Post # 1
Anyone else out there doing an appetizer only reception. I would like to because I think the food is more fun, we will be able to have more choices of food, and I don’t want to spend $60+ on a plate of food that is mediocre at best.
Those of you wonderful bees who have had or are thinking of having an appetizer only reception; Was it easy to get your venue to work with you on making a custom package of appetizers only? Or did you use a venue that allowed you to bring in your own caterer? If you already had to or have been to an appetizer only reception: was it fulfilling or did you think, “I’m still hungry!” haha
Thanks for advice! I always love to hear stories/advice from other bees.
Post # 3
I didn’t do that, but I just wanted to say I think it’s a great idea! I always end up filling up on appetizers anyway because they’re usually better than the meal!
Post # 4
I’m doing appetizers only. I’m using the fellowship hall at church, so bringing in my own caterer and its been so much fun putting together the yummy menu. We are also doing a cupcake tower instead of cake for everyone.
By doing this, it’s only $11 a person! And I don’t think anyone will go away hungry with all the yummy options.
Post # 5
Totally! I’m all for the appetizers. We picked it for your reasons plus 1. Our reception venue has a mixture of stuffed furniture and small tables that should make mixing easier than having a bunch of big tables and 2. People here line up at the buffet table like cattle at a trough. They sit, they eat, they leave. I’d like things to be a little more social! I figure if I serve them all a few drinks first, then give them finger food and make them look around for a seat, we’ll get a less livestock-like event. (I hope!)
Our veggie-friendly menu includes:
Bruschetta Con Pommadori w/ Crostini
Shepherd’s Bread & Assorted Crudités w/ Spinach Dip
Chicken Salad Mini-Croissants
Strawberries & Grapes
Texas Caviar Dip w/ Scoops
Soft Cheese Display w/ Asst. Crackers
BBQ chicken skewers
Salmon Mousse Cucumber Rounds
Hummus w/ Sundried Tomatoes, Lemon & Toasted Pita Bread
With cleanup, it’s costing us $12.75 a person. I can live with that.
Post # 6
I am not doing an appetizer only reception but I have been to one. It was so much fun! They had buffet stations where you could go get a plate and they had passed horderves. The bride and groom entered the ballroom and immediately went into their first dance followed by the father daughter and other traditional dances. People were up mingling and dancing. It was open bar so people were definitely getting down on the dance floor. The apps were definitely on the heavier side. They had a smashed potato martini bar – martini glasses and you added whatever you wanted from the toppings bar to the potatoes. They had several different bite sized apps that were passed the one I remember was a bacon wrapped shrimp on a bed of grits. They had pulled pork and hamburger sliders. They had a fruit with several different dips. A hot spinach dip. Mini pasta servings – it was a cool presentation – a fork that had the noodles already wrapped around it. They did not do assigned seating but each table had a bread basket and several butter mixes (like a honey butter, pesto butter, seasoned oil dip, and something else). They also had a dessert bar and wedding cake. I probably danced more at that wedding than any other. Live band didn’t hurt either 🙂
Post # 7
I’m a HUGE appetizer fan, I’d be in heaven if I were invited to a wedding with just appetizers! I think it’s a terrific idea.
Post # 8
i am doing this! we were not feeling the whole sit down dinner thing. we’ve got enough tables and chairs for everyone to sit if they’d like, but we’re hoping for more mingling and dancing. it didn’t save us much money because we over ordered on the food to make sure there is more than enough and nobody ends up hungry. i think we have like 18 pieces per person? can’t remember exactly…also a chocolate fondue and wedding cake. one important thing i think is to make sure you are clear on the invitation that you are not serving a full meal so guests are prepared. I was thinking of saying “cocktail reception immediately following ceremony” or something like that. we are at a location where we hired our own caterer.
Post # 9
I agree with an appetizer only reception, I am thinking of this for our reception. However, how many appetizers per person seems good?
Post # 10
I too am a huge appetizer fan!! I’d much rather have lots of exciting little tastes than one boring meal. I say go for it!
Post # 11
@Mandyrosy: Whoa! Would LOVE to live somewhere that you can do all those apps for that price…
We’re doing ‘appetizers for dinner’ as well to avoid a sit-down style thingy. However, we’re doing 15 apps pp (worried this won’t be enough) and it’s still going to cost $32/person. Yikes! I LOVE the idea but think it might not go over quite as well with the older guests…
Post # 12
@HoneyBun21: Seriously? This is the second post in 10 minutes I have read from you where you are completely snotty. Get off your high horse already!
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2021 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
We didn’t have an appetizer reception, so I can’t offer any advice, but I wanted to pop in to say that I LOVE appetizer receptions! Just ensure that you have enough of everything per person and you will be fine 🙂 You could always add in a carving station to beef things up a bit (pun intended)
Post # 14
I respectfully disagree with it making you look cheap. It has become more acceptable to have food stations where your guests have more options. I have been to several events for some “country club” types where they served heavy appetizers done in stations and everyone loved it. They were able to mingle more from my experience.
I am doing the same and my guests are excited!! I say, go for it! Just ensure that you have plenty and I don’t think anyone will have any reason to not like your choice.
Post # 15
@HoneyBun21: I’m sure if you’re going for an ‘elegant’ wedding it isn’t a good idea. However, I think many people doing appetizer weddings aren’t going for an elegant affair and are opting instead for a structure that will allow their guests to simply relax and have fun, rather than abide by a certain structure. Well…. that’s why we are doing it anyways.
Post # 16
I did a heavy appetizer reception. It was really well received, the food was great, and people were up all night mixing and mingling which was what I wanted. People had a great time, and I had nothing but compliments about the food. I paid about $30 per person, just for the food, and we had about 15 pieces per person. Our venue included a caterer, so we just had to work with the chef to make a menu that worked for us.