Anyone get weird reactions to your ring?

posted 6 months ago in Rings
Post # 31
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

A woman asked to see my ring, I held my hand up for her, she looked said, “Oh God,” and walked away! It’s not small. I chose to take it as a compliment. It’s mine and I love it.

Post # 32
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Your ring is so beautiful! ๐Ÿ™‚

People can be so rude sometimes. When I first got engaged I had a coworker say “Oh my god it’s so small!” *Calls over other random coworker* “Look how small it is!” 

I was so shocked, for some that would’ve been SO offensive/upsetting. Luckily I specifically wanted a dainty ring regardless of what we could afford (which wouldn’t have been much larger haha), so it didn’t bother me, I just laughed it off!

As long as you love your ring that’s all that matters ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 34
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Busy bee

I guess it just comes down to the old, you’ll never please everyone. But, we all know pleasing others is NOT what matters when it comes to OUR rings! Yours is stunning and on top of that looks so lovely on your hand. The use of the term, “costume jewelry”, IMO, is so unintelligent. Since when are people not allowed to have an eye-catching setting for their engagement ring? I smell jealousy ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

If anyone tried to poo poo on my ring I’d take my hand away and say, “wow that was really hurtful.”

TBH it wouldn’t hurt me at all but saying something like that puts the commenter in an awkward position and if they have any sort of heart they’d feel bad. I’d bet they’ll never make a comment like that again. 

Post # 36
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894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I think it’s difficult to shut down feeling crappy about other people’s neutral or negative opinions if you’re getting joy from positive ones. 

Try to stop taking the compliments to heart. It will be hard to convince yourself that people who don’t like your ring are reacting from status anxiety while the people who compliment you are just celebrating your good taste/ happiness.

Either people’s opinions of your ring matter, or they don’t. I vote that they shouldn’t matter at all. Your hands, your money, your groom. 

 

 

Post # 37
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64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Huntsville, AL

My ring is really traditional – but people often make weird remarks about how they thought it’d be bigger (it’s 0.6) because my fiance makes a decent amount of money. Although he does – after looking for a long time we opted to go with his mother’s ring because 1) she kept insisting she wanted us to have it and 2) the sentimental value. I love it, and I don’t care about how other people think we should spend our money.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I’ve received some sideways comments as well. That’s the territory with interesting jewelry! Your ring is stunning and beautiful so screw the negativity. That’s their energy to hold.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

My coworker wore her ring for the first time, the day after she got engaged, to work. She had designed it, and he had it made. 

It was so ugly.

I gasped and said “Oh it’s so pretty! It’s so nice!” and smiled. I would never be so rude as to say to her, or anyone else that someone’s ring wasn’t nice. No matter what else she did that got on my nerves (and there were some) I wouldn’t do that.

ETA: OP, I love your ring. I am not pretending.

Post # 40
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Newbee

Bee, honestly it is not my style but I can still appreciate its beauty and I would never say something rude or hurtful. You clearly love it and I am happy for you that you have something that YOU love! Enjoy it! 

Post # 41
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210 posts
Helper bee

I am getting an heirloom band which is literally just 7 diamonds weighing in total around .50 carats to .60 carats in yellow gold – nothing unique. Yet, one of my friends looked at it and said “well..your rings will always be special and unique to you..Or you could always get it reset..”

I laughed about it later with another friend. There was no other explanation than jealousy. People are so weird sometimes. I love your ring!

Post # 42
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Newbee

Your ring is absolutely gorgeous! During the Engagement Ring shopping process, I’ve learned to not have it be about what others think or how others will react because the most important thing is that YOU love it. It’s taught me to be less judgemental of peoples’ other rings as well (I opted for an uncommon, antique ring) because every has different tastes. To each their own.

A lot of rings back in the 20’s and 30’s (and even long before that) focused more on an elaborate setting, rather than the center stone. It was common for a “cocktail” or “dinner” type ring to be used as an Engagement Ring back then, and I’m seeing it’s happening more often today, especially with more people wanting to take the unconventional route.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

adriannamonet :  People suck. Your ring is BEAUTIFUL.

My weirdest reaction was my mother – who freaked out when I told her mine wa sa lab grown diamond. She thought it meant it was a CZ and claimed my enaggament wasn’t real because my diamond wasn’t.

-shakes head-

Post # 44
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558 posts
Busy bee

I have a rose cut, and while i haven’t gotten a negative comment, i’ve gotten a lot of silence. I think people are confused! LOL. I had never seen one in real life before my own so i’m sure that’s part of it, that the cut and appearance is so unusual. But that’s part of what drew us to it! ๐Ÿ™‚

Your ring is amazing!! As you noted they can bring out weird reactions in people. Their thoughts on it will last a moment or two, but ours as the wearer will last a lifetime.

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yours is amazing! ๐Ÿ˜

I had someone say recently well, at least you can see it. I was like ??? Especially because her ring was nearly an identical size adriannamonet :  

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