(Closed) Apparently I'm not allowed things because I'm young/inexperienced.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
245 posts
Helper bee

This might come accross badly, but I’m of the opinion that if you don’t make things happen for yourself, nothing will ever happen. There is not a single person that can tell you what you can and cannot do except yourself. I tend to agree with your FI that your colleague is feeling threatend by you. I don’t think it is ever a waste of time to apply for a job. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

You sound like someone who is ambitious and hard-working. You never have to apologize for that. I can understand that it is irritating, but seriously, you must do what makes you happy.

And the sister thing… I think big sisters will always just be big sisters…. Nothing you can do about that

Post # 4
1283 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

ZebraPrintMe:  I can’t say I remember this ever happening to me, but this whole entitled “I should go first b/c I’m older, more experienced, waiting longer, etc” is really tiresome. Don’t let them get to you! I would just tell your colleague that the job opening is fair game, and it’s up to the higher level people in the company to decide, not between you and her. As for your sister, I’ve read through some of your other threads in the past – well, she shouldn’t have waited 5 years if it was so important that she wanted to get married first! 

Post # 6
9146 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

ZebraPrintMe:  Sounds like the green eyed monster of jealously has been touching a lot of people close to you.  You have to learn to let it roll off your back.  I applied for a similar job and not only did I get an interview, I got the job over people just like your co-worker (with her attitude she may never move up due to people not wanting to work with her.)

Post # 7
1939 posts
Buzzing bee


ZebraPrintMe:  Bah! That would really irritate me too! I agree with your FI about your co-worker. She’s stuck in a dead-end job on her own accord, and chances are, management knows about her attitude and may pass her over for a promotion because of it! Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders though, good luck with the interview!

Post # 8
3233 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

ZebraPrintMe:  wow, your coworkers attitude is probably precisely why she has been in a ‘dead end job’ for 12 years. What a cow. Apply for the job and get married on your own schedule, not someone else’s. Same advice I would give someone who was rushing to get married first!

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