Post # 1
I’m curious as to whether any of you have experienced complete apathy in a relationship, and whether you were able to move past this apathy, or whether that was a sign that the relationship was over. If the former, what did you do to move past the apathy? If the latter, what was it that finally gave you the push to end things?
I’m taking stock of my situation and would love to hear your stories.
Post # 3
Im sorry to hear you are feeling this.
yes I have felt this and in my case- it didn’t work out. But I do believe this can be overcome, it’s just that both parties have to be fully committed to overcoming it.
It may not be so in all cases but in my case it resulted from feeling like I was essentially his cook, cleaner, taxi and babysitter (for his son). After 8 years we couldn’t hold a conversation over dinner, and he had no desire to. I was definitely partially responsible because I was young and ever spoke up for myself. By the time I did, we were way past fixing it.
We didnt fight, we were good friends (and remained so) but that is part of the problem- we didnt argue because we were… “indifferent”.
What pushed me to end it? Getting engaged and after 6months being unable to bring myself to plan the wedding/not being excited about my future with him.
So, yes I think you can get over this but speak up sooner rather than later!
And you both need to really want to get over it.
Post # 4
There are things you feel that you can overcome but I feel like apathy is one of those things you can’t get over. Once you just don’t care enough or lose concern for someone, it’s hard to come back from it.
I was both sides of the apathy and it sucked. When I was the one that was apathetic, I just didn’t feel like trying with my ex anymore; and, that was it. There was nothing he could do to make things work.
Hopefully, I’m wrong but I think that you should take step back to evaluate the situation. Why is there apathy in the first place?
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@lookingforadvice77: I absolutely experienced this with my ex. I was with him for 2.5 years and even lived with him. Big mistake.
I heard once the opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. When you simply stop caring. I was 100% apathetic.
I got out of that relationship THANK GOD and 6 weeks later met my now fiance!!!