(Closed) Anyone’s fiance give terrible gifts?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

For Christmas last year I was the recipient of a Tamara De Lampika calendar (which I adore) and a word-a-day calendar…and wasn’t sure why I wasn’t thrilled to get 2 calendars. Now we joke about it, but it was still really odd.

Post # 48
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My husband is an amazing gift giver, but there’s rarely a gift that I don’t like, since gift giving is my love language. I’m the type who points out everything I want in the store, so it’s not too difficult to shop for me. I’m the type who basically loves every gift except jewelry.

Last Christmas, he bought me two books. One, I was expecting, because we were both going through the Twilight series. The other was a completely random mystery book that he thought I would like. Granted, he had asked me over text what kind of books I liked, but I had not really expected to get anything.

Then, on our second get-together, two days later, he randomly made me a burned CD. The songs on it were the very ones that he used when he was in a writing mood, which was sweet because we’re both writers. Plus, it introduced me to some of the songs from his favorite anime. The last song was actuallly a surprise. He didn’t list what it was and it ended up being this song that he had showed to me in a youtube video that I adored. It later ended up being our first dance song.

Just last week, he went out to Dairy Queen for a snack and since I’ve been having a difficult time with food lately, specifically soft serve ice cream, he went out and randomly got McDonald’s chococlate chip cookies. I hadn’t been expecting anything, so it was a really nice surprise and I was touched that he had been thinking about me.

Post # 49
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

…for my birthday, he got me a framed print of a cowboy painting of a roundup. Now, I love anything western related and I grew up going to Rodeos out west, but this picture is just… ugly. It’s ugly! And it’s hanging in my dining room because I didn’t have the heart to tell him that he struck out.

He was totally hinting around for Christmas ideas and the thought of another painting made me ill. So. I said “You know how I always wear my pearl studs? Well, I love them but they don’t go with EVERYTHING all the time… I’d really like some sparkly diamond ones” Can’t be subtle with that one!

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

haha! Oh how I can relate

My 30th birthday was last month and as I assume it is for a lot of people….it was a really big deal to me. I mean…30…that’s big

My hubby woke me up and was so excited to give me my gifts

He says “ok…these 3 all go together!”

We were married in August and we paid for it…so I wasn’t expecting something over the top…but I WASN”T expected to open my 3 part gift and get “An Air Popper Popcorn Machine, Popcorn salts, and an 8lb thing of popcorn kernels!!!!

Yep…he got me popcorn for my 30th birthday! 🙁

I was SO dissapointed. He didn’t even get me flowers. It was SUCH a guy thing to do.

I didn’t have the heart to tell him how bummed I was…so I just cried in the shower…BUT I told him that for xmas, we are giving each other a list of things we would like   haha

 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

My parents started dating when they were in high school, and my mom’s parents still remember the year when he bought her a pair of shoes for her birthday. They were apparently appalled at the practicality.

Every time the story gets retold, he just gets this look and says “Well, she really did need new shoes.”

Then there was the time when they were long-distance in college and my mom put hours into a photo collage and he got her nothing for Valentine’s Day.

 

Can I put in my bid for worst Fiance at gift-giving ever? Despite my pleading, serious conversations with him about how important holidays are to me and how deeply I feel about giving and receiving gifts, he simply doesn’t ever get me anything. Ever. Not even a card or flowers, unless I beg and demand them specifically and then nag to remind him. (Even then I typically get a “Really… I have to write something in the card?”) If it weren’t for the fact that his mom works in a jewelry store, thus ensuring at least Christmas has a present for me, I don’t think he would have ever gotten me a single thing. I have even picked something out specifically for a birthday of mine and said “Please, this is what I want” and still received nothing. It hurts a lot and I’ve explained it over and over, but it’s probably the number one biggest thing that I’ve had to come to terms with that it’s just a part of the man I’m marrying. He’s amazing in all the ways that really matter, so it’s not too much to accept in the scheme of things.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my man is another who is terrible at gift giving.  so………… this christmas i am presenting him with a very specific list.  lol.   we will see how that goes.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I forgot to tell this story—

I like flowers and Fiance was pretty good at giving them for special occasions when we were first dating. Then I did not get flowers on our first anniversary which bummed me out. So for Valentine’s Day last year I hinted like mad that I would like flowers. He joked that “guys like to get flowers too”, so I went and ordered him a bouquet of flowers and had them sitting on the dining room table. He came home with flowers in hand and was shocked to see that he had gotten Valentine’s day flowers as well! Haha 

Post # 54
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940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Why don’t you come up with a solution, such as instead of spending money on each other for birthdays and Valentine’s Days, that you instead commit to getting dressed, cooking a meal together, and having a date at home? Or even a date out? That’s a gentle way of getting him out of buying you roses.

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