Post # 1
I shouldn’t get married! My co-worker actually said this to me today. And I wasn’t even talking to her about it, I was discussing the issue with someone else and she just happened to be sitting behind us in the coference room. I told her I disagree and that I feel it’s an antiquated tradition from when women were considered property and just because I don’t want to do it doesn’t mean I’m not ready for marriage. Her response? READ THE BIBLE. Give me a freaking break, lady….
Post # 3
@assilem: What is strange about this women’s response is that no where in the Bible are women told to change their name after marriage. It does say that a man and a woman should each leave their own families and become one, not that a woman should leave her family and join her husbands in every way, including my taking his family name. Its a complete cultural thing and not a biblical one. Honestly how offensive for her to butt in though!
Post # 4
Ugh. Well, you’re in good company. I kept my maiden name too! I know there are quite a few bees who did or are planning to.
Post # 5
She sounds like a treat….
Post # 6
OMG, she sounds like Angela from the office! I can just picture her eyebrows arching! Don’t worry about her, she obviously has issues.
Post # 7
laaaemmmmeee to her. jeez woman let people live their lives. this isnt The View meet bible study its an office environment.
Post # 9
Ah, yes. There it is, Samuel 5:13 – “Thou shalt take the last name of thine spouse because I hath said so.”
Except… Yeah. No.
Post # 10
Well, of COURSE it does… (rolls eyes, shakes head)….
WOW. Just. WOW.
Post # 11
@teaadntoast: I just googled that verse and it doesnt say that– or am I missing sarcasm?
Post # 12
I totally get it….. i live in a small town and people were shocked that i would keep my name and add his after mine. The clerk at the records office when we got our marriage lic. actually told me that it was too late, once we signed the marriage lic. i was commited to chagning my name to my DHs last name….i was like WTF? She took a double take and told me, well most girls are racing to change their names i just dont understand why anyone would get married if they dont plan to change their name.
Post # 13
@retreadbride: Lol… yeah she was being sarcastic.
People quote the bible because it says women should submit to their husbands adn that the husband is the head of the home. so they use this to back up the idea that a woman should take his last name.
Its a personal choice and different things work for different women
Post # 14
I’m planning to change my last name… BUT NOT TO MY FIANCES!! That must make me a terrible person lol.
Post # 15
I’m excited to change my last name.
But good for you for not doing it
As for the bible… Why should a 2000 year old book tell us how to live life?
Post # 16
So since men rarely change their names after marriage does that mean most of them aren’t ready in her opinion?