(Closed) Anyone’s FI disappointed in their non-white gown?

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It;s not very gold at all. Don’t worry about it, he will think you are beautiful on your wedding day!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

The night before I went for my first dress shopping trip, I had some magazines out and asked DH how he’d feel if I wore I dress that wasn’t in the white/ivory family. He thought for a moment and then said “The way I felt when we had Christmas at your parents’ house and there was no turkey”. Which was sad and confused because Christmas = turkey to him. OK then! I kept that in mind and tried on mostly ivory gowns the next day, luckily they suited me fine and I fell in love with one and that’s what I bought. I’m pretty sure though if I turned up in a different colour, he would have barely noticed (if it was still pale) or not cared (if it was say bright red).

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t say anything else to your Fiance about it, and go with the light gold. I’ve tried that dress on in the light gold (beautiful dress, looks amazing on you!) and I think most people who aren’t brides would say that the dress is cream, or possibly champagne. Don’t get it in a colour that will look bad on you – if you don’t mention it to him again, he really will forget about it. If he says about it again, say it’s like paint charts – they’re all shades of white/ivory, but they have to come up with lots of names to differentiate. 

We had exactly this stress with my brother and his Fiance – she bought a light gold MS dress, and the colour really made her glow, she looked amazing. 2 months before the wedding, he says how his whole life he’s imagined his bride in a white dress, and how upset he’ll be if she’s not in white. We all panicked massively. What happened on the day? He was overcome by how beautiful she looked, and was tearing up as she walked down then aisle. 

When we said about it later he said that any light coloured dress was as good as white – he’s a guy after all! –  he just meant he didn’t want her in red or something! 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I don’t think Fiance knows my gown is not white. I’m more worried we will clash because he is set on a silver vest and my gown is ivory lace with champagne ruching in the middle and only slight silver detailing (few scattered beads). He wants to know nothing about it and while I told him it is ivory, that is too vague for him.

I like your lt. gold dress so much better than the other one andi t really looks ivory to me, go with the “antique ivory” as a name, that’S your dress.

Post # 17
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Helper bee

I am in total agreeance with the PP’s. Your Fiance, like nearly all men, probably won’t/wouldn’t even notice the difference unless he was told so. Trust me, on that day, when you are walking down the isle, he won’t be thinking; “Hmm.. that dress is ivory or gold, I wish she was wearing white!!” –He will only be thinking about how beautiful you look.

Get the dress that YOU love. You and the women, will be the only ones obsessing over the dress and it’s colour. You know what colour looks best on your skin tone. You don’t want to be looking through your photos later on and thinking about how washed out you look and hating your wedding photos, because you got the Diamond White dress instead, because your Fiance was worried about the colour… and didn’t even notice in the end! Women know fashion, colour and what compliments skin tones, not men!!

And to add to this subject.. Some men have always had an idea in their mind about what their “future wife” would wear on their wedding day. Maybe for the last 20 years. As some women have an idea, from early on, what they always imagined themself wearing. But what ends up looking good on her individual body type, and what is in fashion at the time, generally takes presidence. You don’t want to wear HIS dream dress and have it look bad on your body type, when there is actually a dress that fits you and your personality, like a glove!

Get the dress!! It looks gorgeous on you!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Boys always get colors wrong when someone describes them. They always think of the worst possible things. Personally I concider all white, ivory, light gold dresses “white” its not like they are red, blue, green

I always have FH zip up my dress when I try it on at home, the first time he said ” I thought you said you were getting ivory? this is white!?” My dresses are both ivory

Your dress is beautiful! You will look amazing and the only thing he will notice is how good you look. I always think you should dress for yourself and no one else. If you get a true white dress you will be the one looking at the photos wishing you had gone with something else and I’m pretty sure if you get the light gold your FH wont always look at the photos wishing you had a true white dress.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Hey, I’m wearing green–how’s that for “odd”? πŸ™‚ But I second what everyone else has said–you will look beautiful no matter what.

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Fiance was disappointed I got Ivory. He said over and over “I always pictured you in White.” Poor guy, I went from an ivory that looked white to an IVORY ivory which is def. NOT white’ish. I warned him and he was like, “I just always pictured white but I want you to be happy.” I’ve let it die, and won’t say anything else until he see’s me, and I imagine he’ll be fine with my choice πŸ™‚

I agree with however said, “Boys always get colors wrong.” πŸ™‚

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yup! I had already put a deposit down on my dress, also a Maggie, and I’m doing a diamond white lace overlay, and the underlayer is light gold. I am also having a light gold sash. Shortly after that, I told Fiance to guess what my dress would look like, you know, for fun. One of the things he said was he “hoped it wouldn’t be anything off-white or cream-colored” because wedding dresses are supposed to be white. Oops! I tried not to show on my face that my dress is technically “off-white” I guess, but I think once he sees it on me he either a.) won’t notice or b.) will think it’s gorgeous or won’t care. Hopefully both! You want to wear what you love and what you know you look good in, and he’ll be impressed!

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My dress is also gold.  I told my Fiance this and he was like ok.  Then I brought home some gold tulle to go with my dress and he said “that’s gold”.  I said yeah, I told you it was gold.  For a little while he was making fun of how I would look like a sunflower if I fall but really I don’t think he cares that much.  Guys know nothing about clothing so in his head he’s thinking yellow.  So I wouldn’t worry.  I’m sure He’ll be happy with whatever you pick out he gets to marry you!

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Aw honey, you look great in that dress, and it could definitely be squeezed into the “mostly white” category. I agree with other Bees–he heard “gold” and thought “yellow” or “gold lame disco fabric.” UNtil I went dress shopping I was sure I would get a bright white dress, because, well, that’s the bride’s color, right? well, all the stark white dresses I tried on washed me out and made me look ill. But I put on one in ivory and it was a whole new ballgame. So don’t worry about it–don’t mention “gold” in the same sentence as your dress again, and I doubt he’ll remember what the fuss was about. πŸ™‚

It’s funny you post this topic–I’m an independent minded girl, but when I was shopping I actually took into consideration that my fiance is very traditional (asked my dad permission to marry me, kept the proposal a secret, wants to carry all the heavy bags, etc), and decided to stick to a traditional bridal look. It’s still me (v-neck with straps, pleating, and light skirt), but is essentially still a long white dress. πŸ™‚ A shorter dress, or something with color appealed to me, but I figure it’s a small compromise in the grand scheme of things.

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

he wont be able to tell its not white.. guys dont really pay that much attention to colors lol..it looks lovely. its not like its a bright daisy yellow or shiny gold.. even though the color is described as a light gold it looks more ivory than anything else

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