Post # 1
I’m hoping that there are some savvy ladies and/or gents here that can help a neophyte out! I’m trying to figure out what aspects of wedding planning are okay to neogtiate or even counter offer on. Looking through previous boards it seems that most of the questions center around photographers and dresses specifically but if there’s anyone whose had experience with discounts in other areas I would greatly appreciate knowing!
Items I feel as though could be neogiated on (but clearly I’m pretty clueless):
– Catering [3/5 of our potential venues have exclusive partnerships so food is getting very pricey – anyone been able to successfully get a discount in this type of situation?]
– Alcohol [wedding is in MA so there might be liquor law issues?]
– Band [really a toss up here – seems like it could be borderline inappropriate to ask a band to take less money]
I do understand that a lot of what makes bargaining a positive and fruitful process is how the message/ask is delivered. I have enough smarts to know one should be polite and friendly when requesting a discount but have others found this is best done in person? via phone? email? gift basket [half kidding]?
For what it’s worth I have a feeling that some things are just going to be out of budget and therefore question but, for things on the fence, any helpful advice on how to “push” it on the more affordable side are worth their weight in gold to me right now!
Post # 2
I’m DIY-ing flowers since it was the most cost-effective option for me, but one of my bridesmaids told me that she presented her vision to several florists for her own wedding, told them I’m willing to spend $XX amount of money…what can you do for me.
A couple managed to work with her (by finding less-expensive flowers or easier arrangements, etc.) and she got what she wanted for less than she thought possible.
For me, personally, the only part I “negotiated” was the guy’s suits. We realized that it was going to be about the same cost to buy as to rent, so we went to the suit shop and asked what kind of discount we could get if we bought 10 suits. (The answer: nearly 25%!…regularly priced @140, we got them for 109 each)
Post # 3
Thank you for the reponse! The groom/groomsmen attire never occurred to me! That’s a great one especially beacuse I feel like men’s suits are constantly on sale and in the “buy 1 get 3 free” category so I will definitely work some money magic there.
For your flowers- did you take a class or research it online? I’ve often thought about doing that but I know more about outer space (which still isn’t much) than I do making floral arrangements and would probably end up with more “bouquet confetti” looking creations.
Post # 4
Lots of online research so far and an army of volunteers to help the week of the wedding. We ended up ordering from Sam’s Club (it was the best price for what we wanted), but we did a lot of research on other wholesale flower websites (bloomsbythebox, fiftyflowers, etc.) and other wedding planning sites (apracticalwedding has some tips/articles and you can sometimes find some good posts here, too!) to do the planning of what we need and what to do with them once they arrive.
One of the biggest reasons people say NOT to DIY the flowers is that it is so time consuming, but when I mentioned to some family that this was the plan, I ended up with more volunteers than I’m going to know what to do with helping out (I actually joked the other night that so many guests are going to be arranging flowers that there will be no unbiased guests left to judge if they don’t look perfect!)
Wedding is a week from Saturday, so I’ve go no pics or personal tips yet, but I’m really hoping that I’ll be able to take pics along the way and make a killer step-by-step post showing the process from start to finish here!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2015 - North NJ
I’ve negotiated on everything thus far!
Easiest was the venue. When I came in for a tour, they told me $160 a person + 27% tax and service. I legit laughed and said no way. I told her we couldn’t even come close to that. We ended up getting $50 off per person so it is $110. They sorta suggested the price first!
Photographer had a price on his website. I emailed him and told him I love his work but only can pay $X ($1500 less than his posted price) and I kid you not, he agreed.
Tried a similar tactic with the DJ but it only got me $200 off
I negotiated also with the hotel block. This doesn’t help me but it helps my guests! I called a few local hotels and sorta pitted them against each other (well the Hilton gave me this, can you beat it?) Ended up getting $120 less off each room for my guests
Post # 6
Amazing! It really is so overwhelming (in the good way) to see how many friends and family members want to help out and be apart of the planning! Best wishes for your nuptials next weekend!! And yes! If you have the time/energy to make that DIY step-by-step post I will probably end up glued to it! haha Thank you agian for all the help!
Wow! That is equal parts awesome and incredible. Thank you for this information- very, very helpful! My family and I are touring four venues this weekend and I’m defiinitely going to negotiate on their prices now!
Post # 7
Depending on which venue you choose in Mass you might be able to BYOB and negotiate a bulk deal from a liquor store. We were going that route and then the caterer wanted to supply the alcohol themselves so we were able to negotiate by showing them what we were quoted from the liquor store (which intentionally planned to over-sell us and then let us return what wasn’t opened). The caterer took the low end of liquor store quote, divided it into a per-head cost based on our estimated guest count, and then guaranteed we wouldn’t run out (and we didn’t until about 15 minutes to the end). It saved us at least $1-2k.
Also if you are anywhere close to Cambridge go to Keezers instead of Men’s Warehouse – the tux rentals are fantastic and WAY WAY cheaper!
Post # 8
Great idea- I haven’t locked down a venue yet but most of them have partnered caterers so that’s an option I’m definitely going to investigate!
Also that suit/tux recommendation is probably going to be worth its weight in gold. Will be checking them out for sure.