Post # 1
Our cancelled July wedding would have been the first time that my immediate family and FI’s immediate family would have met. His side is from OR, my side from IN.
Now that it’s cancelled due to a illness, we’re thinking of eloping on our own schedule now – hopefully this year – and don’t plan to invite guests after seeing how hard it was for them in the first place (job losses, new borns, anxiety about dad, lack of funds).
We may host a small family get together next summer once things seem a little more normal. Otherwise, they would never meet if we don’t plan something.
However if getting to our wedding location was hard, I’m thinking how will they manage coming to our own state next summer? We can at least provide some spare rooms and blow up beds for those that need to save $$. We couldn’t with the wedding (it wasn’t in town).
Anyone else in a similar position?
ETA: July will mark four years of dating, nonetheless!
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
Haha FH & I are going on 4 years & our families have never met [sans my sister & his brother one time]. His mom lived on the east coast, but has recently just moved to the same town my parents live in [that FH & I do as well]. His lives but maybe 40 minutes from us & we just haven’t got together. Our parents have different lifestyles too per se. My dad drinks beer at almost every occasion & FH’s stepmom won’t let his dad drink. Things like that might make the get together awkward. So come September they can all meet & drink or not drink & everyone will live happily ever after, I hope ;]
Post # 4
Our families have never met either. Fiance family lives in Pittsburgh, PA and mine live in Portland, OR so unless my family makes any surprise visits out to PA before our wedding they will meet for the first time that weekend.
ETA: We will have been dating for 5 years this fall.
Post # 5
Ok, so I’m not alone! LOL
My former realtor’s parents have never met and they’ve been married 14 years! I don’t want to be like that.
Any advice, now that we don’t have a wedding for them to attend, how can they all meet each other? Go for a family get together next summer? I don’t think it will work this summer, my father is most likely going to pass away this summer. FI’s parents will never get to meet him.
Post # 6
Hmm I don’t know all about your family’s situation so its hard to offer any good advice. Now that my sibblings are all moved out of the house, I was thinking it would be fun if my parents and sibs travelled and had Thanksgiving here with us in PA since they would all have to travel to go to my parents anyway. But other than a situation like that it sounds like you idea is the best solution.
Post # 7
@sienna76: definately not alone, our parents have only met once at our engagement party (shook hands and thats it). Our parents live like 5 minutes from eachother lol….
My finace’s parents arnt very social at all, at that party they sat in the middle of the room and didnt speak to anyone the whole night. Was quite awkward for them lol….
Needless to say at our wedding, it will only be there 2nd encounter and we would of been together for 6 years when we get married…. I used to get really upset about his parents but have come to terms with how they are, just feel sorry for my other half…..
Post # 8
Our families have never met yet. Hell, I just met his mom a couple weeks ago. She lives in SC but we have spoken on the phone. In all honestly I thought she was going to be a real doucher because she hurts my fiances feelings all the time by telling him how he needs to raise his kids but ummm I recall her leaving my Fiance and his dad when he was just 6 years old. She was ok.
Post # 9
Mine and FI’s have never met. They live at other ends of the country 🙁
Post # 10
His mom & my parents live about 15 mins apart.. and have never met.. it’s been about 5 1/2 years!! His dad has met my parents several times.. his mom just won’t make the effort.. we invite her to family functions & she never comes.. so it’s really her problem. My mom keeps bugging me when they’re going to meet.. at this point, it’ll probably be at the wedding.. she’s kinda a nightmare Future Mother-In-Law anyway.. maybe it’s best my mom doesn’t meet her.
Post # 11
I met my fiance’s sister and father before I even met him…so I know his family VERY well. His sister and I went to college together, and are best friends, so when either of our parents came to visit us at college we’d all go to dinner. When I graduated, my parents came down (and my grandfather), and so did her dad…so he’s met my parents before. His mom just met my parents the other week.
The awkward part is that his dad is an ARDENT republican and my parents are SUPER liberal (my dad doesn’t even think the US is a civilized country because we don’t have free healthcare!)…and my fiance’s mom is very fashionable while my mother is more…a free spirit who wears a lot of linen.
Post # 12
“a free spirit who wears a lot of linen”
Post # 13
@X0JLYNN03: its nice to see im not the olny one with Future Mother-In-Law issues lol…. Chin up hun xx
Post # 14
Our families have never met, we live in the same state but at opposite ends and I have never met any of his very large family. I’m starting to think that the wedding will be the first time I will meet any of them. I’m pretty shy so that might be awkward for me…”Hello I just married your son, it’s nice to make your aquaintance.” lol
Post # 15
My parents and my FH’s parents have never met. Mine live here in CA, his live in Ireland. We plan to have a “meet the families” dinner at my parent’s house the week before the wedding.
I think having some sort of get together at your place is a really good idea. If times are too tough for any of them to come, maybe you can offer to pay for some of their plane ticket?
Post # 16
yep, nearly 5 years together with Fiance and our families have never met. think we’re both kindof indifferent to it, eventually they will. i didnt meet FIs family until a few years into dating, only his mom and brother, not his dad.
Fiance didnt meet my family until a year into dating, for thanksgiving. which i did not plan, we had an argument that day where i wouldnt talk to him after (ignored his calls) he drove an hour out after to my parents house and the next thing i know hes at the doorstep :0
(my mother answered) i guess he really wanted the last word.