Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Runnymede Hotel
Hi Bees 🙂
So I realise that this is a forum for being excited about all things wedding, but is anyone finding the expectation that they be excited about every little detail a little bit overwhelming?
So lately people keep asking me about the cake, as if it is this hugely important thing. I do not care about the cake at all! To be honest, we are serving dessert with the meal, I don’t see the point in having a cake on top of that. But of course people expect a cake, and I’ll probably be glad to have one on the day, but I genuinely do not care what sort of cake it is or what it looks like. I think I will put FI in charge of it 😛
Anyone else feeling completely uninspired about any aspect of their day?
Post # 2
the playlist ! my knowledge of music is very limited, I listen to my favorite songs at thats it. so i am planning to ask guests informally if they have any requests for songs
Post # 3
These are items I truly care about but have no desire planning. The dj list and ceremony. I want the dj to play all my favorite songs and get the party started and keep it going but it’s like pulling teeth for me to go on that website to tell him what songs to play or not to play lol even picking out first dance song, fathers dance entrance is hard on my part lol
I have yet to pick out the readings and I know I don’t want to fully write our own vows but I want them personal to an extent. my officiant gave me a lot of resources but again I am dragging my feet. Lol 5 months til the big day!!
Post # 4
YES! I don’t really care about the cake either as long as it’s pretty, the colour scheme, the flowers(we’re having silk as it’s a destionation wedding and real ones probably won’t last the day in the heat!), and I also don’t particularly want to HAVE to have speeches and first dance, I hate attention on me so this will be really stressful! I probably sound like the least enthusiastic bride ever haha, I’m not but the things I AM excited about is everyone having a good time & being relaxed, good food and lots of laughter and great memories!
Post # 5
I like this topic! I think it’s interesting that so many people are ambivalent about the cake. I totally get why, of course, cuz it’s just cake. My dad’s a pastry chef, though, so literally my only dream about my wedding has been to have him make my cake. It’s hugely important to me! Funny how all that works, I think.
To me, I wasn’t jazzed up about flowers. I was actually advocating for no real flowers at all, but my partner wanted some. So we’ve compromised and are doing bouquets of just baby’s breath for the bridesmaids and baby’s breath and a few other simple flowers for ourselves. Our centerpieces are half crepe paper flowers that I made and half baby’s breath. We’re buying all the real floral wholesale and putting everything together ourselves, so I don’t have to feel stressed about spending so much. Everyone wins!
Post # 6
I’ve been pretty eh about a lot of things – the cake (it’ll taste great, not really obsessed with what it looks like), linens (just doing white and ivory), centerpieces (I’m sure my florist will do a great job), etc. I pretty much trust my venue and my florist to do what they think is best. It’ll turn out great I’m sure!
Post # 7
Honestly, I’m over what people think. I’m having a Sunday wedding in January because it’s greatly discounted and it’s my dream venue. If anyone has an issue with that, they can just not come. I figure that the people that care about us will request a Monday off three years in advance.
I’m also not picky about the flowers as long as they look good. Fake, cheap, not “wedding flowers”, don’t care.
Post # 8
Cake, programs, and menus. I don’t need a cake, I never eat cake at weddings and at my cousin’s wedding last summer tons of people thanked them for not having a cake. Programs, I just don’t care about, we have a big chalkboard with the schedule on it as people walk in the entrance of the venue, and the schedule is pretty simple. Also, menus might be nice but everybody picked out their meal as it is, I don’t see why they need to read the options over again.
Also, unity candles. My mom keeps bringing up unity candles in the ceremony and I can’t even find the words to explain my frustration at things like that. I’d really rather just have a shorter ceremony, and I think everybody else will thank us for it.
Post # 9
Gosh, I wish there was a part of the wedding I could be non-challant about but I’m a terrible a-type and perfectionist which is probably why I am planning 100 percent of it and DIYing a lot of things.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Runnymede Hotel
Thanks everyone 🙂 I feel better.
Before I got engaged I really thought I’d be obsessing over every detail, but once it became a reality, I dunno… none of the details mattered that much! We both got super excited about the food (BBQ ribs!) and the playlist (huge music junkies), but pretty much everything else has felt like too much bother. I think part of it is that actually planning a wedding is so different from having a wedding pinterest board, because on the board it’s all about you, in reality it’s about both of you.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm
I like this thread. My fiance’s aunt is obsessed with making these lace wrappers for our cupcakes – all 1000 of them – that we get the morning of the wedding. Not happening. I told my fiance if he wanted them, he could help her lol. I honestly believe not a single person will remember what sort of cupcake wrapper we had.
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
Warhol_Girl89: I guess I am not caring too much about any traditions. We will not be doing too many of them at all.
Post # 13
Warhol_Girl89: I’m super type-A so I assumed that I would be a wild woman. Once we started planning though, there were some things I really cared about, and a lot that I was like “this is just a party – a really great party, but it’s just a party.” Planning the wedding has been super fun, but I think a lot of that is that I’m not caught up in the details. We picked out the big stuff and are just coasting along on the rest.
I’m also DIY-ing absolutely NOTHING. Zero. Zilch. If it can’t be bought, I don’t want it. Someone asked me “don’t you want your wedding to be personalized” and “Don’t you want to show things about you and your FI’s love” – DUDE. We’re getting MARRIED. That’s personal. No amount of hand stamping or crafting can get more personal than that.
Post # 14
To be honest, most of the details I haven’t been too excited on. I really cared about my dress because I like fashion, and I cared about the food, because I love to eat. Everything else has been mostly annoying. I put my cousin completely in charge of ceremony decorations (I’ll be completely surprised when I arrive at the reception), put fiance in charge of our limo (didn’t care at all), and have been drudging through the rest of the details myself. We are doing a lot of DIY project and it is only to save money. Unlike most girls on here, I hate doing them, and have to force myself to complete them. If wedding costs weren’t so absurd I would definitely be buying everything. The personal touch of DIY things is cute, but not work it to me.
I agree on the cake. I think wedding cake is just ok. It often tastes great in comparison to an often crappy meal, but there are tons of desserts out there that are better. We just aren’t doing a big wedding cake. We instead are getting a huge sweet table with really amazing desserts (our venue is the top floor of a restaurant known for desserts). For “tradition” we got a 5 inch cake just to cut. We are going to put it at the top of a cupcake stand, and order some cupcakes from an upscale grocery store for a photo op (it will be big like a typical wedding cake). We didn’t even get enough cupcakes for every guest. We figured some kids might prefer cupcakes, but I know they won’t hold a cake (stupid pun) to our dessert table (which does have some cake on it for those who need cake at a wedding). Honestly, I expect most of the cupcakes to still be there at the end of the wedding. The cost of the sweettable was probably similar in cost to a big wedding cake (and our photo op cutting cake and cupcakes was only 100 bucks), but we’ve tasted the desserts and like it so much more (we aren’t cake people so it definitely is more us). That’s definitely an option- I’ve seen people on here serve pie and do a pie cutting- totally cute and I would be way more excited for that as a guest. Doing feel obligated to have a big wedding cake just because people are asking you about it (they are assuming a cookie cutter wedding, but maybe that’s not you). If you aren’t excited about it maybe do something you are can be excited about. You might dissappoint a couple people for a second, but it will make your wedding more memorable.
Post # 15
bee2015: Not sure if you sent out your invites yet, but a friend of mine put a spot for song requests on her reply cards. I thought it was a great idea! That way, no one is heckling the DJ all night.