Post # 1
We went home for a few reasons this weekend and my fiance’s mom says to me “You guys will have your shower from our side of the family around January sometime”. My response was that I didn’t think we were having a shower anymore. Why? (which is what she asked) Because we downsized our wedding and not many people are invited. When we were going to tell everyone it was smaller, his mom said she had told everyone we had decided on a smaller wedding. But she said she thought everyone was still invited? So now we’re inviting a few more people being aunts and uncles with no cousins (except my cousin on my mom’s side who has to be invited because his mom/my aunt is getting older and has Lupus and isn’t able to travel on her own). And now we’ve had to offer to do a simple cookout (burgers, hot dogs, chips, cake, just what we can afford) a month after the wedding at my fiance’s grandparents’ house for the cousins to be included later (our wedding is about four hours from our hometown). So now I’m having more guests, a shower in January, and a cookout probably around April.
Post # 3
How cool that you get to celebrate your marriage even more now!
Post # 5
I know it seems like a lot (because its an ongoing thing and I remember from earlier posts that you really didn’t want the attention and big lavish thing) 🙂
But, look at it this way … more gifts 😉 kidding!!!
Fact is, you do have family on both sides that want to spend that special day with you (and can’t). It is YOUR day, that’s number one. But, these other ways are great things to get the whole family involved even if they are not invited to the wedding.
As for your Mother-In-Law inviting ppl that you didn’t want to come – I’d make her take it back. But, I’m evil. Good luck and try to enjoy it!!
Post # 6
It is exciting, that weekend it just caught me by surprise because we went from wedding to shower, wedding, and cookout all within about two minutes!
Post # 7
@njm1313: It wasn’t that she really invited them. She just thought that they were going to be invited and didn’t say anything when they talked about being excited. She actually agreed that aunts and uncles are a good compromise while having a cookout for his dad’s side of the family (he has like 20 cousins on that side) when we get back. I think his mom’s sister wanted to have us over for a small get together too if she can’t make it with their side of the family (which I completely forgot about). So starting in January it might be months of celebrations (wedding stuff plus I believe my soon to be nephew’s church dedication and I have a best friend due February 9).