(Closed) apparently i was a bridezilla :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Treat them to a spa day or a nice dinner out. And apologize.  You don’t sound like you were completely batshit crazy but just acknowledging that you were in crazy bride mode and that you appreciate their tolerance of you will be thoughtful and, I’m sure, appreciated.

Post # 18
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Hired hall

I don’t think you necessarily need to apologise, as everyone gets like that sometimes and if you have anxiety I’m sure they understand it. I’m a bit of a worry-wart and my friend has already called me Bridezilla at least once, just because I was worrying about things, not demanding anything lol. It happens to everyone! But it might be nice to take them out for the day, or send them a little token with a letter to let them know just how much you appreciate them helping you through the stress and not making it worse 🙂

Post # 19
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Since they are laughing about it now it’s safe to say that they understand you were super stressed, so even if they were seriously bothered by it they seem not be be holding a grudge.  They know you well and know you’re not usually like that.  But it would be very nice of you to apologize.

If it was me I would buy a round at our next girls night too (or two or three, depending on how crazy you were). 

Post # 20
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Stace126:  best way to apologize to make sure that now you ask them about themselves and tone down the drama, handwritten note would not hurt just try not to be too dramatic about it. they want to go back to normal and so do you. chances are they will freak out about something, make sure you are their shoulder to cry on.

ETA: FYI I was probably a bridezilla. Did not effect any friendships, and I have told my girls over and over again how much their support helped me. I tell other people who know them how great they were and I’m sure word has gotten back around.


Post # 21
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I were on your bridal party’s side of things, I would appreciate an apology and then I would probably just laugh it off. It happens to the best of us.

Post # 22
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with all the previous posters–I think that all of your friends understand (at the rational level) why you did what you did, but a recognition of what you did and a gesture that expresses thanks and validates the entire friendship (the person who said “in your life, not in your wedding” is spot-on IMO) should prevent this from becoming a little seed of resentment that blows up in some ridiculous way later on down the line. 

Post # 23
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would absolutely apologize. It sounds like they put up with a lot and did so without complaining or making you aware of how ridiculous you were acting. And I agree that a gift card or dinner would be even better.

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