Post # 1
I am currently working on my save the dates and because I tend to be very unformal, I wanted to ask the hive what is the appropriate way to go about addressing them.
I would normally write something like this:
Melanee Smith + Guest
although I know the correct way is:
Ms. Melanee Smith + Guest
What about for married couples, ones that share a last name and ones that have different last names???
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - The 19th Century Club
I’d say be as formal or informal as you like, especially for STD’s! After I did all of mind Save-The-Date Cards as Ms. Jane Doe & Guest, I realized that I probably didn’t need to include the & Guest on there…I think that can totally wait until the more formal invitation if you want.
For couples, you could totally to Jane & John Doe or Jane Smith & John Doe, depending on their situation…I don’t think you have to do the Ms./Mr./Mrs. if you want to be more casual about it.
But that’s just me…I may not be the master of etiquette! 😉
Post # 4
I think it depends on how formal you want to be and how well you know the people to whom you’re addressing the envelopes. With our friends, I went a little less formal and with folks I didn’t know well (aka my husband’s parents friends) I used the most formal form of address. We didn’t do Save-The-Date Cards, but for our invitations, we did use titles. If you’re going with the most formal way of doing things, then married couples would be ‘Mr. and Mrs. John Smith", if they have the same last name. However, I felt weird about doing this for some of my friends, so we did "Mr. and Mrs. John and Mary Smith" or "Mr. John Smith and Ms. Mary Jones". Personally, I don’t like being referred to without my first name (aka as Mrs. My Husband’s Name), but that’s just how I feel.
All and all, I think you should do whatever you think your guests will feel most comfortable with. I doubt people will be offended/bothered if they get their STD addressed without titles.