Post # 1
I shopped at 3 bridal stores. One I just browsed but did not try on. One is a small store belonging to FI’s aunt with a small collection so it wasn’t very stressful.
The third one was a large store with consultants and lots of collections – it was so stressful and awkward to have everybody passing by checking me out in dresses that don’t fit and a consultant I don’t even know deciding for herself what would look best on me…my entourage wasn’t free on that day so I had to try on the dresses myself, but I doubt the experience would be any better even with them there. It’s weird because I’m comfortable with my body and do photoshoots all the time in public…but something about so many people looking at me in what is supposed to be my wedding dress and commenting makes me feel super self-conscious.
I should really get over it but it’s making me feel so anxious and stressed about going back to try on again (it’s going to be a sample sale next so even more people!) and make a decision and go to fittings. 🙁
I love shopping…but definitely not wedding dress shopping! Anyone feeling the same?
Post # 2
TBH, I had a really great experience shopping at David’s Bridal. When I first started looking at dresses eons ago (always been obsessed with weddings) I determined that I wanted something super high end designer, etc. Earlier this year I checked out DB’s selection and found a few that I liked, so I went and tried several of them on. Surprisingly, I loved 3 of them! I also went by myself. About a week later my Mom and I went back together and bought the dress that I will wear down the aisle! 😀
They were super friendly and helpful and I thoroughly enjoyed getting to be there by myself, funnily enough. I’m a very outgoing person, but apparently I needed to be alone with my thoughts. 🙂 Good luck, Bee!
Post # 3
I know that this isn’t what you asked, but I’m hoping that you’ll get a little hope from it! Everything will turn out wonderfully and you’ll look beautiful!
Post # 4
I had major anxiety trying on my dresses because of a past experience that was not great. However when I tried on dresses again it was pretty wonderful because I only took one person with me. I was able to voice my opinion and I got a great salesperson. I was very outspoken about what I was looking for and I think that helped. The next trip I went to try on a specific dress which went fine, I took two people and it was fun except the salesperson kept going on and on about her boyfriend and relationship so that was interesting. Good luck!
Post # 5
I was pretty nervous to try on dresses too. I’ve battled with self-image issues for as long as I can remember and was super nervous about how the whole experience would go. I ended up going to four different stores before buying my dress.
I just wasn’t comfortable with any of the shops or consultants until I went to my third store. The ladies there were super sweet and understanding and made sure to take my preferences into account when helping pick out dresses. It also definitely helped that only my mom was with me. She’s my best friend. I knew that she would be honest with me about how the dresses looked but also be supportive of what I liked. I ended up finding THE gown there. I went to one more shop after just to be sure and to share the dress shopping experience with my grandma and Future Mother-In-Law but we went back to the third shop to buy my dream dress 🙂
I guess if I had any advice it would be to bring people who are supportive of and love you and don’t be afraid to be vocal if you don’t like something or do really like something. Also maybe call around and see if any stores around you offer private bridal appointments that way you don’t have to worry about having a bunch of other people around staring at you.
Post # 6
chachamaru : I was having MAJOR wedding dress shopping anxiety. I was almost paralized with fear and worry and kept procrastination. My main reasons were cause I am plus sized and very self concious, I had a fairly small budget but I’m picky and I have a fairly critical mother who I absolutely had to take dress shopping with me cause the dress budget was her wedding gift to me. I spent 2 therapy sessions talking about this and still was procrastinating… I was going to call stores this week to make an appointment for Nov and I know I would have sleepless nights before the appointmet.. then this past Saturday I heard of a store closing sample dres sale in my city and we were able to rush there on Sunday. I tried on a total of 10 dresses fell in love with a Maggie Sottero, bought it and done! The fact that it was $599 down ftom $1700 made my decision even easier. Wedding dress shopping is DONE!!! Hugest relief EVER lol. I was in shock for 2.5 days post purchase cause it all happened so fast!! I had to take an Ativan the night before shopping so I could sleep and Valerian supplement before heading to the store to calm my nerves, it was that bad.
Post # 7
I have the same feeling!!! i get dress stress LOL i dont know if thtas a thing or not but I get really stressed out 1. beause im not at the weight that I want to be at (i have lost 12lbs so far since my last stress dress disaster in September) 2. just the fact that I see the dresses on me and i dont love them and 3. I have yet to find a dress that makes me feel like a bride. (im going back on saturday to try some on at a major store and im freaking out lol also i think the fact that i have a budget and every dress I am drawn too is over my budget doesnt help either. take a deep breath. keep searching and go with friends and family to take the edge off. also wear a good bra lol i didnt the last time and that made me so upset because I felt like nothing looked right with out the extra hold lol im even bringing spanx lol
Post # 8
I feel you. I had a lot of anxiety and only went because a friend organised it. Though after going with her, I think some of the anxiety came from her as she was really keen to see what I looked like and I was still trying to figure out what I looked like and if I liked what I had on – I was getting nervous showing others when I was struggling to see how I looked. I would have preferred to go alone in hindsight. It is a lot in the moment, there’s tons of people and dresses. Try to focus on the fact that it’s for you and try to enjoy your moment. Definitely tell others if you are not ready to show them, or if you need another minute, don’t feel rushed. Often it can feel like a dress parade! Slow it down a bit, and look at the dresses and what you like about them. Good luck on your next trip!
Post # 9
chachamaru : This is why I didn’t go wedding dress shopping in the traditional sense. I went to 1 designer’s US trunk show, got measured and bam, done. Took all of about 30 minutes once I was there. So perfect.