(Closed) Apparently 1+1=5

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
13248 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, I’m sorry!  I really don’t understand people, sometimes.  It’s not like you could have been much clearer on the response card!  I’d stand your ground, though, and call the offenders — say that you’re sorry for the miscommunication, but you are unable to accomodate uninvited guests at this time, but would happy to let them know if space allows after all your invited guests have responded.  It may sound a bit rude, but…they started it!  Good luck!

Post # 4
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am putting the # of seats on the RSVP as well. I thought this would eliminate any issues with people wanting to bring extra with them but clearly people don’t care/understand. We have absolutely NO room for anyone extra and thankfully my mom is on the same page as me. Good luck to you.

Post # 5
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Oh boy. Mom needs to call that family friend back NOW, and tell her NO. You don’t have the capacity, etc.

I’m not letting my Out of Town friends bring small children to the wedding, I sure as heck wouldn’t let them bring adult children. Those people are being totally unreasonable- there are flights from BWI to Hartford every hour- they don’t have to have 3 escorts drive them. (Or they can change their rsvp to regrets.)

Post # 6
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I only had one older aunt ask if her daughter could come since she does not like to drive in the dark. She is a (rather recent) widow and was invited without a guest so we said yes to her daughter. I later learned that this same daughter actually found out she was pregnant the afternoon of our wedding but didn’t mention it to anyone because he husband was out of town. There was one baby present (mom knew it was no kids but also asked and we said yes) and I specifically remember meeting her and my freind with the baby all in the restroom, in hindsight it was a super cute moment of someone (secretly) ending her TTC struggles and meeting someone else’s new baby all by breaking my wedding rules.

Post # 7
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law invited one lady and she RSVP’d 3 others. I feel your pain, but I turned mine into a positive and said it was a chance for me to get to know his family better. I, however, didn’t have a limit on seating so your situation is a bit different.

In your situation, if budget and seating is an issue you have every right to tell them they can’t come. I’d call them up (or have your mom but I think it should be you) and say, “Hey guys. I really want you to share in my big day. Unfortunately, due to budget and seating restraints we only had seating available to two of you.” They should understand if they have any feelings what-so-ever.

Post # 8
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t understand people!  My Future Sister-In-Law has stated that she will be bringing her kids and her Mother-In-Law (who is visiting in the summer) to the engagment party…..if it’s already starting now (without invites in the mail yet) what happens when the wedding invites go out?

Post # 9
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Someone needs to nip this in the bud- NOW. Tell them you understand they need help driving, and suggest a list of activities for their children to do while their parents are at the wedding.

“I’m so sorry, we would love to have all of you attend, but we really only have the space for the two of you. While you are celebrating with us, hopefully Tommy/Susan/Joe can take in the sites of XYZ town. There are some great restaurants, as well as such and such tourist attractions.”

They either fall in line, or they don’t come.

I’m sorry you have to deal with this 🙁

Post # 10
275 posts
Helper bee

People are such assholes!

Post # 11
19 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am confused on why it takes 3 people to drive from MD to CT… I mean it’s not like they are driving from AK to FL… I might tell them that I understand they need help driving and that they can bring one guest…

Post # 12
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

That is SO rude! Wow! I haven’t sent out invitations as yet but I am really hoping that by specifying the number on the invitation, I won’t run into this problem. Although now, after reading this, I’m thinking it might still be an issue.

Post # 13
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Same thing happened to me.  I mean, really?! I feel like it was pretty clear!  The least this person could have done was call and ask before just sending it like this.  Some people are really clueless to etiquette.  I sent a facebook message asking about it but have yet to hear anything back. 

Post # 14
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MDC6.9.12:  This is just the funniest thing I have seen all day.  Some people! LOL.

Post # 16
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

oh man! my invites go out in the mail today this is what we ended up doing:

Hope its clear enough!! wish me luck, so sorry about your uninvtied guests, we are super tight to our guest list too!! 🙁

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