- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2024
Sorry it’s long and if I’m rambling
Regular Bee here, but I’m going anon for this one.
Here’s a back story. Fiance was married for 6 years, ended badly… she left him for another man, and took his child with her, along with trying to wipe him out financially. He owns a business and is pretty successful for himself. He ended up having to pay her quite a bit even due to the fact she left… Fast forward 8-9 or so years
My Fiance and I have been together for over 8 years and have a child together. We recently got engaged and things were great, until it came time to insure my ring. I called our (HIS) homeowners insurance company and they said I needed to be listed as an insured due to the ring being in my possession.. Ok… WELL…. Fiance flipped a sh** not wanting me on the insurance policy, and that if anything were to happen to the ring he doesnt want the check being written to me… Which in actuality the policy is in only his name, which means if anything were to happen, and any check needed to be issued, it would be to him… He finally told me to just insure it, so i did. The new policy came in with my name on it and he lost it! screaming at me, and i started crying like what is your problem, what is the big deal, we’ve been together for years and are planning on getting married…. He said if the house were to burn down, theres no way in hell im getting the $500k check, it’s his house he pays all the bills everything is his, (im a stay at home mom/run his business, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week) hearing that broke my heart, like I thought we were a team and he just made it seem like i’m this money hungry mooch that just wants his money… I was like No if the house burned down, we(or so I thought “we”) would build another one… and he said there is no we, the home mortgage is in only his name along with the deed and everything else… collecting any money for anything never once crossed my mind, and he just said he’s not dealing with that again bc anytime a check were issued previously his ex had to sign off also. I’m so upset about all of this, I dont understand. It took 6 years just to be added to the auto insurance, and that was only because it would save him over $500 a year. I don’t pay the mortgage or any of the bills, but I buy whatever is needed for the home, groceries, whatever he or our kids need, I cook, clean, I do everything else, but apparently none of that means anything to him. When I first moved in yearsssss ago we agreed I wouldn’t pay any household bills, I couldn’t afford them at the time and He claimed he just wanted me there with him. It’s like he feels if my name is on anything that I’m going to take it away from him, That is not the type of person I am. He also told me prior to getting married I need to sign a pre-nup, mainly for the business, which I was upset and insulted at first, but then understood, it is HIS business he worked to build it up, even though I have helped a lot. I’ve been with this man when he didn’t have a penny to his name and I paid his bills to keep the lights on, and when money was flowing in. He pretty much just told me I’m not entitled to anything because it was all aquired prior to us being together… In reality if I were to ever leave, I would have nothing but my personal belongings and my child… The vehicles, house, everything is in his name… I don’t know how to feel or what to do… 🙁