Post # 1
I have never been a bridesmaid but I want to make sure my bridesmaids feel very appreciated throughout the whole planning process and wedding. For those who have been bridesmaids what did the bride do to make you feel appreciated or on the contrary what did they not do?
Post # 3
I just liked it when the bride reinforced how appreciative she was, and how she is keeping costs in mind.
After dress shopping I personally thanked each girl for taking time out of their day to accompany me.
A great gift, something thoughtful…my Maid/Matron of Honor is doing such a phenomenal job that after the wedding I will take her for a spa day…she deserves it!
Post # 4
I enjoyed the way she kept us in the loop, asked us if we wanted to participate in DIY’s, but made sure we knew that our lives were taken into consideration and any time we weren’t able to attend something, it was no problem for her.
Post # 5
I think making them feel involved in the process is important. These girls are your best friends and are likely really excited for your wedding. Sometimes I think brides feel like reaching out or asking opinions is a burden, but really I think it makes a bridal party feel involved in your day and like they are playing a bigger role than just wearing the dress you ask them to and walking down the aisle. There is a line of course, offering but not demanding is key. Let them decide how much they can or want to help with little things. Little tokens of appreciation throughout the process are nice. Like after a DIY activity take them out to dinner or order pizza for everyone. Also being considerate of costs is always appreciated!
Post # 6
I think not turning into a slave driver and being super appreciative is the best. While going through the process, make sure to remember that these girls are your friends first and bridesmaids second and that your shower/bachelorette are gifts from them (if they throw them).
Post # 7
As a Bridesmaid or Best Man before and as a Bride having BMs, I think the most important things are:
1. keeping costs in mind and letting them know you care they are spending that much (if prices are high) One bride just gave us the address to buy a $200 dress, gave us the accessories and told us how much they are yada yada…seemed like she realy didn’t care.
2. Its your wedding and final choice, but involve them!
3. During the wedding day make them feel involved…I swear one bride just had us for pictures, didn’t feel connected at all!
4. If you are not paying for gowns etc, get them nice gift. We’re getting gorgeous frames and giving them professional pictures in it =)
Post # 8
Honestly, I have only been a bridesmaid once and just being asked to be a part of her special day meant a lot to me. We paid for our own dresses, shoes, manicures, pedicures, and hair (even though it was required) and I never thought twice about it or would have even allowed her to pay for anything if she offered. She didn’t give us a gift for throwing her shower and the gifts she gave us at the rehearsal dinner was our jewlery to be worn the next day and one special item per girl (my item was an ingraved compact mirror). My point is that she didn’t go above and beyond with buying us things or treating us to stuff and I never thought she should have. I was honored to be there with her throughout the planning and on the day off. I never even knew that there were brides out there that picked up the tab and gave gifts excessively until this site. Long story short, it’s all about including your ladies and letting them know how much they mean to you, anything more than that is just an added bonus 🙂