(Closed) Anyone with IBS and worried about wedding day??! I am…..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsHoneyC:  I was actually released from a job because I was in the hospital for 4 days because I was puking until I bled, such kind hearted individuals, huh? Oh, yeah, they also let me go on my birthday. At least they put the reason for firing me as medical so I was eligible for temporory welfare/disability for 3 months while I got better.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsHoneyC:  I definitely know the feeling.

Post # 51
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My mother suffers bad with IBS and as a mothers day present I got her the usual mothers day gifts and a hypnotherapy disk for IBS to say she was shocked was an understatement but I told her to give it a try and she hasn’t stop thanking me since results vary with each person but it’s helped her to control it the main thing is to try and find your triggers! The disk I got her was off eBay and only cost me £6 there are loads of types out there or even goin to see a hypnotist hope this helps in some way x

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MrsHoneyC:  I have a friend with IBS.  My dad also has it, too.  At the recomendation of said friend, I purchased peppermint capsules for my dad.  They’ve made a huge improvement.  I think he would have had an even bigger improvement if he had made other dietary changes.  I bought him a book, too, about foods to eat and foods to avoid when you have IBS and other bowel disorders, but he hasn’t even read it…I think because it recommends cutting down or eliminating dairy, and he loves milk and cheese and ice cream too much, so if he doesn’t read the book he can plead ignorance.  Heh.

Anyway, you may want to look into the peppermint capsules.  They are coated so they pass through the stomach and disolve in the intestine, where they work to soothe inflammation.  My dad used to live off of Immodium, too, (he actually has a prescription anti-diarrheal, too, though he doesn’t have to use it nearly as often since starting the peppermint capsules).  

Anyway, you can visit the website, Help for IBS for more information.  If you decide to order, it’s usually cheaper to buy from Amazon, just because if you buy enough stuff, you get free shipping.  

Peppermint Capsules on Amazon

Eating for IBS

There is also a kit you can get that contains the book, the capsules, and the fennel tea.

Post # 53
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi – I am usually just a lurker on here but this thread hit home so I wanted to post my experience. I also share in some of the same stomach problems.. for the past few years I have been going to accupuncture and I love it..I was diagnosed with IBS years ago..it has since calmed down so now I think he pretty much treats me for stress and aniexty at this point..(but they can treat IBS..along with a whole bunch of other things)..I know all my stress goes straight to my stomach.. I always tend to hold a lot of stuff in, and it centers all in my stomach..which has also caused me numerous ulcers.. going to accupuncture has helped me tremendously! It’s very relaxing and just over all a great experience. I used to go once a week but I’ve cut it back to once a month now.. I will probably pick it back up more frequently right before our wedding in December.. but, maybe look into it! Feel free to personal message me if you would like to chat more about it!

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs.Charpentier – I know this thread is a few months old but I thought I would chime in. I was diagnosed with IBS about 7 years ago (though I have had it all my life, I swear). It’s worse after a greasy meal, or when I am especially anxious (which was a lot during wedding planning!). It got so bad that I would get nervous before going out somewhere, which always made things worse. 

My one saving grace has been Dicetel – it’s a prescription that has literally changed my life. It keeps everything under control and I have had very few flare-ups since being on it. You have to take it 3x per day (even when you’re feeling fine) but it has been absolutely amazing. The only thing is, I now feel so great sometimes that I forget to take it (which results in episodes). Darling Husband got me a pill box to help me remember…I sometimes feel like an 80 year old woman but it’s better than the constant pain and embarassement! 

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I should also note that on my actual wedding day I was fine! I took my medicine religiously  and because I was so busy (and nerves, of course) I actually didn’t eat all that much. Good luck and hope you are doing well! *HUGS*

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes…I have IBS and it flares up when I’m stressed. I’ve already spent a lot of time on the toilet this week and reckon it’s going to be that way till after the wedding :/ I really sympathise with you.

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The year before and the year after my diagnosis of IBS (which was actually that they couldn’t diagnose it, so if you don’t have everything else, you MUST have IBS!) were some of the most depressing of my life. I shied away from social gatherings/functions, I was calling in sick to work, leaving work to go home to use the bathroom (I was doing run-around at work at the time, so noone noticed thankfully), I was anxious every time I had to eat and be anywhere away from home, and the first thing I did when planning a trip or going out was to figure out where the bathrooms were and whether they were “private”. The stress, anxiety and embarrassment that comes with an ailment like this is just huge. I felt so alone and sad. Fiance tried to make me feel better about it, but there really wasn’t anything he could say that would make me feel OK with it.

Then I re-connected with an old friend and found out she had it too. Just being able to TALK about it with someone who had it, being able to JOKE about it, being able to be open about it…..it really worked wonders. Now I just straight-up tell people. I told everyone at work (mostly because of the doctor visits), I told family, I told friends….and I am now open about what is a big thing in my life.

For the 2 weeks leading upto the wedding I will avoid my “triggers” like the plague (anything dairy, too much raw veggies, anything acidic – OJ is SO bad for me, and anything high salt/high fat.). As soon as I wake up in the morning I will pop an imodium. Any time I eat anything that day, I’ll take an imodium with it. And for emergencies (you know that familiar feeling that trips in your stomach where you know the worst is imminent), I’ll pop one of the imodium quick-dissolve tabs and follow it with a capsule. You can have upto 8 pills in a day and it’s quite safe. If I don’t poop for 3 days after the wedding, I’m fine with that! And in case of emergency that cannot be prevented: I’d be OK with my mom helping me in the restroom (and only my mom!), and having my bridesmaids block the outside door so I have total privacy in the washroom. I’d also recommend staying away from alcohol and caffeine the day of your wedding too….these are also big triggers for me.  

Post # 59
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have IBS too, and this is a big worry for me as well. I am about to dump (haha) all the information and experience that I have. Take it as you will, I don’t mean to preach, just to say what I have done once before for a really big important moment, and what I will do again on my wedding day.

If you’ve never tried the FODMAP diet, you should. Raw fruit and veg can be healthy, but it can also mess with your digestion if you’re sentsitive to fructose and oligosaccharides. A lot of people try cutting wheat or dairy or meat but many don’t even question produce. I can tolerate FODMAPs when everything is going smoothly, but I cut them out prior to events or times when I know I will be nervous. FODMAPs also create a lot of gas in the intestines, so if you are gassy like me (lol, I look pregnant after I eat the wrong thing) get on that.

7 days prior I will cut all raw fruits and vegetables out of my diet. (Torture, as I love them, but VERY WELL COOKED ones are still ok, especially with beano.) I also cut out dietary supplements, ESPECIALLY anything with magnesium in it. Calcium is still OK, if you take it for your IBS-D, obviously. 

At least 5 days prior, all red meat, dairy, alcohol, and caffeine, and will probably not eat much veggies at all after this point. I will take beano. (I like the ones that melt on your tongue.)

At 3 days prior, I begin to eat nothing but chicken (baked, skin on, as animal fats have been more helpful than harmful for me), some scrambled eggs, and LOTS of white rice porridge cooked in chicken broth with egg mixed in. That stuff is like a stomach miracle and so easy to make — just put rice in way too much water and way overcook it. It’s called “congee” or “jook” if you look for a recipe.

The night before, I will take an imodium before bed. This is important — for those of you who get nervous Bridesmaid or Best Man issues, this will help a LOT. Imodium in tablet form, in my experience, doesn’t fully kick in for up to a few hours, and a single booster before bed can really improve response time when you take one in the morning. For the most important times, I highly recommend a “before bed” dose.

This might be Too Much Information but about an hour before I take that dose, I use a glycerin laxative to make sure I don’t stop up anything that’s “on deck” that I might not be aware of. It doesn’t stay in the system, it’s in an out in 15 minutes or less.

Also, DO NOT USE GENERIC IMODIUM IF YOU ARE SENSITIVE TO DAIRY. Most generic imodium tablets contain a filler that has a dairy product that can make some people worse. 

The morning of, I will eat rice porridge for breakfast and take another imodium. Again, just one. If it is a long time to the event, I will take one more 30-60 minutes prior. If you are desensitized or already know you need more pills, obviously use more. If this stops you up or you are worried that it will, you can reverse the effect gently and safely by either eating a lot of prunes/cherries, or taking a polyethylene glycol (Miralax) laxative AFTER the event is over. In small doses it is so gentle you may not even feel the effect for a day or so, so it won’t chain you to the toilet, but I’ve never had it fail.

I have only done this whole routine once. I’ve done parts of it numerous times for small events or trips here and there. When things are normal its not necessary, but when you have the compounding factor of anxiety, on top of everything else, and you absolutely MUST be sure that everything goes 100% perfectly and want to take no chances, it can’t be beat. 

Post # 60
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Sugar bee

I just wanted to mention as well that my wedding day came and went, and I had no issues! I was very relieved.

Next week I am going to see a gastroenterologist so hopefully I can find out what’s wrong with me.

Hope all you ladies are doing okay. This thread is great, makes me feel less alone in this condition. 

Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s kinda relieving to see I’m not alone. I’m not only worried about my wedding day but everyday–it’s so embarrassing and sometimes downright painful.

I was diagnosed with IBS roughly a month ago–however I’ve had symptoms for quite a while. Dr first put me on hyoscyamine, but that wasn’t really helping so I’m now on Bentyl.  I’m still trying to manage this problem without it taking over my life. I try to have foods high in fiber (which seems to help a little), stay clear of anything fried, lots and lots of white rice and whole grain foods. 

 

@MrsPuddingface:  Thanks for the tips. I’ll have to remember that! 🙂 

Post # 62
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Of course you aren’t alone… it’s just easy to feel that way when nobody wants to talk about their poo problems! ;D

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