Post # 1
Hi Bees! My SO and I are not engaged yet, but are going to be very soon. He told me to show him what I want for an engagement ring, and we have already tried some on, but after lurking on the gemstone boards for a while, I cannot decide whether I want an aquamarine for the center stone, or a diamond. My great grandmother (rest her soul) left me some beautiful oval cut aquamarines, which is exactly the shape I want, so we would be using one of those if I choose an aqua, but I keep going back and forth. Help!
Setting I would like
Another setting picture
We would be using this center aqua
And with the diamond side, it would be the same thing except for with a diamond.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
I vote diamond….only because that heirloom peice is too gorgeous to start removing stones!
Post # 3
I have an aquamarine (not heirloom), and I adore it. It changes colors in different lights, it’s sparkly, and it’s my love’s birthstone.
The heirloom piece is gorgeous, but would you wear it? Or does it just sit? That’s my thing…if I had an heirloom piece that I never wore because it wasn’t my style, I’d want to have it set as something I LOVE and would wear everyday. And it would take on another important meaning when it comes from the love of your life as a pledge to be together forever 😊 but that’s just my two cents!
Oh, and here’s my aquamarine slice of heaven.
Post # 4
I’d also get a diamond e-ring and enjoy the aquamarine heirlooms intact and alongside. They’re gorgeous! Just my $0.02.
Post # 5
A diamond that size would be pretty pricey. Have you priced it out to what he can afford? The aquamarine is gorgeous too. Either way would be beautiful
Post # 6
I’d get a diamond and use the aquamarine for a right hand ring or necklace or keep it set in the bracelet. A diamond of comparable size to the aquamarine you have would be super expensive.
Post # 7
I definitely vote aquamarine. it will look gorgeous and the halo will enhance it rather than taking away as they often do with diamonds (IMO). Admittedly I do have a three stone engagement ring with an aqua center, so maybe slightly biased. I do agree with the poster above who pointed out that if you will always keep grandma’s heirloom in a box and never wear it, then you may as well make use of it. Alternatively a large aquamarine isn’t going to cost as much as a diamond if you went new, so either way it’s a win.
Post # 8
I’d get a diamond, aquamarine rings — those worn every day anyway — can get pretty scratched up. If you get an aqua, know that you are going to have to baby it.
Post # 9
I would vote for a white stone (not necessarily a diamond). My reason for that is that despite how beautiful aquamarines are, they might not match with every colour you will wear for the rest of your life. As well as that, aquamarine are more delicate than diamonds, moisanites or white sapphires, so if you plan wearing your engagement ring every day, could become an issue.
I think your aquamarine is gorgeous!!! I woul keep it as it is and wear it whenever you are in the mood!!
Post # 10
I vote diamond solely because its durability suits everyday wear. My understanding is that aquamarine is not as hard and therefore easier to scratch/chip. I’m a klutz with an active lifestyle and I rarely take off my engagement ring, so that’s where I’m coming from.
That said, the aquamarine is seriously gorgeous. This is a pretty great dilemma to have, in my opinion!
Post # 11
It depends on how sentimental you are about the stone. Personally, I love aquamarine, but it is unlikely to last a lifetime of wear without sustaining a number of visible scratches. You can either live with them; pay to have them polished out; or replace the centre stone.
My rhr is my grandmothers’s, then mother’s sapphire and diamond engagement ring. A couple of years ago I paid £200+ to have scratches polished out of the sapphire (they warned me that one flaw would not be removed without recutting). I have a horrible feeling that I have scratched it badly in the past few days when I smacked it against the top of the car door. I need to check by cleaning it with a brush then running it through the ultrasound cleaner, but I keep putting it off because I don’t want the scratch to be confirmed! Sapphire is a lot harder than aquamarine.
It’s your call whether that would really bother you in an engagement ring or not. My stress may be compounded by the fact that it is an heirloom, I might be less bothered if it was a new ring – I don’t know. I do know that I love the simple setting of my solitaire becuase I don’t have to worry about pave diamonds popping out!
Post # 12
Diamond. The aqua wll get ruined and that would be such a shame. You will be able to wear the diamond with my less care and worry.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t even dream of dismantling that gorgeous heirloom piece. I vote diamond.
Post # 14
if the aquamarine were a sapphire, id tell you aquamarine (sapphire) in a heartbeat. but as gorgeous as aquamarines are, they don’t make good stones for everyday wear. They’re relatively soft, and can scratch (and dull) very easily. Typically, this isn’t a huge deal as they’re also pretty inexpensive, so it’s not a big deal to replace it in 10ish years. but since this is an heirloom stone with sentimental value, it seems like you’d be less inclined to treat it as diaposably/replaceably. I think you either keep – and wear – the heirloom piece as-is, or if you won’t wear it, then reuse it in jewelers that’s less subject to hard wear and tear.
That said, I’m not a fan of diamonds. They’re pretty, but I also think a bit boring. I have a blue sapphire, so Ime not exactly objective, but I say go for a colored stone! And to one of he previo posters that mentioned it not matching some outfits – that’s a load of bologna. Blue is a neutral – i think of my ring as a pair of dark denim skinny jeans, it goes with anythring!
Post # 15
It unfortunately just sits, because I have no where to wear it. And your ring is absolutely beautiful!