April 2019 TTC – After Loss (cp, bo, mc, mmc, stillbirth and nonelected abortion

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Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

hhey is this who I think it is!? Haha

 

Age/Age of Partner:I’m 29, Darling Husband is 34

Loss Status:MMC at 10 weeks, baby had died just a few days before our first midwife appointment and ultrasound

Medical Reason (if any):none that we know of

Trying for Baby#: 2

Cycles Trying:this will be the first one after the MC. We waited one cycle after the D&C to let my body heal and get back to normal, and to give us some time mentally

CD/DPO:CD 7

What Are You Doing Differently:not really doing anything differently, it took us 19 cycles to conceive my son and only 2 cycles to conceive our last baby so idk what’s going to happen. We’re just going to go off CM and ovulation pains like last time

Chart:not charting yet, but If it takes a couple months then I will

Please share anything about your angels. Names, special commemoration, pictures, 

we named our baby claire, since I was certain it was a girl, and Darling Husband and I both were thinking the same name separately. It was eerie when we told each other and realized we both knew. It was a very special moment. ❤️ I have a ring in the shape of an unopened rose bud, to symbolize the baby that never fully bloomed 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

Age/Age of Partner: 34/34

Loss Status: One MMC in Jan 2019 at 8 weeks, D&C

Medical Reason (if any): unknown 

Trying for Baby#:1

Cycles Trying:2nd since MC about 8 NTNP before that 

CD/DPO: CD 16, might have ovulated within the past couple of days 

What Are You Doing Differently: OPKs, oral thermometer, checking CM, Ava, Tempdrop, might try SMEP next

Chart: I am experimenting with putting my Ava temps into FF and also charting with oral temps and Tempdrop in different charts so I have about 3 charts now and no idea which is most accurate 🙂

Please share anything about your angels. Names, special commemoration, pictures, ect:

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I roll call in the infertility thread because I don’t ovulate on my own anymore, but if it’s ok, I’ll roll call here too.

Age/Age of Partner: 34/35

Loss Status: miscarriage at 9 weeks in December 2002 unknown causes, late miscarriage at 16 weeks in September of 2018

Medical Reason (if any): cord accident

Trying for Baby#: 6, 3 living children

Cycles Trying: 7

CD/DPO: cd7

What Are You Doing Differently: This month is our first month with the fertility specialist. I got all the blood drawn for testing on Monday and this morning I go for my baseline sonogram. I don’t know that we’re going to be able to try this month because I can’t take clomid so they can get the tests done. Next month we’re going to try clomid or femara with a monitored cycle and possible trigger shot. They’re not sure yet, but they think I have pcos caused by the stress of my job/work schedule.

My exhusband didn’t care much about our miscarriage, so he let me do whatever I wanted. I named her Abigail and she is buried in the cemetary with my great-grandparents. My third child was conceived 8 months later, so I remind myself that while I’m sad to have had a miscarriage, I wouldn’t have Kelsey if I hadn’t. That makes it a little easier.

My husband and I went to our 16 week appointment and the doctor couldn’t find a heartbeat with the doppler. We went in for a sonogram. I’ll never forget, I said, nothing is moving! She said, no, I’m so sorry. He was born at the hospital the next Tuesday. We discovered that his cord had been wrapped around his neck. His name is Lucas and he was cremated. We bought a beautiful engraved heart shaped box for his ashes. I’ve bought so many memorial things, I think because I’m afraid I’ll forget. We have a sweet Christmas ornament with angel wings and his name engraved. I bought a lot of breastmilk jewelry that I’m still waiting on. I have a bracelet with angel wings. One of the moms in my breastfeeding group made me some placenta art. An old baby-sitter made me a crocheted preemie octopus. There are probably other things I’m forgetting. I’d like a tattoo, but keep thinking not yet because I’ll be pregnant soon, and then another month goes by and I’m not pregnant.

Sorry for the book. I don’t have a lot of people to talk to about him.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

angel_baby_12_9 :  it’s defjnitely okay! I thought about roll calling there too but I don’t know if I have an issue conceiving or not. It’s kind of a weird limbo to be in. But a loss definitely makes it all different, even to the infertility boards. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

So it’s my fertile week, and a ton of emotions are coming up. I am reallt hoping we get pregnant, but im also so scared! I don’t want to go through a loss again, and I don’t want to be a nervous wreck and not enjoy my pregnancy. I’m trying to relax but there’s so many emotions that I thought I was done with, that have resurfaced 😓 how is everyone else doing? 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

angel_baby_12_9 :  you will never forget. Lucas was loved even for the short time he was with you and he was a gift 💗 I firmly believe that all our unborn children surround us and are waiting on the other side. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Equine_Breeder :  Have you been to talk to anyone? My husband wants me to, but I’ve put it off because I don’t think it will be helpful. Anything short of the counselor saying “Just kidding! The last 7 months have been a nightmare!” and handing me my baby, I just don’t think it will do any good. If I manage to get pregnant again though, I think I’ll have to go talk to someone. I think trying to talk to my husband about how scared I am over and over again will just hurt him.

lifeisbeeutiful :  Thank you! I’m dealing with so many feelings right now. My cousin had a baby who is just a week younger than Lucas should have been. Family Easter was really difficult today.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

angel_baby_12_9 :  no I haven’t gone to see anyone. I thought about it,  but like you said idk how much it would help me. I had a follow up appointment with my midwife a few weeks afterward, and she let me ask a huge list of questions and we talked for over an hour. It did help me, but mostly because I got answers to a lot of the medical questions that had been bothering me. I’ve reached out to friends who’ve had miscarriages, and my June moms group has been so supportive. So I have been talking to people. But it seems like no one can say anything that’s good enough to make me feel better. Idk what exactly anyone could tell me. So far I’ve found its best to talk to someone that’s been through it. Because otherwise I feel like you don’t really understand what someone is going through. I always knew miscarriages were sad, and that you lost a baby. But I never knew how deep you go, how much physical torture it is. It’s hard to describe to someone. 

 

Family gstherings are definitely tough now. My best friends sister found out she was pregnant the same week I did, and so spending time with their family while they’re all excited about the new baby is tough. Because that should be me too. 

 

But! I am still really excited to TTC again. It feels like a fresh start. I’ve been watching some TTC videos on YouTube and it makes me happy, vs making me sad. It’s just very confusing to feel both sets of emotions st the same time. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Hey ladies I’m excited for this page !!!!

 

ROLL CALL

Age/Age of Partner: 32/31

Loss Status: 5 early miscarriages just shy of 5 weeks hcg highest was 500

Medical Reason (if any): I have just done all the testing ultrasounds sono all is good thank god but suspecting thin lining based on measurements and perhaps why I implant but cannot progress 

Trying for Baby#:1 

Cycles Trying: 9

CD/DPO: cycle day 1 today 

What Are You Doing Differently: trying to improve lining with maca root, aspirin, femoral massage 

 

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Kristen2711 :  hey I’m taking Maca root too! I’ve heard it can give amazing results, but has a higher percentage of twins 😳 yikes! Lol! 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Just popping in to send everyone sticky rainbow vibes! <3

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I was apart of the previous TTC after miscarriage group. GL and baby dust to all. 

Kristen2711 :  I started baby aspirin after my two losses. Doesn’t hurt to try!

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