Post # 1
My grandma died three years ago from a combination of illnesses related to her smoking for over 40 years. She was only 63. My whole family took it really hard and many fell into depression over her death.
It’s honestly harder for me now that it was back then. I know she would have loved, more than anything, to see me get married. She would have loved every second, helping and supporting me. She wasn’t here for my sister’s wedding either. I miss her so much.
I’m going to do a memorial candle for her at the ceremony, and then at the reception I’m including a wedding and family related crossword puzzle at each guests’ place setting in her honor, because she loved crosswords so much. I know it will be so special.
I hope she gets to watch my wedding from Heaven.
Post # 10
Both of my grandmothers have passed so I will be putting a small picture of them in a locket and attaching it to the part of my bouquet i will be holding. I think it’s great to remember family members that have passed at a wedding!
Post # 11
i TOTALLY feel you. my paternal grandmother passed on when I was 13 – and my maternal grandmother 6 years ago…while we’re not doing any “rememberance candles” or anything – i am going to do my hardest to figure out a way to place THEIR wedding pictures in MY wedding…
it is hard – but just remember how proud she would be / is of you and that she IS watching over you all the time.
Post # 12
My grandma died almost 6 years ago. She was at my cousin’s wedding so I just know she would have loved to have been at mine! I miss her tons!!!
Post # 13
My father died two years ago from lung cancer, even though he quit smoking over 18 years prior. I am having a really hard time dealing with the fact that he won’t be able to walk me down the aisle, or share the father-daughter dance. I had the song we would dance to picked out for some time :*(
Just last night I sat on a park bench looking at a magnolia in bloom (his favorite tree) and started to cry.
I will have a tiny memorial photo frame tied to my bouquet so that he can be with me as I walk down the aisle.
Post # 14
Oh I did the bouquet frame thing too, I really liked it and felt like it was a personal touch. That might be a great idea for you!
Post # 15
I love the photo idea, I’ve heard of many brides doing that, and it’s very special.
I’m having a VERY small bouquet though, only 3-5 calla lilies so it wouldn’t work well with my bouquet, but I think it’s beautiful..
Post # 16
I know I really love that picture idea it a great way to have a love one that pass on to have them in away there. it very sweet
Post # 17
Love the idea of the crossword puzzle — I bet she’d love it too and she’ll be smiling, I am positive she’ll be watching you on your special day from her place in Heaven.
My granny past away 4,5 years ago and ever since I met my Fiance I have been sad she and him never have been able to meet. I miss her terribly and it makes me really sad that she can’t be part of my wedding. Am thinking of ideas how to include her, as well as my aunt who was killed in a car accident 5 years ago — in a way that doesn’t make me too sad on my wedding day. I love the photo frame idea but my bouquet will be a small one and two photo frames on one bouquet seems a bit to much heh. Tho I really like the locketidea of hoopitup4e, am goingto keep that in mind!
Post # 18
My dad passed away 3 years before my wedding. In memory of him, there was a note in the programa and a memorial candle with his photo next to it. In honor of the marriage he and my mom had, I tied their wedding rings to be bouquet as my something old and something borrowed. My mom was there, but it felt special carrying a symbol of their wedding with me.
Post # 19
I am feeling the loss of family. My middle brother died last november, my oldest little brother wont be able to make it to Vegas- due to last stages of brain cancer, my granny is 95 now and she cant hop a plane. Its been tough thinking about the people who wont be there. I really have to focus on the ones that will be there. All 15 of theml) and make it a glorious celebration
Post # 20
My dad died 7 years ago from leukemia and the wedding has been the hardest thing to deal with. I’ll be wearing his wedding band sewn into my dress as my something old and doing a memorial note in the program.
Post # 21
It’s hard to think about people not being able to come for these reasons 🙁
For me, it’s only two. My grandparents on my mothers side of the family. It’s breaking my heart really. My grandfather passed away two years ago from cancer. He was the best person ever, and we were really close. I know he would’ve been so proud of me, and I hate that he didn’t live to have the chance to see me get married. My grandmother is still alive, but sadly her health isn’t good enough for her to come all the way over here (it’s about an hours distance).
I just wish they could be there. I’m sure my wedding day will be great anyway, but having them there would make it a whole lot better.
Post # 22
I am truly sorry for your loss. Your story brought tears to my eyes. I think the fact that you will be honoring her in such a way is so beautiful and I am convinced she will be joining in the party from up above. 🙂
Post # 23
I am so sorry everyone for those who cannot be at your weddings… I can relate. My parents were not going to be able to fly up for my wedding due to my mother’s poor health issues as she had Alzheimer’s. Two days before I was married she went into a coma. I was an emotional mess but my now husband’s reassuring presence reinforced my decision to spend the rest of my life with him.
After the ceremony, an enormous rainbow appeared in the sky- it was breathtaking!
My mother passed away two weeks later, two days after they celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary… We are convinced that she sent the rainbow since she couldn’t be there with me and it brings me comfort whenever I look at the photos from that day just last month…