Post # 1
My parents are so opinionated about everything in the wedding. They are especially concerned about the ceremony–they are both super-religious. I and my fiance are not super-religious…in fact, we are not religious at all. The wedding is SO FAR away, and all my parents can talk about is will there be a cross at the ceremony. My dad even went so far as to send me the following email, and I quote:
“A good measure to follow in dealing with people is to be fair and considerate. Do not take any actions that are not legal or without well intention. Do remember to always be cordial and respect other people’s true feelings even if you do not entirely agree.”
Is it just me, or does it seem like he is accusing me of doing something illegal or ill-intentioned? It’s like he’s giving me a reprimand! Maybe I am over-reacting?? Parents on my nerves..grr. It makes me feel like I’m 4 years old and getting a scolding.
Post # 3
@blurmeblue: Parents can be very difficult to deal with sometimes, and many of them will want a say in everything you do about the wedding especially if they are paying for it. My advice would be to give in to a few of their ideas to make them feel like you are including them in the process. For example, if there are things that you don’t feel too strongly about, then consider doing what they want so that they don’t feel like you are being inconsiderate about what they want. I am in a very different position, my parents live abroad and they don’t seem to interested in the wedding planning process and that’s been a little hard to deal with. But anyway, just take a deep breath and see if you can make some compromises with them so that you don’t have to fight them all the way until your wedding day. Good luck!
Post # 4
My dad WAS driving me nuts! His basic thoughts on the matter was that if he was paying for it then her got to dictate exactly what went down! I was so annoyed! Eventually though, I decided to let him have his way on the thing he wanted most (for me to get married in mine and my Fiance hometown, instead of the city where we are currently living). Now that I have compromised that my dad is over the moon happy and pretty much letting me have my say on things that I want! 🙂 Maybe you just need to make a few concessions for your parents and that will make them happy.
Post # 5
I will play devil’s advocate here… while I understand family upsetting you on your big day or leading up to it (I’ve had my moments TRUST ME).. my dad died several years ago and I’d give ANYTHING to have him annoy me at my wedding. Not that he would.. what I’m saying is that annoying or 100% supportive, I want my dad there more than anything. It’s such a huge empty hole in this whole thing and constantly on my mind…..
He is giving his input because he loves you.