(Closed) apparently not wanting to change my name means….

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@assilem: What is strange about this women’s response is that no where in the Bible are women told to change their name after marriage. It does say that a man and a woman should each leave their own families and become one, not that a woman should leave her family and join her husbands in every way, including my taking his family name. Its a complete cultural thing and not a biblical one. Honestly how offensive for her to butt in though!


Post # 4
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ugh. Well, you’re in good company. I kept my maiden name too! I know there are quite a few bees who did or are planning to.

Post # 5
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

She sounds like a treat….

Post # 6
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

OMG, she sounds like Angela from the office! I can just picture her eyebrows arching! Don’t worry about her, she obviously has issues.

Post # 7
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

laaaemmmmeee to her.  jeez woman let people live their lives.  this isnt The View meet bible study its an office environment.

Post # 8
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

lol the bible

Post # 9
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Ah, yes.  There it is, Samuel 5:13 – “Thou shalt take the last name of thine spouse because I hath said so.”

Except… Yeah.  No.

Post # 10
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Well, of COURSE it does… (rolls eyes, shakes head)…. 

WOW.  Just. WOW.

Post # 11
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@teaadntoast: I just googled that verse and it doesnt say that– or am I missing sarcasm?

Post # 12
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I totally get it….. i live in a small town  and people were shocked that i would keep my name and add his after mine.  The clerk at the records office when we got our marriage lic. actually told me that it was too late, once we signed the marriage lic. i was commited to chagning my name to my DHs last name….i was like WTF? She took a double take and told me, well most girls are racing to change their names i just dont understand why anyone would get married if they dont plan to change their name.


Post # 13
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@retreadbride: Lol… yeah she was being sarcastic.

People quote the bible because it says women should submit to their husbands adn that the husband is the head of the home. so they use this to back up the idea that a woman should take his last name.

Its a personal choice and different things work for different women

Post # 14
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m planning to change my last name… BUT NOT TO MY FIANCES!! That must make me a terrible person lol.

Post # 15
1136 posts
Bumble bee

I’m excited to change my last name.


But good for you for not doing it


As for the bible… Why should a 2000 year old book tell us how to live life?

Post # 16
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

So since men rarely change their names after marriage does that mean most of them aren’t ready in her opinion?  

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