Post # 32
@pinkeclipse: When I went dress shopping, there were two dresses that I ultimately chose between. My mother LOVED the first one and liked the second one, but told me the first one was her favorite. However, I was in love with the second dress. I chose the second one and have not regretted it at all because I know I chose it for me.
Post # 33
@pinkeclipse: My moms always very emotional, so I was expecting a big reaction from her. I was underwhelmed, though. I was so excited to find the dress and she was just like, “Yea, it’s beautiful. It fits well,” and then the kicker, “I’d love to see that dress walking down the aisle of a church, but it looks good.” At that point I realized she’s as enthusiastic as she was going to be. She loves Fiance, but doesn’t like that I won’t be getting married in the church and that we’ll be having an interfaith ceremony.
Post # 34
Thank you!! It’s really hard, because it’s just not something I expected to deal with.
Yes, I need to choose for me, too.
I have an emotional mom, too. Who also wanted me to get married in a church! lol. That’s why I feel bad. I keep choosing things she doesn’t like at all. I want her to feel happy on my day, too. I’m just hoping when the day comes she will be beaming regradless.
Post # 35
Mom and I aren’t super close and have different styles so I was worried about her not liking what I liked too. I made sure to bring my little sister who’s a good middle and i think it helped.
Surprisingly, we both liked the same one and she was extremely happy with my choice. She did want me to wear a veil but when we tried one on, we both agreed it was too much.
I hate to say it but I would have had a seriously hard time buying the dress if mom didn’t like it. Can you sit her down away from the dress shop and ask her why it’s not her favorite? Like a little heart to heart. Moms love that. She may have a completely legit reason as to why or maybe she forgot how it looked and you nees to take a look at some pictures. ask how she imagined your hair and accessories.
But, in the end, it’s you in the dress and you in the pictures. Buy what you love and mom will come around!!
Post # 36
My mother may have initally loved my dress more than me! I saw this dress before trying it on and I think I knew it was going to be the one. Yet I tried on this beautiful lace gown I was in love with (and everyone else hated! Not just disliked, adamantly HATED!) and thought it would be the one. Nope. So I was still holding out hope for the lace when I showed everyone my current gown for the first time. Everyone had positive reactions. My MoH cheered, my other BMs clapped and cried and my mother burst into tears!
Post # 37
My Mother loved my dress.
Post # 38
My mom didn’t get to go shopping with me (I did it all alone). She thinks my dress is pretty, but a little to “immodest.” It’s a v neck with thin straps. She wants to get a bolero or a shawl. I like the neckline the most! We’ll see what happens. (aside: My Future Mother-In-Law will totally die if I don’t wear something over it. I don’t really care!)
Post # 39
I’m wearing a tulle ballgown too! Can I see yours?!
Post # 40
I trusted my mother’s judgement, and I knew she would be honest about what flattered me and what didn’t, regardless of her personal preferences. She clearly liked a gown that I only tried on at the end for her (she said was “very Jackie-O”), but she was fully on board with the dress I chose. It was flattering and “me”. I guess I knew she wasn’t devoted to a particular style, and I knew she wouldn’t steer me wrong in terms of what actually looked good on me. I couldn’t have shopped for a dress with someone whose judgement I couldn’t trust. Falling in love with a dress doesn’t necessarily mean it if the most flattering look for a person. Sometimes the two things go hand in hand, that that is ideal. But when they don’t, I needed someone to tell me the truth.
So I guess it comes down to whether you trust her judgement or not and whether you think she is honest about how you look. It would have been very hard for me to choose a dress my mother didn’t like, but clearly a lot of other people feel differently.
Post # 41
at first my mom didnt “love” my dress. i ordered it online. i think that took away from the bonding and shopping around for the perfect dress, but since then she has gone with me to all my fittings and she seems to have fallen in love with it and the idea of me getting married, she wasnt a huge fan at first about the whole wedding idea, but she has come around. I had my dress with me at my bridal shower (my fmil was taking it to finish some extra alterations) and she made me wear it for the ladies that were there and i mentioned that I wanted to cut the sleeves and she was like NO thats what makes the dress so beautiful, awww!!! =0)
Post # 42
My mom lives too far away to go dress shopping with me. I sent her a pic of me in the dress I love and a couple of other dresses. She said she liked the dress that I hated. I only really sent her the pic of the one I hated to give her something to compare the other dresses to…I guess that was the wrong thing to do on my part!
After talking to her and telling her that the dress I loved was a size 12 sample and I’m a size 2, she kinda understood why the dress didn’t look so flattering on me. She’s looking forward to seeing me in a dress that fits…I haven’t ordered my dress yet but I know it’s the one. I just hope she likes it.
Post # 43
My mom likes it for the most part. She wanted white-white but it looked terrible on me – I tried a few white-white gowns on to appease her and she agreed they looked terrible, but for some reason was still kind of unsettled about the ivory. She also really wanted something outrageous …. think feathers, rhinestones, lots of tulle, super open back, etc. There are absolutely beautiful dresses out there like that! But I’m having a very rustic DIY wedding and those dresses are just so not me. So she likes my dress, but would have picked something different, if that makes sense.
Post # 44
My mom LOVED the one that I really liked and I pulled the trigger immediatly because she was so excited. I actually kind of regret that now as I think there may be better dress options out there (but I’m also an incredibly indecisives/back-and-forth person haha). Don’t let your mother’s opinion stop you from getting your dream dress. I’m sure once everything is put together (veil, hair, make up, jewerly) and she sees how utterly beautiful you are, she’ll love it just as much as you!
Post # 45
I voted for the most part because my Mother-In-Law said that she thought it was “quite daring.” I wasn’t going for a traditional wedding look (wanted more along the lines of 20’s Hollywood glam.) I don’t think it was what she expected.
My mom liked it though 🙂
Post # 46
My mom’s only seen pictures but doesn’t really like my dress and I feel really terrible about it.
My mom lives pretty far away and flew in to take me dress shopping, we found an amazing dress but it was a little too $$$. The next month I revised my budget and went shopping again with my future Mother-In-Law and ended up buying a different dress that was more expensive than the one my mom loved. The dress I bought makes me look out of this world super model stunning and future Mother-In-Law got emotional but looking back I looked pretty great in the other dress too and I feel like it would have been a lot more meaningful to have bought the dress my mom loved 🙁