Anyone's married name or initials just sound plain bad? How did you handle it?

posted 9 months ago in Traditions
  • poll: How did you handle your married name?
    I legally changed my name to my spouse's last name : (51 votes)
    54 %
    I go by my married name with friends, etc. but it is legally my maiden name : (2 votes)
    2 %
    I hypenated : (3 votes)
    3 %
    I use both last names (maiden married) : (4 votes)
    4 %
    My maiden name is now a middle name and my married name is my last name : (10 votes)
    11 %
    My spouse changed his/her name in some way : (2 votes)
    2 %
    We both chose a new name : (1 votes)
    1 %
    We both have completely separate last names : (16 votes)
    17 %
    We are still figuring it out : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 16
    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    MsBeer :  Hahah! I am super happy to hear that! And will profess to my fiance that he is silly for thinking it!!! ^_^

    Post # 17
    2758 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2007

    ispeakingifs :  I didn’t really think about initials when I was naming my kids, so I accidentally ended up with a KILS, MFS and ALS…๐Ÿ˜

    So I hope they don’t hate me for it. I didn’t think of it, because I never used all my initials for anything, so I don’t think it’s something to worry too much about.

    Post # 18
    2499 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I had a girlfriend whose initials were STD. Not kidding. She wanted to keep her maiden name for professional reasons but she also wanted to have her husband’s last name. Thus the conundrum. They divorced about 1 year in. 

    ispeakingifs :  OP, I feel you on the Romanian last names. My mom’s maiden name is lovely with a vowel at the end and it’s easy to pronounce. My dad’s last name sounds like a disease. I promised myself if I wasn’t married by 30, I would change to my mom’s last name. Instead, I kept my dad’s last name as my middle name and added my husband’s last name when we got married. Do whatever feels right for you. To me, ANL is Annual.

    Post # 19
    8547 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    gunnabamissus :  Seriously, I have been friends with her for 10 years. I suppose I never thought of it like that as I know Ali is short for Alison. Or maybe I am just stupid! ha ha

    Post # 20
    4534 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    ispeakingifs :  my friend became a T.I.T.  Her sister thought it would be funny to get her and her new husband monogrammed pillow cases. Her pillow has Mrs T.I.T and  his has Mr T.A.T  Him being Thomas Anthony and her being Teresa Irene. Super funny and as my friend Teresa says sometimes you just gotta go with it and have a laugh! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

    Post # 21
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    When my sister gets married her initials will be RAD ๐Ÿ˜Ž hahaha. I took my husbands last name but was hesitant because now my first and last name end with -er and it doesn’t really flow. Oh well! We’ve been married less than a year and I’m already used to it. 

    Post # 22
    9632 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    I don’t think initials are that important unless you name a kid and specifically refer to them as “AJ/BJ/TJ” etc. I know someone who recently named her kid BJ and I’m just like WHYYYYYYYYYY

    Post # 23
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: Chesapeake, VA

    The initials will be different. I am Miss Adams and I will be Mrs. Winn. ๐Ÿ™‚ My first name is Christine. 

    Post # 24
    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

    It took me at least a few minutes to figure out why ANL was a problem.  And I consider myself sufficiently dirty minded. I don’t see this as a problem. 

    Post # 25
    94 posts
    Worker bee

    My new initials will be CMC. Reminds us of CMC, the Catholic Medical Center. It’s not bad. Just something we kid about.

    Op, as others said, this isn’t a huge deal. It’ll never come up. If it really bothers you, just do AML instead of ANL or ANML

    Post # 27
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2018 - England

    ispeakingifs :  my initials are now EW. So whenever I put my initials next to anything at work it just looks like I’m a bit disgusted by it. ๐Ÿ˜‚ 

    Post # 28
    3891 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I live in Utah and my married initials are LDS. ๐Ÿ™„ I told all my Mormon friend that is the only LDS I’ll ever be. 

    Post # 29
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Firemanโ€™s Pavillion

    I love my fiancé, but he has a rather unfortunate last name (sounds like the word “pest”) but it is also doesn’t sound right with my name (he agreed) but still wanted me to take it anyway. This (along with the fact that I have publications and awards under my original last name) I have decided to hyphenate it.

    Post # 30
    65 posts
    Worker bee

    We’re going to hyphenate and both take the hyphenated last name. I would like to use two letters in any sort of monogramming we do, but the trouble is that both our last names start with S and we can’t very well go around calling ourselves the SS family or putting SS on things without looking like neo-nazis.

    I know the easiest fixes are to spell it out or just use a single S, but I’ve also considered being way extra and finding a design with one S flipped backwards or the two wrapped around each other in a stylized way.

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