Anyone's married name or initials just sound plain bad? How did you handle it?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: How did you handle your married name?

    I legally changed my name to my spouse's last name

    I go by my married name with friends, etc. but it is legally my maiden name

    I hypenated

    I use both last names (maiden married)

    My maiden name is now a middle name and my married name is my last name

    My spouse changed his/her name in some way

    We both chose a new name

    We both have completely separate last names

    We are still figuring it out

  • Post # 31
    1456 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

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    ispeakingifs :  googling makes sense. I didn’t. I used a first name I had always loved and a middle family name. Sometimes I wish I had flipped them but I thought it would be easier for her to have her own identity if we used it as a middle instead. I also tried to make sure her initials didn’t spell anything bad lol.

    Post # 32
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    I am keeping my last name, and to be honest it sounds much better with my first and middle names than my SO’s last name would. There is a clashing consonant between my first name and his last that doesn’t roll off the tongue nicely at all.

    Though if I were to change my name, my new initials would be the same as my nickname, which would have been kind of funny. 

    Post # 33
    267 posts
    Helper bee

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    ispeakingifs :  Before we got married Dh and I’s initials were BD SM lol!!!!!!!

    Post # 34
    694 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I took my husband’s last name when we got married, but my maiden name initials were DOA- Dead On Arrival. It also took me a minute to figure out ANL, I wouldn’t really worry about this too much!

    Post # 35
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    My initials are KKK so I never ever use just my initials when it can be avoided! I either use just KK, or make sure at least one of my names is written in full to make it less obvious. People joke about it ALL the time, like it’s funny to suggest I’m racist simply because my parents like names that start with K, and my husband happened to have a last name that also starts with K…

    Post # 36
    9995 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    My h’s intitials are MS , and  he often gets addressed as Ms Lastname. We think its funny , esp if   its  Ms MyLastname  ( I didn’t change my name)  

    Post # 37
    4609 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Someone pointed out that my maiden name sounds like some sort of oral sex. I was quite fond of it but anything is an improvement.

    Post # 38
    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

    I hate the way my first name would sound with his last name. So, for that, and other reasons, I kept my maiden name. Kids can have his. It’s not a bad name, I just don’t like that it rhymes with my first! 

    Post # 40
    1610 posts
    Bumble bee

    My initials with first marriage were


    Which I thought as femme lick. Lol 

    This time just the I will be different FMLC

    I think the only person who looks at our acronym is ourselves. Lol 


    I ADDED my ex husb surname the fist time. 

    This time I will be giving up my mauden and taking fh surname. Because it sounds nice with my other names. But also it’s import  to me, not to him.

    Post # 41
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    My first name gets swallowed by my married last name as the first ends in a sibilant and the second begins in a sibilant. It’s not a big deal to me. I also kind of like that my husband’s and my initials are very close (AKS and BKS) – our middle names are only one letter different. There’s always positives to be found. Our children’s initials are MS and BS. Neither are great, but we just don’t monogram stuff for them or, if we do, we include the middle initial. Don’t focus on what doesn’t work, chances are if you don’t draw attention to it, others won’t notice it or won’t care.

    Post # 42
    1264 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    My Father-In-Law wanted to give my oldest Brother-In-Law the middle name “Stephen” until they realized that would give him the initials “ASS.” Really glad they caught that one in time. I’m JHS which sounds like a shortening of Jefferson High School, but I figure it could be worse. I moved my maiden to middle and took my husband’s last name (voted in the poll before realizing that was an option later!)

    I also knew an OMG in high school…her parents named her before that was a thing! And of course she had the LL Bean backpack with the initials embroidered on. 

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