Anyone's married name or initials just sound plain bad? How did you handle it?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: How did you handle your married name?

    I legally changed my name to my spouse's last name

    I go by my married name with friends, etc. but it is legally my maiden name

    I hypenated

    I use both last names (maiden married)

    My maiden name is now a middle name and my married name is my last name

    My spouse changed his/her name in some way

    We both chose a new name

    We both have completely separate last names

    We are still figuring it out

  • Post # 2
    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t think this is an issue at all, especially since even if you get things monogrammed you can just use AL. I have a friend whose initials are BS which I think is worse, but it’s still a nonissue. Initials really don’t come up often. 

    If it really bothers you, though, you could also change your middle name to your maiden name (or if I misunderstood and that’s what you’re already planning to do, skip doing that and keep your original middle name) to avoid this. 

    Post # 3
    717 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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    ispeakingifs :  My fiance keeps making fun of me for what my married name will be. I go my Ali in my every day life, and when I take his last name I will be Ali Lane. 

    Get it?

    Alley. Lane. >.<

    Post # 4
    330 posts
    Helper bee

    Not mine but when my friend got married her new initials were going to be DTF ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ we joked that her hashtag should be #DTFforever 

    I think there could be worse initials. Like DTF or ASS. 

    Post # 5
    2235 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    My initials would have stayed the same as his surname starts with the same letter as mine. However, my husband’s surname is not great. It’s long and clunky. It’s also rude sounding and even if it wasn’t, my first name just doesn’t flow with his surname. Plus, I’m one of many of my name, with his surname I’d be very findable on social media and one of two in the world – I like the anonymity of my name being one of thousands. 

    So I didn’t change my name. Not liking his name was only part of the reason though.

    Post # 6
    8992 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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    gunnabamissus :  I know an Ali Lane and literally never though of Alley Lane lol 

    Post # 7
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Middle names are used so infrequently I don’t think it’s worth the worry. My first/last are now BO which isn’t great! But as a grown up I can laugh about it and move on to the next thing. It’s not been an issue for more than about 10 seconds.

    Post # 8
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    I’m not concerned for my initials but I’ll be careful with my kids. 

    Post # 9
    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2020

    I know someone whose initials were FAT. Whoops! Haha. I think it’s more funny than anything.

    Post # 10
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    My initials for my first and middle name are D and R so on most debit cards show as DR! Even with the ‘miss’ in front lots of people made the mistake of calling me DR! Without the R they were DJ! That was fun in school ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

    Now they are DRN! Looks like an abbreviated explitvive. I wouldn’t let it bother you! I used to work with thousand of customer accounts and trust me your initials and name will never be the worst! One of my favourites was a lady called Felicity Dick who insisted on being called Flick for short! I’ll leave that one there! 

    Post # 13
    1447 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

    My new initials end up being an abbreviation that was common on internet chatrooms awhile back. It somewhat amuses me. I tried to be more careful with my daughter though. Hers doesn’t look like anything like a word or abbreviation that I know of. 

    Post # 14
    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    ukbea :  haha my initials before getting married were B.O! I remember in 9th grade someone accidentally mixed up gym shirts with me in the change room, mine had my initials on them… so I told my gym teacher and she said in front of the class “Does anyone have Britt’s gym shirt?! It has ‘B.O’ in it!”…. and then everyone started laughing and I wanted to die lol.

    OP, I wouldn’t stress about it. You often won’t see your middle initials along with your initials for your name anyways. Anytime I’ve seen anyone initial anything they usually only use their first and last. Plus as an adult I don’t think anyone really cares, and if they did probably not more than 3 seconds. 

    Post # 15
    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    My married initials will be HJ, as in “hand job.” But I feel like most people won’t make the connection as much as they would with BJ lol. Plus I don’t really care, I find it kind of funny. I will make sure that none of our childrens’ names start with a B though haha.

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