Post # 1
So, my SO and I have been together 6 months. We are both in our 30s and we talk about our future lives like we already are married. In our first month he brought up how he could see himself proposing after a year if things keep going the same (they are even better!) but we have not discussed it at all in the past few months. We spend more time talking about our future goals, where we will be in 10 years and how we are going to get there, etc. We are planning on moving in together soon BUT of course, as some of you know from my other posts, he is still married and I am not willing to take that step until his soon to be ex gets her crap together with the paperwork. That having been said, this is the conversation I had with my mother the other day:
Me: So did you know July 4th is a Saturday in 2015?! I could totally get married on July 4th, wouldn’t that be cool! I could probably even keep that date if Mr.Tatertot dumps me cause I could probably find someone else in that amount of time!(joking about the dumping of course)
Mom: 2015?! That is a long time. If you are with Mr.Tatertot, you should be getting married next summer not 2015. and you realize you’ll have to do a 4th of July theme and have blue dresses right…you don’t want that, do you?
Me: Ummmmmm sldrfgiuhsldiugh?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
She then went on to tell me how immoral I am being and how she loves MrTatertot and has never seen me this happy but the insane immorality of dating a married man (ok, I get that part) and us potentially living together not being married (WTF I AM 30!) would make baby Jesus cry (well, those weren’t her exact words…) is so upsetting to her I better hurry up and get married!
This is also coming from that same woman that told me that MrTatertot and I could have kids before we get married because she wants grandchildren. ??!
OH HOLY CRAP…which is exactly what it is, a bunch of holy crap. Oh the joys of having a born again Christian mother…can we add my mom’s name to the waiting list please? haha!
(oh, and I did not post this to get crap from other bees about the unfortunate fact that I fell in love with someone who does not have divorce papers signed- thanks!)
Post # 3
Lol, my mom might like to be on the list too
Post # 4
LOL agreed – my mom would like to be here as well, I bet. She keeps making comments about us getting married…I’m like, “Talk to SO, mom! I’m already on board.”
Post # 5
My mother would. not. shut. up. about us getting engaged (we knew it was close, but weren’t sure when). It came down to the week that we were almost certain he was proposing during, and unbeknownst to me until I came in the house with a ring on, she had bought balloons and champagne to celebrate.
Post # 6
I win this one.
My Christmas present 2012…a subscription to Bridal Guide.
Oh… my mom is SO waiting!
Post # 7
My mom the other day-“I thought bf would come walk with us on the beach at the family reunion to talk about marrying you.”
“O_o? uh. He probably thought you’d drown him, chill out.”
Post # 8
@aithinne: Yikes, I’d say you definitely win!
My mom is angsty too. She has all kinda of plans and what not, she’s a frugal lady and she’s always telling me how we’ll do it on the cheap, potluck style, etc. I’m her only daughter so I can see how this waiting thing is an exciting time for her
@SarahTee, @kandykane1, @Laurenplusalex, @Tatertot2003: !
Maybe we need a waiting Mom list 😉
Post # 9
@QuirkySocialite: bwahahahaha. The beach does seem like a rather easy place to dispose of a body 😉
Post # 10
My DAD was actually the one waiting for us to “hurry up and get engaged” and said I was “getting long in the tooth” before we were engaged… And I got engaged at 22 (DH was 27).
Post # 11
haha, that’s so funny!
my mom was ready for me to be engaged before i was too! my husband and i had just started to talk about marriage (there was no timeline or anything, but he had given me a promise ring and it was just a “one day…” type of thing) and my mom started bringing home wedding magazines and making plans. i kept telling her that a proposal was still a few years away, but she didn’t believe we’d be able to wait that long. mom’s intuition was right- we picked out rings a few months later and not too long after that, he popped the question, haha.
Post # 12
@Tatertot2003: Yeah my mom was like, “Are you going to be engaged before you move to AZ?” She asked this the day after he left to set up the house. No, mom. I will not be getting engaged via skype. LOL
Post # 13
My mom is kind of the opposite. Whenever anyone asks when I’m getting married she’s quick to reply that I have to finish school first (grad school, 3 years from now!). While SO and I go back and forth on the timeline, it irks me that she’s so quick with her own timeline for us.
Post # 14
I can totally commiserate. I’ve had fighting and drama because my mom has been pressuring me (us) to get engaged forever. We’re not even engaged yet and she’s been bugging me to book a venue because it may take up to a yr to get an available date. Geez, what’s the rush??? FYI I’m 31.
Post # 15
You girls are making me laugh! I think my mom definitely should be on the waiting list too! She brings it up all the time during our phone calls. “Oh, was he shopping for a ring? No? It’s almost been four years, I don’t know what the wait is.”
Goodness. You may be on to something here. 😉
Post # 16
My mom keeps calling my BF my husband even though we aren’t close to getting engaged. She keeps telling people he’s her son-in-law and keeps telling him she’ll pay for the wedding if he’ll just propose. I think she’s trying to get rid of me. 🙂