(Closed) appetizers + Dessert OR a full dessert reception? Yes– ONE more post! lol!

posted 9 years ago in Food
  • poll: Which is a better idea?

    Appetizers + dessert

    Just dessert

  • Post # 17
    2567 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Desserts Only is a lot less complicated to try to explain. That said, you will need to be VERY clear with your wording— perhaps even to the point of a little note (email would be ok) just before the wedding to remind people that  “as we will be serving a dessert reception, we recommend enjoying dinner prior to the ceremony” or something like that.  The 7pm hour will automatically establish in many folks’ minds that there will be dinner simply because it’s dinner hour, and for the folks who understand straight away that it’s dessert only, that fact might fade in the time between sending the invites and the actual event.

    I would also try to include some fruit-based selections even if it’s just a fancy fruit salad (as long as it’s fresh and not canned…. pineapple, mango, melon, berries), and something savory for folks who aren’t crazy about sweets or may need to watch what they eat for medical or fitness reasons.

    Post # 18
    2503 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted for desserts only. I think it would be a cute concept and it would be easier to word on an invitation IMO. I’m probably in the minority, but I don’t really care fo a nighttime reception/cocktail party with cocktail sandwiches and vegetables. I would rather just have all sweets and you can really play it up with a “Life is Sweet” type theme.

    Post # 19
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think desserts only would simplify things, but perhaps add some nice cheeses & grapes to one of your dessert tables? Many people enjoy cheese after dinner, and it would add just a bit of savory to the mix without adding too much extra work. 

    My sister wrote “cake & champagne reception to follow” on her invitations- everyone knew to eat dinner beforehand (her ceremony was at 8pm). She did surprise people with a few appetizers in addition to dessert, which people liked. 

    Post # 20
    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I vote for whatever is easiest for YOU.  People will be coming to celebrate your marriage, and if the lack of shrimp cocktail upsets them… they are missing the point.  ๐Ÿ™‚  

    Post # 21
    4394 posts
    Honey bee

    I would do both dessert and appetizers. But I wouldn’t do sandwiches and vegetables. Something like cheese, crackers, nuts, fruits, dips is what I would want to eat along with sweets. I think if you do just desserts, people will get sugared out. I love desserts, but in order to eat more than just a piece of cake and enjoy the variety, I would need some savory foods in the mix. There are a lot of great appetizer options, but sandwiches and vegetables wouldn’t be my first choice. 

    Post # 22
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Definitely just desserts! With it being at 7:00 PM on a Sunday, most people will have already eaten. If it was a Saturday, I might think differently.

    It also makes it much, much easier on you and much more understandable for your guests. I’ve been to functions where they say there will be appetizers, so we eat light before going, and end up getting there to find out that the “appetizers” are actually tables and tables of pretty good sized portions. In other words, by saying appetizers, your guests won’t really know exactly what to expect..by saying desserts, they will know exactly what to expect and will be able to prepare for it!

    It makes the wording for your invites a lot less complicated as well.

    Idk if I would even worry about adding a cookie bar. It would be nice, but from the sounds of it you already have a lot of desserts going on and you’d be surprised how fast cookies could add up in cost. (Although I could just be saying this because I just ate dinner, I’m full, and the thought of a cookie is not appetizing right now.) LOL! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 23
    557 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think the idea of cheese and fruit is really good!  Adding shrimp might be good too, but if its much easier to do the desserts, just go with that.  As long as people plan to eat ahead of time, everyone should be happy ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 25
    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    As long as you are making it clear that it is a cake and punch reception, I really see nothing wrong with desserts only. Since the wedding is not untll 7 most people will have eaten. I have been to afternoon cake and punch receptions and it was never an issue!

    Post # 28
    1345 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Appetizers+dessert. What if people don’t like/don’t want too many sweet things?


    Plus I always think of the episode of ‘Four Weddings’ when the one bride had just a dessert reception, and the other ordered a pizza and ate it in the parking lot.

    Post # 29
    236 posts
    Helper bee

    IT depends on your guests. I know that for weddings I have attended I could have been driving several hours to get there so eating soon in advance would really not have been an option. How long to weddings last in the US? I’m irish and our weddings last until 2am at least so people would be very hungry at that stage! 

    Post # 30
    773 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Just Desserts…but I would definitely follow fishbone recommendations on the wording of the invites so that there isn’t any confusion on your guests part.


    Post # 31
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    App + Dessert

    Even with this option, you still have PLENTY of dessert options, but the desser only option does not give you any savory choices. Lots of people do not want or cannot eat sweets.


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