(Closed) Anyway else not get the engagement they were expecting? Did you cry?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 17
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow. Just, wow.

Post # 18
5870 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@cass_030_791:  I hear this and wonder if your disatisfaction has more to do with you knowing, deep down, that you weren’t ready to marry this person.  If you’d been dying to get married to him, I’ll bet you would have found this proposal very sweet and the mishaps along the way endearing. He put a lot of thought and effort into the proposal, and that should be enough.

Post # 19
4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

A lot of other girls would kill for this proposal.  He planned for you to swim with dolphins (even though you couldn’t go), took you on a dinner cruise, surprised you with a piece of jewelry that has the proposal on it so you can keep it forever, gave you a heartfelt speech, seemed excited by announcing it to everyone there, etc. etc.

I know that it wasn’t exactly what YOU were expecting but I really think he went to great lengths to make this special for you and hopefully you can recognize that.  I would say that with time you would probably recognize that and let it go, but it has already been three years!  You need to probably move on from this and focus on your relationship.  As others have suggested, if you haven’t set a date after three years is it maybe the relationship that you are more worried about?

Post # 20
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Before we got engaged I was watching multiple unique engagement videos of other people  on youtube and imagining how my boyfriend will propose…how he will come up with something unique..etc…I was  hoping for something unusual…I definitely didn’t want to get engaged in the restaurant like most of the people do…BUT….

In the end he proposed in a very fancy Italian restaurant in Las Vegas (which was our first-date restaurant)…we had 5 course meal..and when they brought our desert it was written on my plate if I would marry him..after that he gave me the ring and I was crying LOL…then he had a room booked at the Wynn hotel (which was our room..when we had our first night together..) and when we got in the room it was decorated with flowers, had chocolate covered strawberries and champagne on the table…I was so happy..jumping on the bed, running around like a schizophrenic horse and texting everybody…I didn’t want engagement like this, I wanted to climb on the top of the mountain, “swim with dolphins”, be the center of a flashmob, or become engaged in front of the Eiffel Tower…But it didn’t happen..SO WHAT?  I got engaged with the man I love..He put effort into it..He palnned..He was anxious…And I truly appreciate everything he did that day…

Post # 21
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

In my opinion your Fiance planned and pulled off a great proposal.  I’m sure the idea of proposing on your BD was ‘set’ so its not his fault that you were sick.  I hate to say it but it seems very immature sbd ungrateful to complain about how much you hate this proposal when in reality it was very romantic.  


i hope you guys seek counseling or something before you get married , you have to learn to let things go esp if they are such  insignificant issues (in big picture.)

Post # 22
2266 posts
Buzzing bee

@cass_030_791:  That sounds like an amazing proposal and it wasn’t “to cliche” at all. 

He planned it WONDERFULLY, and you’re pissed because you were sick? I don’t see that being his fault at all. 

I looked like CRAP on the day he proposed. I had just gotten out of my ceramics class (wearing clay and porcelain powder all over my clothes) AND I had gotten in my first car wreck earlier that day.

It is still my most treasured moment.

He worked hard and all you can do is think about how it wasn’t what you wanted THREE YEARS LATER?

I just.. can’t.. 

Post # 23
163 posts
Blushing bee

Why are you so fixated on this 3 years later? I don’t get it. Is the proposal the most important thing to you? How about the relationship/marriage?

And for the record, this proposal sounds wonderful to me. It sounds less cliche than proposing while swimming with dolphins, actually.

Post # 24
9830 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It was 3 years ago. Time to let it go.

Post # 25
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You sound very immature.  You should reconsider getting married. 

Post # 26
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I can see where you’re coming from. I have a few friends that laugh at the location of my proposal, but I couldn’t care less. I was leaving work, (after having been told that someone hit my car.. so I was in a bit of a rush) when he came out from behind my car, said, “sorry for hitting your car”, then dropped to one knee. He was so precious! He was a ball of nerves.. I haven’t seen him shake that bad since. He worked hard to surprise me (there was a little more to the story, but you get the idea). It took place in a mall parking lot & I looked like death. Do I like the pictures from the 3 people he had hidden in the parking lot? Not really, haha, but who cares?! I get to marry my best friend in a few months!


OH, and he proposed on his birthday. AND I don’t know if I even said yes. I know the words “shut up” and “duh” were said. IDK, I feel like I dropped the ball there. whatever.. getting married in 110 days! 🙂

Post # 27
19 posts

To be honest it sounds like your Fiance did a great job and put lots of thought into it. You should be grateful. Life isnt like what you see on tv  – if you think things are supposed to work out like a movie then you are up for a dissapointing life.

Post # 28
9164 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I was so ill I can’t even remember my proposal. I really mean I have no memory of the night at all, only the things that my husband tells me. It is still one of the most significant nights of my life simply because the man I love proposed to me.

You should count your blessings and get over it.

Post # 29
3107 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@cass_030_791:  per your request you are crazy and spoiled. He did his freaking best. I wish he could read this to realize what an ungrateful person he is marrying. 

Post # 30
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@SashaUSARu:  Schizophrenic horse! That cracked me up 🙂

About the OP: the earlier stated “wow, just wow” sums it up for me. 

Post # 31
917 posts
Busy bee

@cass_030_791:  my SO hasn’t proposed yet, but he had gone to ALL the effort your Fiance clearly went to, I’d be so honoured and proud of him. So you felt sick, ok I get that, but you could at least sound a little bit grateful for all the effort he went to. I’m inclined to agree with the other PPs and say that I don’t think you’re ready for marriage yet. It’s been three years, let it go. 

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