- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I guess an easy way to give an idea of the kind of person I am is this: even though I had the option of having a sweet 16 when I was younger, I declined and just wanted a day out in the city with my 5 closest friends. We had a nice lunch, saw a show, went to the wax museum, did window shopping, and had dinner…
Now I’m getting married and I told everyone I wanted to be very hands on. I didn’t want to hire a planner because I figured that part of the budget could go somewhere else, I suppose I haven’t involved my parents all that much, and I’m starting to regret it a little bit. I was afraid of them planning something that wouldn’t be me, and the thought of that stressed me out. But the ironic thing is that all this planning and finding vendors and figuring out other things (rentals, obtaining a liquor license) and DIY stuff that I’ve given myself to do has been overwhelming at times. I’ve actually managed to probably make myself more stressed out than I needed to be. It’s also made me obsess over the smallest details that no one’s even probably going to remember after the day is over and done with.
My mom is actually the president of her church group, and my dad’s job involves him working really closely with owners of restaurants and he has a good relationship with a few of them. I’m finding myself wondering why the hell I didn’t try to involve them more, though my dad has always given me space and probably just assumed that I didn’t want his help unless I specifically asked him for it. They definitely have planning experience, my mom saw that I was doing the invitations myself and offered to buy some for me online and I declined. I’m so goshdarn stubborn.
The other day my mom was on the phone and told me the place she booked for my bridal shower. She was telling me how cheap it was to rent the room and “did you know they do weddings.” I was thinking wow, I could have just done something like that for the actual wedding and I wouldn’t have had to worry about getting a liquor license myself, finding someone to do decorations, finding a bartender, and all that non-fun stuff. Palmface.