Post # 1
I know, I’ll probably get laughed at for using the word easier and Labor in the same sentence. But FTM getting anxious about the birth process wondering if you did anything during your pregnancy that you think had an effect on making Labor slightly easier or less painful? Open to hearing about what medications you received during the process (epidural or other) or things you did throughout the pregnancy like workout or eating healthy. Thanks!
Post # 2
I haven’t had children yet, but squatting is great for labor.
Post # 3
Rhopalocera : like doing squats throughout your pregnancy? Or just squatting once in active labor?
Post # 4
Hypnobirthing or any other relaxation method you like.
Remember, if you are tense (or push) you are contracting your muscles. That does not help. You gotta just ride the waves and not fight it. You have to really just trust that your body knows what is needed. Each contraction is a wave, it will end.
DO NOT PUSH. Really. No pushing until the baby crowns.
Props and movement, may work for some or all of labor…yoga ball, be on your hands and knees, counter-sacral pressure, walk around, rocking on your bum, water (shower/tub), hand-held massager, etc. Hang on to DH and dance.
Music (have a variety, you might love opera in your daily life, but it might make you nuts during labor).
No shame in getting an epidural, but once that happen, they will not let you move around. So, that can really stall labor.
Make sure to have more than just your DH if you are aiming for un-medicated. Your DH won’t be flooded with endorphins and happy hormones. Labor can be very hard on men too. Having another person to trade off with helps. I had my mom, dad, doula and DH.
Don’t let them check you every X hours. It is painful and they introduce bacteria. If you are progressing without signs of stress for you/baby, keep progressing. I had a single check 9 hours in for them to give me an idea of 10 minutes or 10 hours more.
Post # 5
Whatever you do, don’t lie on your back. That’s working against gravity. Stand, squat, use a birthing ball, birthing bar. Be active during labor. The worse thing you can do is stay still. This is all speaking from experience. And make sure to stay active during your pregnancy because that will definitely make labor easier☺️
Post # 6
Get the epidural. I felt absolutely nothing for the rest of my labor after it. It was awesome. Who cares if it stalls things, I’d rather have 12 hours of pain free labor than 1 hour of contractions
Post # 7
wonderwedding : totally disagree. My labour was 6 hours (so I didn’t have time for an epidural anyway) and I coped fine on gas and air.
I second moving around as much as possible. My midwife wouldn’t let me lie down until pushing, and even then she tried to get me on all 4s.
epidurals slow labour and increas the likelihood of requiring an assisted delivery or c section.
Post # 8
I had epidural for my second pregancy and it was godsend! I was able to feel “in the moment” and the pain was very minimal. Definitely do your research to see if it’s something you want to do though, several of my girl friends are vehemently against it because of the risks involved. If I were to have another baby I think I would still opt for epidural, it really worked for me. Good luck bee!
Post # 9
My epidural worked like a dream. Nothing stalled and it was my first and only pregnancy and birth. I was told that sometimes people can have issues pushing properly, because you are numb from the waist down. But I just listened to the nurses and pushed when they said to, and stopped when they said to.
Beware that some people get side effects after like a headache or nausea, I luckily did not.i had to make sure it was pre-ordered on my chart, they wouldn’t give one if it wasn’t. I figured I wanted the option, cuz they won’t force it on you if you decide not to.
Post # 10
Twizbe : Are you in the US? Unfortunately gas and air isn’t widely available here for labor/birth. 🙁 Hopefully it will make it’s way over!
Post # 11
yorp127 : https://www.verywell.com/squatting-for-birth-2752959
Both, really. You can practice squatting throughout your pregnancy to strengthen your legs and increase flexibility, then squat during labor, if it’s ok, to help with pain, speed up labor, help position the baby, etc. Squatting can be great for actually giving birth as well.
Here’s a link to a post about a good way to position ones feet while squatting: http://www.motherearthnews.com/natural-health/a-right-and-wrong-way-to-squat-in-birth-zbcz1602
Post # 12
Agree with the suggestion to walk and move around, avoid cervical checks if you can, and don’t lie down! Laboring in the shower was good for my back pain, and laboring in the tub helped me relax and finish dilating. Drink water or juice to stay hydrated. I think something super helpful for me was learning as much as I could about the actual process of childbirth. We took a Bradley class but if we didn’t I still would have researched what to expect at each stage and shared that with DH because it was helpful to have him know what signs to look for and know what to expect. It made him much more active and knowledgeable as my birth partner. Obviously you can get the epidural to make labor less painful, but if you opt not to (I went without), just know that yep- it’ll be uncomfortable, but it’s what our bodies are made to do.
Post # 13
Rhopalocera : I squatted a lot during pregnancy and thought it was a super comfortable position for me as I got bigger and bigger. I was convinced that I’d love laboring while squatting and intended to push from the squatting position. I was so disappointed that it was THE MOST uncomfortable position for me while I was having a contraction! I absolutely hated it! I was so bummed.
Post # 14
I loved having a doula! She was a wonderful support for both me and my husband. Even though my labor ended in a c-section I was so incredibly grateful for her.
I second the exercising and moving around. I do think that staying active throughout my pregnancy helped during labor. And having the freedom to move around while laboring was also really nice. I loved the birthing ball and getting my back rubbed. I thought I’d be all about the tub/shower, but I ended up hating the feeling of water on me during the contractions! It’s so interesting what ends up being comforting in the moment vs. what you think you’ll want.
Post # 15
ruby26 : Yeah, it’s not for everyone during labor or birth.
Squats done while pregnant are very helpful, though, so you’re effort didn’t go to waste. It’s great that you did them.