Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are not engaged yet but we’ve been discussing timeline and some engagement and wedding ideas.
His dad wasn’t in his life, so he wants to change his last name to his mother’s maiden name. It’s a beautiful last name both in sound and appearance and I’m excited to take it one day. It’s also a nice Irish name and will work better with baby names than his dad’s last name, which is a clunky Germanic name, while my maiden name is an even less charming Romanian.
The only catch is that my initials will spell “ANL”. I’m planning on keeping my maiden name and adding his at the end, to avoid this situation. When signing legal documents, I’ll use my full, but for every day use I’ll just use my first and his last.
Anyone run into similar situations?
Post # 2
I don’t think this is an issue at all, especially since even if you get things monogrammed you can just use AL. I have a friend whose initials are BS which I think is worse, but it’s still a nonissue. Initials really don’t come up often.
If it really bothers you, though, you could also change your middle name to your maiden name (or if I misunderstood and that’s what you’re already planning to do, skip doing that and keep your original middle name) to avoid this.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
ispeakingifs : My fiance keeps making fun of me for what my married name will be. I go my Ali in my every day life, and when I take his last name I will be Ali Lane.
Alley. Lane. >.<
Post # 4
Not mine but when my friend got married her new initials were going to be DTF 😂😂😂 we joked that her hashtag should be #DTFforever
I think there could be worse initials. Like DTF or ASS.
Post # 5
My initials would have stayed the same as his surname starts with the same letter as mine. However, my husband’s surname is not great. It’s long and clunky. It’s also rude sounding and even if it wasn’t, my first name just doesn’t flow with his surname. Plus, I’m one of many of my name, with his surname I’d be very findable on social media and one of two in the world – I like the anonymity of my name being one of thousands.
So I didn’t change my name. Not liking his name was only part of the reason though.
Post # 6
gunnabamissus : I know an Ali Lane and literally never though of Alley Lane lol
Post # 7
Middle names are used so infrequently I don’t think it’s worth the worry. My first/last are now BO which isn’t great! But as a grown up I can laugh about it and move on to the next thing. It’s not been an issue for more than about 10 seconds.
Post # 8
I’m not concerned for my initials but I’ll be careful with my kids.
Post # 9
I know someone whose initials were FAT. Whoops! Haha. I think it’s more funny than anything.
Post # 10
My initials for my first and middle name are D and R so on most debit cards show as DR! Even with the ‘miss’ in front lots of people made the mistake of calling me DR! Without the R they were DJ! That was fun in school 😉
Now they are DRN! Looks like an abbreviated explitvive. I wouldn’t let it bother you! I used to work with thousand of customer accounts and trust me your initials and name will never be the worst! One of my favourites was a lady called Felicity Dick who insisted on being called Flick for short! I’ll leave that one there!
Post # 11
browneyedgirl24 : If I keep my maiden name somewhere (second middle or first last) my initials are “ANML” 😎
Post # 12
loz24 : it’s the opposite with us. Literally only me and my grandmother have this surname in America. My last name is like a common first name in Romania, so it’s like Jane or Johnson.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
My new initials end up being an abbreviation that was common on internet chatrooms awhile back. It somewhat amuses me. I tried to be more careful with my daughter though. Hers doesn’t look like anything like a word or abbreviation that I know of.
Post # 14
ukbea : haha my initials before getting married were B.O! I remember in 9th grade someone accidentally mixed up gym shirts with me in the change room, mine had my initials on them… so I told my gym teacher and she said in front of the class “Does anyone have Britt’s gym shirt?! It has ‘B.O’ in it!”…. and then everyone started laughing and I wanted to die lol.
OP, I wouldn’t stress about it. You often won’t see your middle initials along with your initials for your name anyways. Anytime I’ve seen anyone initial anything they usually only use their first and last. Plus as an adult I don’t think anyone really cares, and if they did probably not more than 3 seconds.
Post # 15
My married initials will be HJ, as in “hand job.” But I feel like most people won’t make the connection as much as they would with BJ lol. Plus I don’t really care, I find it kind of funny. I will make sure that none of our childrens’ names start with a B though haha.