Post # 1
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Blushing bee
A bit of background, at my current job there is me and one other person in the department. To put it politely I cannot stand this man. He has made more than enough racist and sexist comments, I’ve been in the department 11 months and still had no training despite managers setting out training programmes purely because he ‘doesn’t want to’ train me. He took a week off last month, said he was ill then confessed his wife had left him and taken the kids. Obviously this is something I’d never wish on anyone…. Until he came back and said it had been a misunderstanding and she hadn’t actually left him.
Fiance came home the other day and said a job had opened up at his workplace and his manager had asked him specifically if I would be interested. I need to let them know by the end of today before they start advertising properly, have any bees ever worked with their SO? How did you find it working together/living together?
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
busybee200717 : I work with my FI! 🙂
I actually got him the job. Bonus – it’s my parent’s company! That makes for a fun time Wedding Planning….
Anyway, I digress.
We don’t really have any issues working and living together. I mean, sure, there’s not always loads to talk about but we manage.
He works in the Warehouse and I work in the office, so we don’t spend ALL day together (although we used to before we moved Unit) which helps I think.
My main tip is to not bring work home with you. We’re allowed a rant about a crappy day in the car on the way home, but we try not to let that spread into our personal time at work.
Hope this helps and if you have any specific Qs just ask 🙂
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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK
I’ve not worked with my Fiance but I did work with my parents whilst living with them and it was fine. I never understood the “OMG it must be so hard working with your parents” thing to be honest.
I know Mom and Dad found it tougher than I did (although they didn’t admit it at the time), but there were other strains on their relationship as well that weren’t at all work related.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
How big is your FI’s company & how closely would you two be working together? Would he have a supervisory role over you?
I’m going to be working with my Boyfriend or Best Friend at his company starting in a couple of months, but it’s a huge company so I’ll probably never see him. I think the most we’ll do is carpool to work together. If we were going to be working side by side, I’m not sure that I would personally do it. But that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t work for other relationships.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
Honestly I would at least go in and check out what you would be specifically doing. It so many ways it could be great, but you won’t know how much overlap you two would get and you’ll be able to get away from that shady employment of yours now.Â
Post # 6
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Worker bee
I started a new job last year, Fiance hated his job at the time and applied to where I work. He and I have been working together for 4 months now and it’s completely fine. Our actual work is done separately, it’s not like we are side by side during the day but we do interact at times during the work day. We report to the same supervisor for now (has to change after the wedding). We also commute (2.5 hours total daily) in the car together and have lunch together. We haven’t had any problems and I think it was a good move for us. We both remain professional at work ( no touching, no pet names, etc)
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I work at the same company as Darling Husband but there’s like 20,000 people and we work in completely separate departments. Our teams actually had to work on a project together this quarter and we were both POCs and it wasn’t too bad, but I don’t think I could do it long.
Basically if you guys wouldn’t be collaborating too much or working together directly then I think that would be best. I love working in the same building though, we have lunch together or take breaks together whenever we want 🙂
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
We’d be in separate departments, I’d see him probably on lunch and on the way to/from work. He wouldn’t be above me, it’s exactly the same money as I’m on now and I know pretty much everyone who works on the team already from nights out etc. The majority of the team are invited to the wedding as well through him. There are a few people he works with who are in relationships and management are fine with it as long as it remains professional and doesn’t affect their work
My only thing is my current job is 10 minutes from home, it’s an easy job and my manager is my neighbour so I don’t want it to be too awkward. However, lately I’ve been coming home each day in a foul mood due to my colleague which I would obviously love to stop!
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
busybee200717 : I met my husband at work! But we didn’t work on the same floor. It was great! The only thing was we commuted together so had the same hours, of course. It seemed like a lot of time together. Oh, and took our lunches together every day. We get along, but still… a little space is nice.
Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Darling Husband and I work together. Separate departments technically, but I can see him from where I sit. It works fine for us. He has a rotating schedule but we carpool on days we work the same hours and go to lunch together.
I wouldn’t want to work directly with him every day though lol.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
busybee200717 :
If it isn’t a small company and you aren’t in the same department, I doubt it would be a problem…
If it was the same job, same department, or small company, I think it might be a little too much “together time”…
I worked for my parents for a few years…it was a lot of fun, I am glad I did it, but we didn’t live together too!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
My parents spent a large part of their lives working together. In my opinion, i think working together is a strong way to kill the love life and excitment in a marriage. But i can only base that on seeing my parents, friends and extended relatives working together. I am sure there are couples who enjoy working together, but i’ve yet come across one. Saying that, i work wit my partner in his company as support, but i only do that about 3 hours a week which i think is the max time i would spent working with my partner (Oh, and his staff don’t know that we are a couple).
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
1judejude : really? I love working with FI! We’ve been together 8 years, worked together for 7ish and lived together for 3. We’ve not seen any dip in love or excitement.
busybee200717 : If you’re in different departments and neither of you is “above” the other, I would go for it. Plus, you’ll save money on Petrol going in together and it’s nice to have a lunch buddy 🙂
Post # 14
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Busy bee
stephisaur : Yep! i think my parents’ marriage would have been a happier one if they did not work together. My sister’s bestfriend recently got divorced as well, they’ve had issues and i think working together almost everyday play a large part. But saying that my parents and other relatives work very closely together because they are family businesses. But that’s great you enjoy working with your husband – wish everyone enjoyed that.
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
Darling Husband and I have worked for the same Company in 4 different occasions, including our present employer. We had always worked in different departments, but currently work in the same department, just in different units. Since we both work in the field, we never see each other at work, unless there’s a departmental meeting. For us it’s been great every time.
The only downside for us right now is in terms of his growth opportunities. Since I’m one of the 2 managers in our region, he will most likely need to apply for positions in a different department or company to keep advancing in his career.
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