Post # 1
We sent out our invites last week and already people are calling my parents to inquire about why their aunt, sister, brother, cousin wasn’t invited. Are you kidding me? Does anyone have an ounce of wedding etiquette?
The lastest call made be almost unleash my inner suppressed “bridezilla” (I hate that word). We sent an invite to a family friend which in no uncertain terms states that “we have reserved 2 seats in your honor”. The wife called my mom and said that 5, yes FIVE members of her family will be coming to the wedding, and they already booked their hotel room. Seriously?? The worst part is that my mom knows I only invited the parents, and she didn’t say anything at all to let her know that we just can’t afford to have 3 extra people. Apparently, they can’t/don’t want to drive themselves from MD to CT so they need to bring their 3 30+ aged children because they need to drive. I’m sorry but if I can’t drive myself to a wedding, the obvious solution would be to RSVP No. Sorry for my rant, but I can’t get over their rudeness. After reading posts on here, I fully expected some people to try to add ONE extra guest, but THREE??? Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Post # 3
Wow, I’m sorry! I really don’t understand people, sometimes. It’s not like you could have been much clearer on the response card! I’d stand your ground, though, and call the offenders — say that you’re sorry for the miscommunication, but you are unable to accomodate uninvited guests at this time, but would happy to let them know if space allows after all your invited guests have responded. It may sound a bit rude, but…they started it! Good luck!
Post # 4
I am putting the # of seats on the RSVP as well. I thought this would eliminate any issues with people wanting to bring extra with them but clearly people don’t care/understand. We have absolutely NO room for anyone extra and thankfully my mom is on the same page as me. Good luck to you.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Oh boy. Mom needs to call that family friend back NOW, and tell her NO. You don’t have the capacity, etc.
I’m not letting my Out of Town friends bring small children to the wedding, I sure as heck wouldn’t let them bring adult children. Those people are being totally unreasonable- there are flights from BWI to Hartford every hour- they don’t have to have 3 escorts drive them. (Or they can change their rsvp to regrets.)
Post # 6
I only had one older aunt ask if her daughter could come since she does not like to drive in the dark. She is a (rather recent) widow and was invited without a guest so we said yes to her daughter. I later learned that this same daughter actually found out she was pregnant the afternoon of our wedding but didn’t mention it to anyone because he husband was out of town. There was one baby present (mom knew it was no kids but also asked and we said yes) and I specifically remember meeting her and my freind with the baby all in the restroom, in hindsight it was a super cute moment of someone (secretly) ending her TTC struggles and meeting someone else’s new baby all by breaking my wedding rules.
Post # 7
My Future Mother-In-Law invited one lady and she RSVP’d 3 others. I feel your pain, but I turned mine into a positive and said it was a chance for me to get to know his family better. I, however, didn’t have a limit on seating so your situation is a bit different.
In your situation, if budget and seating is an issue you have every right to tell them they can’t come. I’d call them up (or have your mom but I think it should be you) and say, “Hey guys. I really want you to share in my big day. Unfortunately, due to budget and seating restraints we only had seating available to two of you.” They should understand if they have any feelings what-so-ever.
Post # 8
I don’t understand people! My Future Sister-In-Law has stated that she will be bringing her kids and her Mother-In-Law (who is visiting in the summer) to the engagment party…..if it’s already starting now (without invites in the mail yet) what happens when the wedding invites go out?
Post # 9
Someone needs to nip this in the bud- NOW. Tell them you understand they need help driving, and suggest a list of activities for their children to do while their parents are at the wedding.
“I’m so sorry, we would love to have all of you attend, but we really only have the space for the two of you. While you are celebrating with us, hopefully Tommy/Susan/Joe can take in the sites of XYZ town. There are some great restaurants, as well as such and such tourist attractions.”
They either fall in line, or they don’t come.
I’m sorry you have to deal with this 🙁
Post # 10
People are such assholes!
Post # 11
I am confused on why it takes 3 people to drive from MD to CT… I mean it’s not like they are driving from AK to FL… I might tell them that I understand they need help driving and that they can bring one guest…
Post # 12
That is SO rude! Wow! I haven’t sent out invitations as yet but I am really hoping that by specifying the number on the invitation, I won’t run into this problem. Although now, after reading this, I’m thinking it might still be an issue.
Post # 13
Same thing happened to me. I mean, really?! I feel like it was pretty clear! The least this person could have done was call and ask before just sending it like this. Some people are really clueless to etiquette. I sent a facebook message asking about it but have yet to hear anything back.
Post # 14
@MDC6.9.12: This is just the funniest thing I have seen all day. Some people! LOL.
Post # 16
oh man! my invites go out in the mail today this is what we ended up doing:
Hope its clear enough!! wish me luck, so sorry about your uninvtied guests, we are super tight to our guest list too!! 🙁