think once I actually start to TTC I can see how the nerves would set in!  It would be like a countdown!

Now I’m using them to understand when / if I’m ovulating, and also seeing how long my luteal phase is. Should any red flags start to appear (no temp shift, short luteal phase), then I will know before TTC and can talk to my doc beforehand.  

I would look into fertily friend, and see if it is something that would make you nervous or stressed or not.  Everyone is different, and for me having the numbers and simply learning about the interactions and details set me more at ease.  At the same time, I can see how it can be overwhelming with so much data and information to read into.  To each their own!

 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by Kannon.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I had my first baby last year at age 37, I got married in April 2014, got pregnant May 2014 and miscarried then got pregnant again in August and now have a healthy 10 month old girl. I did have a high risk pregnancy though due to high blood pressure and preeclampsia and spent the last trimester in hospital. Baby was induced at 35 weeks and spent two weeks in NICU. 

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