(Closed) Appetizer Help!

posted 5 years ago in Food
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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Amy Turner :  I would go by about 4-5 appetizers per person if dinner will be served within an hour into the reception.

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Sugar bee

My friend’s father was a manager of a private country club, for decades. She had been a server there, during high school/college. He always said 5 pieces per guest, per 45 minutes. You can supplement it with fruit/cheese & cracker/veggie displays.

I’ve told this story dozens of times, but my family was a guest at a wedding, where only 3 passed hors d’oeuvres were served, and they were only offered one of them. It seems like the venue made one per guest and the first ones to be offered probably took two. (I don’t believe any were vegetarian). The one my family was offered contained pork, so my one daughter didn’t eat it – my other daughter didn’t like it, but ate it anyway. Both had already drunk 1 glass of wine, which daughter #1 regretted.

I our area, cocktail hours have extensive amounts of food; cold buffets, hot stations, and at least 10 passed hors d’oeuvres. I went to one wedidng, where I saw the spread of food, and I asked the MOB if that was the main buffet? – it wasn’t.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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2XMOB :  That’s exactly what it’s like in my area. It’s crazy how eloborate some of the coktail hours can be with several passed hors d’oevres and then several hot stations and clod displays. Quite overwhelming sometimes and then no room in your tummy for dinner!

We are doing a cold display with cheese, crackers, veggies, fruit, and dips. We will have a mac n cheese bar (yum, so excited!) and 4 selections of passed hors d’oevres which will cotinue to be replenished if people are consuming them, we are not limited to x per person. This is considered a light cocktail hour for most of my family and friends.

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Amy Turner :  our ceremony was at 1pm (most guests were seated between 12.30/12.45), first course of the sit down meal was served at 3.45pm, and we had 5 different canapés, with one of each pp. Our drinks reception (which is when they were served) was 1.5 hours. It was just right as it took the edge off without ruining people’s appetites. I would probably allow somewhere between 4-6 pp depending on the time between when guests are seated for the ceremony and when the first course will actually be served. Remember that they are appetisers, not a full meal, so you don’t need to go crazy. 

ETA: I’m from the UK where it seems portion sizes are much smaller, and most people aren’t used to eating 3 course meals. So do also consider that. If your guests have big appetites I would go for around 6 pp. Do also factor in timings: the cocktail hour might only be an hour, but if your ceremony starts an hour before that, and then it takes time to get your guests seated for the meal, the gap between them arriving for your ceremony and then eating their first course could well be 2.5-3 hours. 

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Sugar bee

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MrsSapphire :  I’ve been to 10 weddings, over the last 3 years, and only one served dinner, as soon as the reception started. I had only one serving spoon of pasta (they served tableside), skipped the salad, ate about 3/4 of the entree plate, skipped the desert (I don’t like tiramisu), and ate most of the cake. The other 9 weddings – including my 2 daughters, had open dancing as the guests were entering the reception room, then at least 15 minutes of dancing between the served courses (usually 4). It gives everyone the chance to “burn off the calories,” between courses. And then there’s the dessert buffet …

Maybe it’s a regional thing? We’re in the N.E. U.S. Cousins married out of the area offered about as much during their entire reception as I’ve seen during the cocktail hour around here.

P.S. I’m all-in, for the mac/cheese.

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Amy Turner :  There are lots of guidelines published online. A big factor is, how long will the guests have to wait for dinner to be served after they are seated?

http://vibranttable.com/catering-chronicles/all-about-hors-doeuvres-the-where-why-and-how-much/

If you are limiitng the choice to two appetizers, have you ensured that everyone can be accommodated by those choices? e.g. vegetarian, vegan, seafood allergy etc.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

That’s the timeline we had.

Wedding at 5pm

Appetizers out/passed at 5pm

Dinner at 6

We picked like 3 of their ‘fancy’ hors dourves(does anyone really know how to spell that haha) that were passed around by waiters and went with like 3/person because we also provided HUGE tables of vatious desserts, veggies/dip, fruit/dip, crackers and cheese, etc.

I have no idea if the tray passed apps ran out, but the snack tables still had tons of food. It’s really NOT your problem if someone doesn’t get a bacon wrapped date or whatever lol 😛 You’re STILL providing snacks and a dinner and they can choose something else. 

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Trying to figure this out too! Any other suggestions?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I didn’t do  appetizers, I spent the money on a “midnight” buffet more about 10ish and had pizza veggies and dip and cheese trays, could have had a poutine bar but decided it was more then I needed and also had wedding cake slices still available for people

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Helper bee

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Amy Turner :  Yes same here. Looking back, I would have cut the apps in half! Maybe just offer one or two light items like veggies and dip and cheese/crackers just so they aren’t tempted to fill up completely, but can ward off any hunger pangs 🙂

Frankly though, it’s YOUR wedding, and you don’t even need to include apps if you don’t want to. Plus that means more of the dinner will get eaten 😉

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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Amy Turner :  are you saying you’re just having 2 appetizers (say samosas and shrimp on a stick?) – but you’re going to give 4-5 per person? Why not have a bit of variety? If you don’t like the two due to allergies, food restrictions (Muslim, vegan, etc), or just dislike of the food, you could have people going hungry (for example, I’m allergic to shrimp, and hate Indian food – so if all you’re serving is the above example of shrimp and samosas I wouldn’t eat anything). Even at dinner parties you usually serve some appetizers – give the people at least 4-5 choices (or have cheese cracker fruit trays available). 

Remember – your guests will be drinking too – they need food to soak up the alcohol. 

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