Post # 1
I’m just curious to know your thoughts on renting or owning when you have children. I’m sure the ideal to a lot is to have a house, but sometimes the cards don’t fall that way. My husband and I didn’t plan this pregnancy, we just began looking for houses so we might end up in apartment for awhile longer than expected. My mother is not happy with this. I’m not really thrilled either, for two reasons, 1. It might be harder, financially, to get the house the way we’d like to once a babies expenses come into play and 2. I won’t be able to paint the nursery. I know the last one is kinda silly, but it’s important to me, I’ve dreamed of it!
Where do you guys live with your babes? Or where will you live? What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I own a condo. I’d love to have a house with a yard when I have kids, but in the big city it’s not too common!
Post # 4
If everything goes according to plan (although life rarely does!) I’ll be selling my condo and buying a house in 2-3 years, and I’m not planning on getting pregnant for 3-5 more years, so hopefully I’ll be living in a house when I get pregnant. If not I would probably be living in my condo.
Post # 5
Hoping to sell my townhouse this year and buy a house. Want to have kids later this year. Though, if you live in NYC that’s really different than living in Pittsburgh!
Post # 6
It doesn’t matter much to me. My fiance and I plan on saving up a 20% down payment to build a house, which would probably mean we’ll be raising kids in an apartment for several years. They won’t know the difference, they’re just children, haha.
Post # 7
We are hoping to buy a house right after the wedding and then TTC after we are settled in.
Of course, no one knows what the future can bring and I think I’ll cope with living in an apartment with a baby if that’s what it comes down to. Not an ideal situation and I totally understand your frustration.
Both my parents and my FI’s parents rented with infants. My parents purchased their first home when I turned 2 and FI’s parents when he turned 3 (I think). They too wanted to own, but needed the few extra years before they were ready to do so.
Post # 8
we own a condo in chicago right now, but are hoping to have a baby in the next year or so. our plan is to stay in our condo (2 bedroom) for another 3 years or so, and then move to the suburbs in a house.
Post # 9
Can you use stick ons for the nursery? They are large stickers that peel off easily and leave nothing behind. My daughter has Cinderella’s Castle.
Post # 10
You don’t have “Rent house” as an option. It’s a really good option, especially because in most major cities the rent:own cost ratio really favors renters (even after equity is accounted for).
That said, I hope we will buy, if only to fulfill my design fantasies ;-). We would do a baby in a condo if it had enough space/we didn’t have a down payment together yet, but my hope is to have our first home prior to starting TTC.
Post # 11
I can’t help from personal experience, but I do have two sets of friends who had/are soon having babies while living in NYC apartments. As far as I know, these were planned pregnancies, with the couples’ ideas being that they will start looking at houses in the suburbs when the babies are a few months’ old. I think the idea for both couples was that a baby doesn’t require that much extra space, even though they want more room as their kids get older, and also to keep the shorter commute during pregnancy and while the baby is very young.
Actually, come to think of it, both my fiance and my ex (one of the friends having a baby soon) were born in NYC and had their parents move out to a house when they were a little older. So, yeah, it’s definitely a fairly established order… there’s ntohing wrong with doing it either way, imo. Hopefully you can do it the way you want, but if you can’t I don’t think it’s anything to be super worried about.
Post # 12
Omigosh- stick ons in the nursery is a great idea! And yes, we can cope with an apartment, it just isn’t what I had always envisioned. Who knows, maybe we can find something, even if just a condo for now, in the next few months.
Ultimately, as long as there’s love in the family, the housing is secondary, at least to me.
Post # 13
We currently own a townhouse and would like to buy a new house before the baby comes. We’re going to try to rent out our town house. We have kind of a short time to do this just b/c I don’t want to be 9 months pregger and moving (I’m 3 months now), so we are just hoping that it will work out now. If we have to stay in the town house it’s not the worst thing in the world, but we’re really looking forward to something bigger that has a yard.
Post # 14
who doesn’t have a baby in an apartment/condo in manhattan?
Post # 15
i chose other. we are moving into a house after the wedding- but we will be renting it, not owning it. we would love to buy something first, but with Fiance going back to school for another degree & plans for me to stay home with little ones once they come, it’s just not in the cards at the moment and we aren’t willing to wait until it is. we live in a very nice apartment now, but we want something more ‘homey’ once we are married & starting a family. that being said, most of my friends with babies live in apartments. some of them have been able to paint. i think the decals SoontobeMrsA suggested are a GREAT idea!! i think curtains, wall art, and rugs also can totally change the feel of a space. i know painting the nursery can feel like an important step in getting ready for the baby, but i promise you- the baby will not notice! =)
Post # 16
what @kitzy: said.
Besides, every apartment I’ve ever rented has not had a problem with me painting as long as I promise to paint it white again when I am moving out. Try asking if you are allowed to paint!