(Closed) Appreciate the Waiting Time

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

When I was not engaged, I liked calling him my boooyfriend. In fact, I absolutely hate the word Fiance. It sounds soo pretenious and cocky as if “I’m engaged, and you’re not” OK- don’t flame this is personal opinion and I’m well aware I’m the minority and that’s fine, not knocking ya! I personally don’t like using the word. And to this day, I still call him my boyfriend if I’m “corrected” I tell them I prefer to call him a boyfriend or partner.

So for me it was just a word ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh yeah and I like the “miss” part of my name!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We we are together, things are very stress free, and we never really bicker and never argue. I know once we do get engaged and move in together, things will be stressful. I’m enjoying how simple things are at the moment.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m enjoying the simple things too – living together, stress free of all the planning and money ect. that goes into a wedding.

I also kind of enjoy knowing that my family and friends are all wondering when we’re going to get engaged. I used to get asked A LOT and I’d just shrug it off as if I don’t care (can’t let any of them know how I really feel – lol). It’s kind of fun knowing they’re waiting for it too. Not sure if that makes any sense…

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Gosh, I really hate to be the pessimist in the group, but right now I can’t think of anything that I will miss about our current relationship dynamic. Maybe it’s because we already live together, share the bills and have a kid? I will not miss my ‘miss’ status, I hate the words boyfriend and girlfriend-at our age, it feels ridiculous coming out of my mouth, and I will be so glad when everyone stops asking ME whenwhenwhen?!

Help me think outside the box, gals! Suggest some more things that maybe I’m having a brain fart on right now!! Please? I’m usually pretty good about seeing the silver lining in/on things, but I fail at this one ๐Ÿ™

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@smiley3: Maybe. But I’m stressing about waiting, (even while doing Mr. Bee’s plan) so it would be (for me, anyway) just trading one stress for another. Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer, lol! Plus, I’ve done so much pre-planning research, I feel like it wouldn’t be that much stress. *shrugs??*

ETA: We’ve discussed it before, and both agree that we’ll want a small, family only wedding. Total, we’re looking at about 30-35 ppl, max, and no real wedding party, just a best man, and a man of honor. So, not much stress, I hope ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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442 posts
Helper bee

@smiley3: Nice idea for a thread!

First off, as much as I can go up and down in the waiting process… I enjoy the anticipation in a way. It’s torture, but in the end, it’s a good kind of torture. This is the only time we’ll be just ‘boyfriend/girlfriend’, and I’m trying to cherish that.

I also really like that when we DO get engaged, it will be our time… as in, we’re the last couple of our friends to take that step. So we can take our time planning and not think about who else’s wedding we have to go to/be in, or plan around. And I don’t mean that in a selfish way, I just think it will make planning easier. Plus all my best friends have already gotten married so they can help me plan!

I like my last name. I have bittersweet feelings about taking his… I love his but it will definitely be an adjustment. I actually get compliments on the sound of my first name + last name together haha. It’s pretty entertaining.

I have more things I love, just have to think of them.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are now engaged, but here are the things I’ll miss once I’m married….

1) My last name. (his name is lovely, but the type that jr. High school kids will definitely find ways to make fun of…I teach gr. 7,8 and 9). I’m also pretty attached to my last name, and it kind of makes me sick thinking about giving it up, but I really want to have the same last name as my kids.

2) I loooove spending money. A little too much! He gets on my case sometimes as it is when I get my nails done or buy a new outfit…which he will be able to do a lot more when we combine everything together

3) The thrill of planning a wedding, and thinking about those really special days to come. I guess the next step will be planning for children though, which will be just as exciting!

Post # 13
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We dated for three years before getting engaged, and I enjoyed developing our relationship and getting to know each other really well. I am glad we had that time to work things out so that when he slipped the ring on my finger, we both could enter the next phase of our lives with no doubts.

Post # 15
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

when we were just dating, my schedule was my own. I could go do what I wanted when I wanted, not having to take into account someone else. . .also my apartment was spotloss. We

Now? Not so much. i love him, but god is he a slob

Oh, and we went on more dates when we were just dating. Now I guess he doesn’t feel like he has to make that much effort haha.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@smiley3: Strike out again, lmao! I’ve always disliked my last name, it’s difficult to pronounce, and no one can ever get it spelled correctly. So, yeah, I’ll be taking his name. Man, I suck at finding the good in not being engaged/married yet! Thanks for trying to help me find something, though ๐Ÿ™‚

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