(Closed) Appropriate to say to my FI – from another girl?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it is beyond tacky to say.  I would be pissed if someone said this to my Fiance, even if it was someone I liked.

Post # 4
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it depends on how she used that phrase.  About 5 years ago or so I feel like everyone was using virgin and de-virgin as slang.  For example, “I am a SYTTD virgin.” I would assume that she is just saying that she is thankful that she went to that theater and the first time she went happened to be with your Fiance.  If you think it really was inappropriate, or this girl uses inappropriate sayings around your Fiance, I would talk to him about it. 

Post # 5
1267 posts
Bumble bee


I’m one of those ‘go with the flow’ type of girls.  Don’t care if my guy looks at other girls (I look, too) don’t care about gogo clubs, I play just as many video games as him…you know, ‘one of they guys’, type of girls.

Now, that being said, I would either:

1. Ask my guy to take it down since its a bit disrespectful if it means what it alludes to

2. Comment under that comment….Eeewwww…Too Much Information anyone? or something like that.

Thinking about it now, I’d probably do the second because I could always laugh it off if he thought it was bitchy, lol

Post # 6
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Poor choice of words, imo.  A better resonse would’ve been “I love that theatre!  Thanks for introducing me to it!”

Sounds like this girl is not very sophisticated.  Or, she could be like one of my friends who still has, at 30 yo, a penchant for being trashy with her vernacular.

Post # 7
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s a weird thing to say in general and inappropriate in this situation since your Fiance was clearly on a date with YOU according to the status. I would honestly just ignore it, you two can delete the comment to send her a message if you want.

Post # 8
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think she phrased herself badly and likely didn’t mean any offense by it. I would just blow it off. It seems clear to me what she was trying to say and that it just came out funny. 

Post # 9
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Even if “Jenna” did mean anything by the comment (which I think is doubtful) then her intention is was to piss you off.  Don’t let her. You are obviously much better than her, and you “got the guy.”  If anything, I would pity her that she has to drag up lame memories of a time when she basically filled in as a “well, I have no one better to go with, so I will go with you” theater date.

Post # 10
769 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

It was sort of an awkward/inappropriate thing to say, but I’d probably just laugh it off.  Strange, yes.  But not really a big deal.

Post # 11
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010


@moderndaisy: agreed, I would leave it up though. Cause honestly it makes her look like an idiot lol

Post # 12
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

She meant “devirginizing” as in, he introduced her to that theatre right? I don’t think it’s a big deal.

That said, you shouldn’t do those “where we are” updates, I’ve read a lot of places have been getting burglarized because of it.

Post # 13
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Not to stir the pot, but I think she was trying to be slightly inappropriate. Most of the girls I know don’t say things like that by accident– it’s on purpose. Especially with the little smiley face.

But would I say anything about it? No. I assume your FH is aware that you don’t like this girl, so I don’t think it warrants a reaction.

Post # 14
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

“Um, that was weird” in response to her comment should do the trick. Shame is a great teacher of appropriate behavior. 😉

Post # 15
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Ya a little off, but don’t let it get to you. Girls will be Girls. Be the bigger person. As long as you trust you man your fine.


Post # 16
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I like spaniel’s response! Or saying “Um, awkward!”

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