Post # 1
I am struggling with everything from finding an age appropriate/body type flattering, affordable dress to explaining to my parents that although I have been married before (military wedding with 2 friends attending 16 years ago that cost $302.00 grand total) this is in fact my first real wedding, and yes I want something a bit more than a court house ceremony.
We have a combined family of 4 kids and of coarse cost and budget are important. I have a huge family as well. We are planning a Nov 14th fall wedding on the Suwannee River ( my parents front yard overlooks the water and is beautiful).
I do not want a huge wedding with a strapless princess dress ( which would have been great when i was a size 2 and 21). But 3 kids later just seems like I am pretending to be younger than I am. Anyone out there have any suggestions regarding simple, elegant gown and wedding ideas?
Post # 3
akh – welcome to the hive and congrats! You have to check out the Encore Board! This would be the place to get all that type of information. It sounds like you are totally excited about your wedding, and though it may be your second marriage — it doesn’t sound like you had much of a wedding before! There is so much great information on Weddingbee … there are a lot of people on here who have children and they’re trying to figure out how to include them in the ceremony. Miss Crab Cake has a daughter – Mini CC as she’s called, and she seems to be including her in a lot of things. You should use the search function (upper right hand corner above the advertisements) for more specific questions or you can click on a specific board – Dress for example, to get some opinions on potential dresses.
Post # 4
Try looking at white dresses that aren’t specifically for weddings.
I’d check out JCrew. Their full-on wedding gowns are still simple and elegant and they have some fabulous cocktail dress options (hello rewearable!). Plus lots of options are easier on the budget than typical wedding dresses – especially in the sale section!
Also take a look online at department stores like nordstroms or eveningwear stores like BCBG.
Just my personal style, I like regular evening dresses better than wedding dresses not only for the style but also for price, quality, and rewearability.
Post # 5
I second looking at J Crew.
Post # 6
If you still want a real "wedding" dress, you should definitely also go to a few bridal salons. Many designers are making dresses meant for second weddings (often this means colored, but overall the number of silhouettes out there for all kinds of tastes and body types will astound you). Probably it’s a good idea to talk to someone at the salon when you’re setting up your appointment to make sure they have what you’re looking for, but I think you could certainly find something both bridal and age-appropriate. I ended up with a much more traditional dress (though still a little bit unusual), but I was very much steering away from super traditional poofy dresses as well. It turns out that many of the dresses I liked were designed as second wedding dresses (I’m not sure why that’s *such* a different category but whatever).
Post # 7
I would look at Vera Wang. Her gowns have regal, clean lines without a lot of frouf. They are expensive, but there are lots of second-hand Vera gowns for sale online.
Post # 8
I am of the thought that it truly does not matter if you have been married before, it’s STILL your wedding and you deserve to look and feel like a bride. I’m not a very princess poof type of a gal myself. There are TONS of options out there but I would try going to a salon just to figure out what style is going to look best on you . Try things you think you’d never like , you may be surprised ( I know I was!). Good Luck.
Post # 9
Hey ain’t nothing wrong with a bride in her late 30’s!!!!
Welcome to the encore board! We’ve got alot of good ideas here too.
Btw, I’m in my late 30’s and wearing whatever in the heck I darn well want to and having the wedding of my dreams, as we wish to! There’s no right, no wrong. I think a dress that flatters your curves just right and looks great with your skin tone is what to go with and also season appropriate.
Definitely check out a salon. Several. There are no rules as to what to wear this time. You are the same as any other bride! Happy, in love, and glowing.
Congratulations and again, welcome.
Post # 10
I loove the idea of doing something super chic- grown up and cool! I love it that you’re being married near your parents home.. that’s really special. For your dress- personally, I wouldn’t worry about it being white. Why? I think if a dress makes you feel spectacular who cares what color it is?
I’m drooling over these gowns:
this is very old school cool http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod80800009&parentId=cat9360739&masterId=cat9360734&index=10&cmCat=cat000000cat000001cat17740747cat000131cat9360734cat9360739
Even cooler: http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod79420063&parentId=cat9360739&masterId=cat9360734&index=3&cmCat=cat000000cat000001cat17740747cat000131cat9360734cat9360739
Another gorgeous dress:
Secondly, I would visit style me pretty for some place setting ideas. I saw this really cute table that used damask linens and the centerpiece was a white bowl with lemons. It was done beautifully! You do anything and it would be gorgeous.
You said you don’t want a really large wedding- I would set up a few intimate tables either outdoors under a tent or at a local restaurant and just decorate them beautifully. Rent a few linens, charger plates, glasses- and have a really nice meal. I love the idea of a small intimate wedding/reception. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money- it can look great and still be in your budget. Goodluck!
Post # 11
And I’d just like to add you’re only 36. Women become more beautiful as they age (regardless of how many children they have 🙂
Post # 12
I second looking at Jcrew — we also ( as you well know) have some super sweet, trendy encore brides ready to help — I love reading about their weddings and plans so I’m sure they’ll be a great resource!!
Congrats and GOOD LUCK!
Post # 13
I would say don’t limit yourself to "wedding" gowns but look at bridesmaid styles which will usually be significantly cheaper and can come in white or ivory depending on what you are looking for.
Post # 14
Do you watch Jon & Kate Plus 8? Kate bought a dress for her vow renewal in Hawaii from Kleinfield and looked beautiful!
I also agree that Nordstrom and J.Crew have beautiful wedding gowns for a wide range of ages, shapes and budgets!
Nordstrom wedding dresses: http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/6014155/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014155?mediumthumbnail=Y&P=1&viewAll=0&origin=styleCollectionPager_numbers&pbo=6014155
J. Crew wedding dresses: http://www.jcrew.com/AST/Browse/WeddingParties/womens/forthebride.jsp’ defer=’defer
Post # 15
Check out this beautiful wedding!
Invloving their kids and while the bride is beautiful, she’s not exactly just over the voting age. 😉
Its your wedding (and I mean as a couple) – so do it up the way you want.
Post # 16
You are younger than me, and I’m going all out… I don’t think there are hard and fast "It’s your second wedding so you should tone it down" rules anymore. It’s all about you and your personal style. Do what feels right to you, not others! A little leg (and pixel) work, and you’ll find just the right dress!