Post # 1
I feel like I always see people here hoping for a large percentage of their invited guests to decline. Just out of curiosity, why is that? Also, is there anyone out there worried that too many people will decline? For example, if you booked a venue appropriate to your guest list but then a lot of them couldn’t/didn’t come?
Post # 2
I worry about this a lot, but I think it’s because I just went to FBIL’s wedding where they only had 15 guests show up for the ceremony. I don’t think that is going to happen to us, but now I have this nagging in the back of my brain that won’t go away!
Post # 3
I think that’s a fear at any social event you throw, it really brings me back to that high school insecurity a little bit but it’s totally normal I think. Who hasn’t thrown a party and though “what if nobody comes?” The good thing is that unlike a house party, a wedding is still going to be special and totally awesome regardless of how many guests you have 🙂
Post # 4
Yeah. I’m finishing grad school and a lot of people are getting married the same day as me. (Right after graduation) i already have a lot of friends saying that everyone picked the same day And they’ll have to choose between friends
Post # 5
Yeah, I’m worried! We’re having a semi-destination wedding and some of the guests are people we haven’t seen in a while. The venue is small and we can’t risk inviting more people than there is room for. I don’t mind if it turns into a very intimate event, though. I’ll help my closest friends if they can’t afford it and for the other people we’ll just have to wait and see.
And I agree with jennamarie that it will be special whatever the guest count is!
Post # 6
Fewer people=less money. People want to invite everyone, but getting some declines lowers the cost so it makes sense why some people hope that not everyone can make it.
I hope everyone can make it, but we’re getting married across the country from my hometown so realistically not everyone will be able to make the journey. I won’t be worried about too many declines unless like a fourth of the guests rsvp no.
Post # 7
I’ll be a little upset if a significant number of people rsvp no, but it doesn’t come from a “I’m sad that no one’s coming to my wedding. I originally wanted a smallish wedding, so the intimacy would be great. However, I had to pick my venue based on a guestlist of 180. It was way more expensive than my favourites that had a maximum occupancy of 110. So if it turns out that only 100 people come, and I could have had one of those venues (and saved money), I will be upset. I know that it seems unlikely that 80 people would rsvp no, but my sister invited 173 and 90 showed up, so it’s possible.
Post # 8
Thanks for your input, guys! I feel like I’ve definitely had some unreliable friends and classmates in the past… last year we had a good amount of people RSVP “yes” to our Halloween party, and then only 3 actually showed!! A couple and one girl!
So now I’m thinking about that, haha. I’m not yet engaged, but I’m 22 and SO is 25 and I feel like some of our friends and others we would like to invite don’t quite understand that it’s rude (and costly) to say you’ll come and never show!
Anyone else worried? Anyone have a story about lots of declines or no-shows?