(Closed) Apparantly professionals don't change their name

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

What a bee-yotch.  It was definitely not her place to comment on your decision to change your name.  So unprofessional.

Post # 4
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow that comment was pretty rude! I would’ve just stared at them and responded with “Yea well so sorry I so unprofessional.”

If it is still bothering you today then I’d write them that email.

Post # 5
2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Wow RUDE. I’d totally re-type and send that email to her supervisor. I’m a professional and if I get married, I will be changing my name.

Post # 6
3194 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ajillity81:  i kind of doubt she meant anything by it.

but as a side note, that’s bullshit about professionals not changing their names. the only time i really hear about not changing your name for work reasons is if you’re published several times over under your maiden name. i have a book published and I STILL changed my name, so even THAT reason doesn’t hold all that much water, statistically.

Post # 7
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wow. You showed great restraint. As a licensed professional who will be changing mine, that person was both wrong and awful.

Post # 8
956 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

What professionals? I work in the business world with professionals and I don’t know ANY of the women who didn’t change their name at ALL when they got married. Many hyphenated but most just changed it. So I am going to assume she has NO clue what she is talking about.

Post # 9
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Wowzers! I would send that email for SURE.

Post # 10
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ajillity81:  UH whaaat? A banker told you that?!! Having worked in banking I can guarantee you that they most definitely do change their names, and they don’t have to jump through the hoops because they know people to do it for them. 

All you should have needed was a copy of your marriage license! I would send her branch manager an email, and if you were working with the branch manager, I would send the district manager an email. 

Also, they really don’t make great money and the job sucks In My Humble Opinion, I know from personal experience. That’s why I left. 

Post # 12
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Definitely ridiculous. Lots of professional women change their name! That lady was out of line.

I’m not changing my name, and I get comments about that EVERYTIME I have to fill out a form or someone realizes our last names are different. So basically we women just can’t win! 

Post # 13
10221 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

@ajillity81:  I would be fuming. Um? Excuse me, but that sounds like she’s implying that either your not a professional or you shouldn’t have changed your name. I would’ve probably said something to her manager for her being so rude!!!

Post # 14
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

LOL her comment doesn’t even make sense, as is evidenced by everyone else’s comment here.  What does being a professional have to do with changing your last name?  So weird.  Anyway, props to you for keeping yourself from pointing out the irony of how unprofessional she was being by saying something so snarky to a customer at her place of work. 

There are so many idiots out there – Don’t waste your time rewriting that email, let alone worrying about some nobody’s opinion of you.

Post # 15
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m sure she didn’t mean it as an insult.  Sometimes things just come out wrong.

Post # 16
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Very weird comment, doesn’t even make sense.  I think you are over reacting a bit, I don’t think she meant you were unprofessional or poor.  I have no idea what she was trying to imply because it makes no sense.

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