Post # 17
Eep! Didn’t mean to cause any controversy here with this article, ladies. I certainly hadn’t meant the post in a “you just wait until it’s your turn” kind of way so I hope I didn’t offend the CBC population of the Hive.
I don’t have kids yet, but I do find myself being judgmental sometimes when there are screaming kids at Wal-Mart or when my friend lets her kids hit each other without disciplining them. The article made me laugh since my FI’s mom always tells me how much of a brat he was when he was little and I worry that my kids will be hard to control, too. This article just reminded me to put a cap on any self-righteousness I might be feeling and to give people more of a break sometimes. 🙂
Post # 18
I am childfree by choice, and I will admit, I do judge from time to time, and used to a lot more when I was younger. But now, having kids in and out of my life so much, I tend to sympathize more than judge. I will now offer to help a person by themself with a screaming child (“do you need help with anything?”) or sometimes if I catch a wild child/screaming kid/tantruming toddler or infant by the eye, I’ll smile and wave. It’ll startle them and make them stop crying. Haha, I was in walmart a while ago and did that with a little girl who was maybe 2, and she stopped so suddenly and just stared at me. The mom looked up at me with a weird look and asked how I did it! I told her I just simply smiled and waved at the girl, because she was too pretty to be crying that way (while looking at the little girl) and she actually gave me a small smile and stopped crying. THe mom thanked me, and I went about my day.
While there are days that kids annoy the crap out of me, I try to put myself in the other person’s shoes as much as possible. Thanks for posting this article
Post # 19
I totally just shared this on FB.
Post # 20
I wasn’t going to post, but I really wanted to commend you for your answer. The fact that you can appreciate as a CBCer that not every crying child is the parent’s “fault” is really awesome, and the fact that you’d help people having those sorts of problems really speaks to the kind of person you are :).
Post # 21
You have an awful lot of time to judge people. If I choose to eat lunch at Wendys, or treat my future children to a Happy Meal, why do you care? How does that impact your life?
Post # 22
I am not a parent yet but I have a baby on the way and I teach a class of 2-6 year olds on the weekends for my church so I do have experience with kids and all I can say is that it might not be right to judge parents BUT the FACT is some parents do a better job at parenting than others. Its the truth even if it sounds judgey. I’m not saying its always easy, but some parents are able to always control their kids in public and silence their whines with just a look, or a firm word, some parents are able to always be prepared with a healthy snack, some parents are able to raise well behaved kids that dont act like crazy creatures in public. So if some parents can do it, then it can be done. As a child, I never dared to throw tantrums in the store or even at home, if my dad said no then it meant no and that was the end of it.
Post # 23
My sister-in-law actually HAS held her parenting to the standards the person in the article had pre-kids.
One time when my husband and I babysat, we let our niece watch 30 extra minutes of WInnie the Pooh.
We got an 8 paragraph email from the sister-in-law explaining to us why what we did was so damaging and why we should never have let her do it.
Sooooo….the judgmental door swings both ways 😉
Post # 24
Very good article. It’s funny how everyone’s perspectives change after experiencing that particular situation.
Post # 25
Great article! Thanks for posting it. It’s funny how your thinking can change over the years 🙂
Post # 26
Reminds me of a recent post that circulated, which I absolutely adore:
A must read for those with kids. Those without kids who enjoyed the article the OP posted wiil likely enjoy this, too.
Don’t even bother reading this one.
Post # 27
I wish I could send this to some people. Granted I don’t do most of the thing mentioned, but still. Just making it in this world is hard and I don’t think it would kill people to have compassion. To stop and think ” Hey maybe that Mom with the screaming kid is having an awful day. Maybe I should offer her a smile instead of a side eye?”
Post # 28
This is a great article, thanks for sharing!
Post # 29
Both awesome posts! I am a step parent, and way guilty of judging pretty much every parent I came across (I iwll admit I still do to some)
I have tried hard to hold onto some of my ideals. It’s worked a little. SOme days I just give in the fight.
Parenting is hard work, and i never appreciated how hard until SS moved in. It’s 24 hour on call, no matter how crappy you feel or how tired you are. Never would I offer advice to a parent now that it’s EVER easy. And the joys, they don’t run all day every day. I used to feel guilty that I didn’t feel that way. Now, if I have a few moment a week where I feel joy/fulfilled having SS with us, I feel successful!
Post # 30
sorry, I just now saw this, but I wanted to send you a big ol’ hug and kiss and a THANK YOU for saying that 🙂 I certainly appreciate it. I’ve learned a lot in the past few months from having CBC convos on here, and irl, and its really opened my eyes to things. I used to judge, and judge hard, but then I was judged and it really pissed me off. I put myself into other peoples shoes, and I was ashamed at the things I’ve said. I try to pay it forward as much as I can, and hope that I can change at least one person’s perspective like mine was changed 🙂
Post # 31
I agree with bells. I know no one is perfect, and kids are hard work, but some people are not the best parents. I don’t have kids, but I have been a nanny and a preschool teacher, and helped raise my little sister. The things is, chocolate milk is not what I am talking about- there are bigger fish to fry! I don’t judge, per say, but I do think there are some things that are very detrimental to children and Wendy’s isn’t what I am thinking about!
When parents are passive it really bothers me, kids eat that up and walk all over people.