Post # 1
Maybe I am one of the few out there in the world…but hopefully not here at WB!
As I’m getting older, I don’t want a big reception, because I’m in my early 30s I’m really fine with just going to the courthouse to get married (I know, how romantic haha).
I do plan on having a wedding reception because I’m mainly doing it for my fiance, my parents, his parents, etc. I really want a simple reception but as the days go on, it seems that it’s getting grander and grander. Just want to see if anyone out there has had a simple wedding reception/banquet without the frills and hopefully it will help me stay sane!
Here is some of the details at this simple wedding:
No bridesmaids/no grooms
We will have about 250 people or so, but it’s because we both have big families.
No ‘wedding ceremony such as the church or exchanging of vows.’
No real entertainment…maybe a dj with music.
Dinner will be the most grand of all, with lots of food!
I’m just going to be wearing ONE dress, and it may be even a prom/bridesmaid dress.
My fiance is fine with it since I was leaning towards a no wedding recepiton/banquet anyway.
Your thoughts?? The bees here are really lovely, by the way!!
Post # 2
the older you get the more simple your taste I’m finding. Have a small crowd, restaurant reception/dinner at a nice place and skip the wedding party with a,dozen bridesmaids. Make it intimate and about the two of you! Sounds perfect!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
We had a pretty simple and informal reception (we did have a church ceremony though). Good food was the most important thing to us; I had one dress for the whole day, we skipped the DJ and just used Pandora (which we spent a while “teaching”), and only two bridesmaids/groomsmen. For us it was about celebrating with family above all. No fancy decorations (we used piles of our favourite books as centrepieces and asked guests to take them home – loads of people have told us they’ve discovered new authors they love through doing this!), no first dance/parent dances, no bouquet or garter toss, no massive grand entrance. We had the best day!
Post # 4
thank you!!! There’s hope for me too.
I love the relaxing part. It is after all your day!
Post # 5
We are doing something very similar. We are looking at a restaurant venue where we have the ceremony in one room and the reception in the next room. We’ll have a dinner (sit down or buffet style, not sure yet) and we’ll have background music but no DJ or band. Not doing bridesmaids and all that. We are for sure still having cake! We’re also doing it in a big city so if people really wanted to we could hit up a place for dancing later but we just wanted to keep things as simple as possible while still having family and friends there.
Post # 6
Our reception was very boring and not really decorated. I didn’t want to spend the money, and know from weddings attended that details like that are forgotten… so it didn’t matter to me. We used stuff that the venue had for center pieces and added a couple things to them. That was it. I didn’t even get a picture of it, so I am sure even my photog thought they were simple.
IDK… everyone is different, and you do what you want! Like I said, to me… that was minor and I could spend the money elsewhere. Here is a pic of our head table (I made that sign):
The vases were from the venue and we added that bling wrap to them. Only the head table vases had rocks. The main tables had them filled with water and a tea light candle, which was on a square mirror tile… and I threw some hershey kisses around it.
Post # 7
We had a morning wedding at 11:00am, coffee hour, and then the reception began. It was lunch, toasts, cake cutting, and then the send off at 2:30, and it was wonderful 🙂 We had a little over 100 people and a DJ/MC, but there was no dancing or anything. We did have a friend play a song on her violin after the cake cutting, but that was it as far as entertainment goes. And most of our decor was what we already use at home. Do what you guys want! It really makes the day reflect you guys as a couple 🙂
Post # 8
Wonderful ideas, follow your heart and your day will be perfect 🙂 I’m on a tight budget and I looked everywhere for decorations and luckily found great bargains. I just don’t want to go in debt because of one day. And I want to keep things simple, fun, and stress free as possible 🙂 We’re skipping a lot of the traditional things too. We’re both shy so simple is great for us 🙂 For the reception, we’re having cake, punch and a few desserts. We thought about having a bbq dinner but unless something changes, we’re going with just cake, and punch. Congratulations to you, your day will be awesome 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2016 - City, State
no you’re not alone. I’m in my early 20s but I want a simple wedding. I just think it’s ridiculous to spend too much in one day, plus we are doing a destination wedding in another country. We won’t have bms/gms as well, no dancing, no cake, etc. I’ll be wearing one dress. we’ll have a simple chapel ceremony followed by the dinner 🙂
Post # 10
You’re definitely not alone. I’m late 20s and could only ever imagine a relaxed wedding. We’re having about 100 people and will have the ceremony in a field that’s next to a relative’s house (we’re then having an outdoor reception in the backyard of that relative’s house).
It will be a very short but meaningful 20 minutes. No bridal party, a guitar as music. We’ll have a dinner reception that is barbecue. Minimal decorations (it’s outside and the surrounding nature speaks for itself which helps), DIY flowers, pies rather then cake for dessert. We will do a first dance and we do have a DJ because my side of the family LOVES to dance so I am looking forward to that a lot.
I think simple is typically very elegant. I much prefer understated to great fanfare so I couldn’t imagine doing my wedding any other way!
ETA: Mine is not budget driven but personal taste. I think manytimes people think that simple weddings are to save on money, and while that is usually a benefit, for me it’s not why we’re going simple. I’m actually not saving $$ by going this route.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front
sounds like a great reception to me…..the couple, food, guests (lots of them) and music (DJ) perfect!
Luckily fiance and I both have very small families and only want our closest friends ( to us as a couple ) so about 75 guests. Our ceremony will be short (15 mins) and will be right in the same space as the reception. The venue is overlooking the ocean so has a great view….I am keeping the decorations to what they offer, very beachy elegant and simple also good on the budget! It will be a fairly short event 330 ceremony, then reception 4-9 p.m. so people won’t get bored or tired ( we are in our mid forties afterall….not alot a spring chickens ) haha. We did hire a DJ and TAPsnap ( which is a modern-day version of a photo booth without the booth) which will double as our favors, as I made a custom logo which I am so proud of!!
Goodluck bee! :+)
Post # 12
We had a basic reception at a family banquet hall. No $100pp here. No regrets either. 16K budget wedding (100 people) and no debt for this thirty something couple!
Post # 13
That sounds like a great reception to me! Our wedding reception was at a restaurant and we didn’t do any of the traditional things like throwing the bouquet or garter (I didn’t even wear a garter hehe) and we just had the ceremony at the back of the restaurant – they had like a backyard kind of thing.. I think the perfect weddings are the ones that reflect the couple, so if the couple loves fancy things and the wedding is fancy, then cool. But if the couple is more laid back then that’s cool too. A wedding should be number one about love, the love for each other and the love for all your family and friends, if that’s there, then everything will be perfect! 🙂 this was our restaurant wedding, I loved it and wouldn’t have changed anything but I know for some people this would be too casual 😛 each to their own I say!! I hope you have a wonderful wedding!! 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front
love the names in lighting on wall….where do I get that kind of thing and was it costly? :+)
Post # 15
Ours came part of our DJ package. In NJ that ran $1200. Included up lighting, our names on the wall, and dancing on the clouds on top of the music.