Post # 17
yes, he hates having his picture taken…. it drives me crazy because i have spent a lot of money on all my cameras and love taking pictures.
he complains everytime a picture is taken (maybe one a year) that he looks fat in them. i told him the reason he thinks he looks fat is because he’s not used to seeing himself in pictures because he never lets anyone take them.
Post # 18
Maybe a fair comprimise is to have an shorter engagement shoot, don’t do one of the stylized ones with props, just pick one cool location get a few pictures snapped and take him out to lunch after!
Post # 19
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I’ve actually heard that part of the reason so many photographers include an engagement shoot in their package is so they get a chance to see what it’s like to photograph you! As a PP stated, her SO closes his eyes alot in photos. At the engagement shoot, your photographer will learn that! Then at the wedding he/she knows to take a couple pictures quickly of a certain moment. That way at least one of them will have his eyes open lol.
Maybe you could explain that? If you go through a quick, casual, low key engagement shoot, the day of the wedding the photog will know exactly what to look for and it will make those pictures effortless and easy.
FWIW, my fiance is the EXACT same. He keeps saying that if the photog “gets in his face” at all during the wedding, he’ll fire them on the spot. Um, ok… use zoom alot. Gotcha lol. But I know it’s because at my cousin’s wedding, the photographer was AWFUL. She stood right in front of them at the altar while they said their vows to get “close ups” and blocked several people’s view. And was constantly pulling them aside or interrupting other people to “position” them. My mother ended up walking up to her at one point and flat out telling her “You’re being a pain in the *ss” o_O
Post # 20
He likes taking pictures together, but he doesn’t smile and it drives me nuts! He has such a beautiful smile, but none of the men in his family smile in pictures so they all look miserable in all of them. Sometimes he’ll make a goofy face instead, but it really bothers me. He says he hates his teeth and feels silly when he smiles in pictures. I just hate when people see pictures of us because they automatically think we had a fight right before the picture was taken, because I’m laughing and he’s stonefaced, which doesn’t match his personality at all! 🙁
Post # 21
@MsGosling510: I think @Sunnyday278 has a point- a lot of times, the engagement session can be used for the photographer to learn how you guys work and for you two to adjust to working with a photographer. That way, on the wedding day, there are no hiccups over minor things (picture-wise, that is!), because you’ve ironed them out in your previous session(s).
I am in the same boat as you, though, because my Fiance also HATES having his picture taken. Generally, he complains that he looks overweight in his photos. Personally, I think he looks fabulous in most pictures and don’t even realize they could be bad until he begs me to take them off facebook (i comply)!
We’ve solved this problem(ish) for our wedding and engagement photos: Our engagement will be 13 months total- I told him we don’t really need our photos taken until about 12 weeks before we send out our save-the-dates (in case we want a photo on the STD, and obviously I will want to put the photos onto our wedding website). So we set a date in the future, and we both have the goal of slimming down just a bit in order to feel comfortable in the photos. He seems to be OK with this idea, and we are planning to take our pictures in September. He’ll then have another nine months to adjust before we take our wedding photos.
So far, he hasn’t complained about it too much (other than to make me agree that we won’t have to take any pictures he thinks are cheesey- mainly the ones mentioned above, with noses pressed together, etc.). Having a videographer is another story. I can’t even bring that up without sparking a serious debate. Hmmmm….
Post # 22
My SO hates having his picture taken, but I am forcing an engagement session out of him. Just tell him that it is really important to you and, when he sees the results (either great pictures or a happy you if he hates them) he will be glad he did it.
Post # 23
I’m not forcing an engagment shoot on my fiance— honestly if he’s going to be miserable, then it’s just not worth it to me to force anything on him. He’s not comfortable in front of the camera, never has been, never will be, and while I would like more photos of him (and especially of the two of us together), it’s simply not important enough for me to force my opinion on him.
Different couples will have different answers here based entirely on how badly one wants the photos vs how badly the other doesn’t want to be in them. For us, it’d be on the scale of me forcing my cat to take a bath— very painful and ultimately the benefit doesn’t make it worth the bloody scratches.
That said, we selected a photographer who specializes in action/candid shots as he is willing to sit through a VERY LIMITED number of staged photos on the wedding day, but I think we will have a better chance of ending up with photos we both love if the photographer is good at sneaking up on us.
Post # 24
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Thankfully, my husband loves to take pictures and to be in them, but my ex-husband was the opposite. It was infuriating.
Post # 25
Ugh, yes. He’s not very photogenic, so that’s definitely part of the problem. The only way I get pictures of him is when he’s not paying attention or they’re silly – then he actually looks great! So it looks like we’ll have lots of silly pictures in our future. It could definitely be worse.
Post # 26
My Fiance hates it also. He dreaded e-pics but got them done because I wanted them and he enjoyed himself. It’s great practice for the wedding if he isn’t comfortable in front of the camera!
Post # 27
Fiance hates getting his picture taken. HATES.
He has nicer skin than me, great straight white teeth…there’s nothing wrong with him. He just absolutely LOATHES the concept of pictures. I probably score ~1 picture a month, and it works off of a bribery system. Ex:
Him: I’ll give you 3 pictures if you do (insert task).
Then we negotiate from there. Such a ridiculous struggle.
Post # 28
DH hates photos. Then his mom passed away and he realized that by being a brat for years and refusing to have photos taken, he now has no photos of him with his mother. So now when he is a brat about it, I just tell him, how will you feel when I’m someday gone and there are no photos of us?
A little extreme, but it works. He is a little better about it now.
Post # 29
I’m definitely not forcing an engagement session on him either. It’s just part of the package. I mean i told him it would be cool to do an engagement session at Disneyland. And he thought the idea was awesome. But upon mentioning taking engagement photos, hes like what are those for? why do we need those. Hellooo its the same thing i was talking about for the Disneyland idea, both for the same thing! ugh men.
When me and him were booking our venue, there was a wedding being set up for that day and we were able to look at the decorations being done etc. I think its typical for a large pic of the future bride and groom in the lobby correct? He saw that and laughed bc he thought it was ridiculous. I told him that.. were going to prob be doing that. He thought i was crazy. Its just frustrating bc im all about sentimental moments & photos, hes not.
Post # 30
hahah I love your honesty, and same here! Fiance hates getting his picture taken… but he isn’t very photogenic. Like your Fiance though, he looks great in candid photos. Tried to play that up in our engagement photos that I forced him into, and they turned out pretty good!
I’m just crossing my fingers for the wedding, hoping that he will be so genuinely happy and caught up in the moment that he’ll relax and forget about his photo-phobias. …worst case scenario, we’ll get a lot of pictures with me tickling him to make him smile, which could be cute. 😛
Post # 31
I guess I’m the odd man out because mine is a giant ham.