Post # 1
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Helper bee
My Fiance is completely unfamiliar with wedding culture, and only vaguely familiar with wedding traditions. He says he’s only been to one wedding that he can remember in his life. So when I started talking about looking for a dress, he assumed that he would come with me to help me make the decision. After all, a wedding dress is such a special part of the big day, right? By contrast, I grew up thinking that the dress must be absolutely hidden from the groom at all times until the big day, at which time he finally sees it as the bride comes down the aisle. However, now that he’s expressed an interest in coming . . . I’m of two minds . . . it might actually be really nice to have him there and have him be part of the deicision.
What did you do think? Would any of you regret it if you went wedding dress shopping and picked the dress . . . with your Fiance ?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
That’s really cute, I’ve never heard of the groom wanting to go dress shopping. I can barely get mine to try on sweaters, let alone go dress shopping with me the whole day!
Idk, I actually kind of like the idea if it works for you. Although he may want to consider if he prefers to be surprised the day of.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
My fiance wants to go dress shopping with me as well. When I started looking at dresses he said we are going to pick your dress together. I was surprised at first, but now I like the idea. I’m wearing the dress for him, and his opinion matters.
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
It is very sweet but I guess I’m old fashion and still think it should be a surprise. I feel like the groom seeing you in your dress for the 1st time on your wedding day is part of the build up and fun. Also, his taste could sway you from something that you really love.
Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
Nope, he wanted nothing to do with seeing the dress before our wedding day.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Yes! I have decided I want him there and he wants to come. Because what he thinks is most important along with what I think and I’m not that traditional anyways. Also, I have the type of personality that my opinion can easily be swayed when I hear others opinions (as in “wow this dress must not be as pretty as I think it is because my mom’s not crazy over it”) and if Fiance is giving me feedback I know I’ll still be able to feel comfortable voicing my own opinions.
I just posted on this because I made the mistake of telling my sister that I was taking Fiance first time and she thinks I shouldn’t because it will make other gals more uncomfortable, but whatever. I want to be comfortable looking for dresses the first time and I’ll be most comfortable with Fiance there.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
My Fiance and I actually went together to a bridal salon to try on dresses. It was only once but he got to see some dresss on me in all different silhouettes and from there he sort of told me what he would like to see me in. He really like the dropped waist ballgown, fit and flare and a natural waist ballgown. The dress I chose was not one of the dresses we had tried on together but I did pick a natural waist ballgown so I know that he will love it!
I think it’s sweet when a man wants to go dress shopping. If the bride doesn’t mind, go for it!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I say if you dont mind him seeing the dress before the wedding then- why not?! I would have LOVED my Fiance to come dress shopping with me, but he didn’t want to, he wants it to be a surprise. I think it would make it, that much more special!