(Closed) Appropriate wedding clothing… Argh!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes, it’s worth a try

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can your Fiance approach the topic with him?  It might be better coming from family. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Nellop:  Haha that sounds like one of my uncles!  I think it’s okay to ask him to not wear a shirt that has something inappropriate on it.  Hell, one of my uncles wore jeans and a wolf tee shirt!  I never would have asked him to wear a suit, it’s just not him.  I think you are being more than reasonable =)

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Nellop:  I really wouldn’t even press this issue, he’s going to wear what he wants, obviously, and if your try to take a stand, it’s could potentially turn into some Hatfield/McCoy feud where someone’s right to dress like a no class dumpter person is being infringed upon and they stage a totally tasteless t-shirt protest at your wedding…I’m sure it won’t get to that point, but you never know…people are crazy.

He’s the one that is going to look bad, his clothing shows a lack of respect for the occasion, the people around him and his family in general, and if he thinks wearing a suit is uncomfortable, that is NOTHING compared to the sideways glances, subtle gestures in his direction and raised eyebrows he gets at the wedding…..trust me, he can act like he doesn’t care, I assure you he will and however he handles it, if he does manage to get himself into any of the pictures, although I know most photographers would “ghost” such an unappealing looking guest from shots at all costs, he will wince inwardly every time he looks at those pictures and how badly he looks.

In these casual times, I find it MORE important to put your best foot forward when the event calls for it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I’d buy him a plain shirt and say he can wear it or not come.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He’s only going to make himself look badly, not you.  Depending on his personality, he may even find a more ripped t-shirt if you ask him to dress up.  Unless his shirt has a confederate flag or a swastika or a racial slur, I don’t think it will really offend anyone.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

how about your Fiance gets him a really cool tshirt with a drawing that is not offensive to anyone there? he can give it to him as a gift

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